tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-68678689065245611112024-03-05T18:20:29.405+11:00Fairfield Uniting Church (NSW)A Church in Crisis.R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-82899271285991099992016-12-01T22:09:00.000+11:002017-06-24T17:55:26.294+10:00Crash & Burn…..<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
20<sup>th</sup>
October 2016.</div>
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Time, and,
a recent phone call and several chance encounters experienced with
individuals <i>associated</i> with Fairfield Uniting Church, coupled
with an appalling lack of judgment shown by Presbytery has made
something* very clear and brought me, finally, to this point. *As
said by the person in the phone call made to me, 'nothing changes'.
It was in reference to the failure of Fairfield Uniting Church, and
by association the wider Uniting Church in Australia/Presbytery, to
grapple with and adequately address the events (people issues)
which have hurt so many people and brought into question the
Integrity of the local and wider Church.
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Whilst
<i>changes</i> to the <i>management structure</i> has occurred (at
Fairfield Uniting Church), there remains no indication the <i>new</i>
leadership is prepared to make amends for their hurt, their
intimidation, for the assaults and <i>expulsions</i>: for the sins
which enveloped and stalk Fairfield Uniting Church. (People) issues are of greater importance than management; issues which formed the
underlying reasons for this blog.</div>
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For
reasons embedded in my naive optimism, access to the blog has, for a
long time, been quite restricted; that has now changed. I have
removed those restrictions: its now open-to-all. It becomes a record
<span style="color: black;">which cannot be readily expunged</span>: a sad
record of just how far off-the-rails a CHRISTian community can fall
when it chooses to no longer follow the example and teachings of
CHRIST.</div>
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Crash &
Burn…..</div>
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Sunday 17
January 2016 was a landmark day; on that day an event unfolded which
exposed for all to see the type of community Fairfield Uniting Church
has become.</div>
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On that
Sunday, immediately after the morning service, at the commencement of
a Congregational meeting and in front of the assembled Congregation,
the NSW State Police, having been called - negligently using the
emergency 000 phone number (revealed by the Police) by Mr. Solifoni -
sent two Constables who then, doing Mr. Solifoni's and Mr. D. Tweed's
bidding, proceeded to order me to leave the meeting and the premises
of Fairfield Uniting Church.</div>
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Why, what
sin did I commit that was so grievous that the emergency 000 services
needed to be called to get the NSW State Police to removed me from
that place of worship. A question which remains to be truthfully
addressed and answered.</div>
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What
actually happened I can say: why, remains as speculation to some but
is known to the Solifonis, the Tweeds and, of course, God!</div>
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What
happened:</div>
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Having
just attended the morning service I along with the Congregation moved
into the hall to await the commencement of the Congregational
meeting. Whilst standing, on my own, to the left and just inside the
entrance to the hall I was approached from behind by Mrs. Solifoni.
Without warning, and with no provocation, Mrs. Solifoni rounded on me
and immediately began to (verbally) abuse me including ordering me to
leave. After a period of abuse Mrs. Solifoni picked-up my belongings
(which included my bible) and made to throw them out the door. I
managed to prevent that happening only to endure still more abuse;
then, surprisingly, Mrs. Solifoni took hold of me and tried to drag
me out the front door of the hall. I managed to pull away and
several of Mrs. Solifoni’s children stepped in and pulled her away;
one apologizing to me. A short time later I was approached, again
from behind, by Mr. Solifoni. Once again I was verbally abused and
once again I was ordered to leave.</div>
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It is
important to state here I responded minimally, to the actions of both
Mrs. or Mr. Solifoni, not wanting to escalate the abuse; however
silence and in-action did not help for it is, in hindsight, obvious
there was an agenda unfolding.</div>
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That I can
say with certainty for when Mr. Solifoni, having (literally)
exhausted himself verbally, made the statement he was going to call
the Police. When I shrugged in response to that statement he then
asked did that not worry me. I answered ‘no’, so he did.</div>
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Having
made the phone call Mr. Solifoni moved away from me, and as the
Congregational meeting had started, Chaired by Ms. M. Solifoni, he
took a seat. It is significant to note here, the actions of Mr. &
Mrs. Solifoni were witnessed by those of the Congregation in
eye-shot, the Chair of the meeting (Ms. M. Solifoni), who openly
commented on proceeding regardless of what was occurring to me. It
is also of note no members of the Congregation, no other Church
Councillor nor the Ministers in attendance sort to intervene,
prevent, defuse or stop what was occurring to me…..?</div>
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The Police
arrived and spoke to one of the Solifoni boys who then came into the
hall and spoke to Mr. Solifoni. He then left the hall and shortly
thereafter the Senior Constable approached me and asked me to step
outside. He then left me with his sidekick and talked with Mr.
Solifoni and Mr. D. Tweed. Now, I do know what Mr. Solifoni said on
the phone but I do not know, verbatim, what the Snr. Constable was
told by Mr. Solifoni and D. Tweed. However what was then conveyed to
me by the Snr. Constable clearly indicated he was not being told the
truth. The Snr. Constable said, as I was <i>not a member</i> I was
not entitled to be in the meeting and that I should leave. I
responded that I was a member and that I was entitled to be there; he
countered that was not what he was told and repeated his instruction.
I was very clear, to me, if further challenged the Constables they
had every intention to remove me! I left, went home, and recorded
the events in full.</div>
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Fairfield
Uniting Church had just falsely used the NSW Stated Emergency 000
number to enmesh the NSW State Police in a conspiratorial personal
vendetta for the sole purpose of preventing me from participating in
a (contentious) congregational meeting. Think!</div>
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I was not
the first person treated poorly treated by Fairfield Uniting leaders;
nor have I been the last. Fairfield Uniting Church challenged and
turned their backs on Christ that Sunday morning. Little more, if
anything, needs be said about their conduct and how their action
defined the type of community they have become: their actions speak
as evidence of how fare they have fallen as a community.</div>
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The
actions of Fairfield Uniting Church, their failure to confront the
wrongs, and the miss-steps of the wider Uniting Church/Presbytery to
adequately, and appropriately step up to the plate and, apply their
moral authority calls into question the Integrity of the Uniting
Church of Australia. That spectre will hang over the entire Uniting
Church Community until the wrongs of Fairfield Uniting Church are
rectified and reconciled.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-78369716497875599872016-12-01T22:06:00.001+11:002016-12-01T22:06:41.234+11:00Fairfield Uniting Church's Legacy.....<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
3 June 2015.</div>
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Fairfield Uniting
Church's Legacy.....</div>
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This will not be my
last post but it may be a significant one. When it is posted, as I
have indicated before, I will lift the restrictions which have
limited access and, from that point in time, the shenanigans which
characterises the dysfunctional (NSW) Fairfield Uniting Church will
be accessible to the public and will remain in perpetuity a record of
what happens when a CHRISTian community fails as the result of
finding itself led by people who profess too but do not live by nor
uphold CHRISTian values in leading and dealing with others.</div>
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To be described as
Sunday CHRIStians, (a rendition of which is often sung, as a family
choir, by several of the (self elected) Elders of the Fairfield
Congregation), would not be even close to accurate. The reason being
their behaviour, even on Sunday, in and at Church, is anything but a
reflection of values lived and taught by Christ Jesus and the
Scriptures.For some, attending a Fairfield Uniting Church was
anything but pleasant. On one occasion a person said “it’s like
a war”. Unjustified scorn, hate and abuse is directed towards
individuals for no other reason than those individuals have chosen to
stand for that which is right: for that which follows the teaching of
CHRIST; so why their persecution by the leadership and others? The
answer is simple and can be summarised thus; ‘when good people fail
to speak up, evil prevails’.</div>
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Attending a CHRISTian
church is/should be about serving, nurturing and supporting others in
a manner which closely follows the teachings of Jesus coupled with
the recognition he died to forgive our sins. If we accept his death
was for us, and that through his death we receive God's grace and
forgiveness, we are left with the OBLIGATION to do likewise, to
nurture and forgive others. This is not the case at Fairfield
Uniting Church under its current leadership. The Fairfield Uniting
congregation has buckled and fractured under the weight of selfish
<span style="color: #404040;">self-aggrandisement</span> and the intentions
of a few, to subjugate all who attend. ‘When good people fail to
speak up evil prevails’; and so it is at Fairfield Uniting, evil
prevails.</div>
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In saying what I do
and, writing what I do within this blog am I behaving as a CHRISTian?
Do I have the right to speak out? Do I have an obligation to speak
out? For many, Fairfield Uniting's progression has been more about
not wanting to “cause waves” or “to upset people”. For
others, just attending church, not adhering to or practising its
teachings is what counts. Is the pacifist route or the attendance
without adherence route, what is expected of us? Is it the path
Jesus trod? I don't (personally) believe it is and, I firmly believe
if Jesus was to walk into Fairfield Uniting (today), to say, he would
not be pleased would be an understatement of mammoth proportions.
<i>Have we, at Fairfield Uniting Church, prepared ourselves well for
our final judgement? How do we think we will be judged; as spiritual
leaders, as a congregation and as individuals</i>? I started this
paragraph with questions relating to me let's address those first;</div>
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<i>- Is what I am
doing/writing in this blog Christian behaviour</i>? There are those
who may say, no it is not: if what I have said is un-true and or
without substance then I would have to agree. However, as is
evidenced in a number of ways, what I have said is a truthful
reflection of reality and therefore, I believe, as other more
suitable avenues failed, the blog has been necessary to reveal and
record the truth.</div>
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- <i>Do I have a right
to speak out? Do I have an obligation to speak out?</i> I have been
told by the (some) leaders of Fairfield Uniting Church I do not have
the right to voice an opposing opinion nor challenge any decisions
made by leaders. Indeed, they believe, and have told me to my face,
I not only have no right to speak out but that I have no rights at
all! An interesting stance to take when you are talking to a person
(me) who has worshipped within the church for in excess of sixty
years.</div>
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In truth, I consider, I
have not only the right to speak out; more importantly, I have an
obligation to challenge and speak up and out whenever the teachings
and or rules of our Church are being ignored or violated.
Furthermore, it matters not if it’s a leader, member or member in
association who is being challenged; <i><b>every person, within our
Uniting Church is equal and, equally accountable; </b></i>supposedly.</div>
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By way of self
assessment/reflection: and again, before we attempt to answer the
question, (“<i>Have we, at Fairfield Uniting Church, prepared
ourselves well for our final judgement? How do we think we will be
judged; as spiritual leaders, as a congregation and as
individuals?</i>”), let's look at the how one individual member has
been treated by Fairfield Uniting's leaders, Ministers and those who
comprise the Presbytery of Parramatta Nepean.</div>
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That person is Judith,
my wife. Falsely accused of
wrong doing by the entire Church Council and with no explanation
stripped of her voluntary roles: then, one Sunday after church was
deliberately verbally abused and physically intimidated to such a
degree Judith has never returned to worship. Judith was <b>forced
out*</b> of the Fairfield Uniting Church Congregation, by the actions
of the leaders of Fairfield Uniting Church and the failure of others
to intervene.</div>
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As bad as what happened
to Judith seems, it is what follows, or has not followed which
amplifies the wrong and clearly calls into question Fairfield Uniting
Church's, (and the wider Uniting Church through Presbytery),
commitment for doing the Lord's work. Nothing followed: absolutely
nothing, by anybody; Judith was and has been abandoned**!</div>
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If you (the reader) are
a committed CHRISTian, and or a member of a CHRISTian community, you
would rightly assume leaders and Congregational members would rally
to support a member being wrongly treated. You would also expect
those same individuals to support and counsel the member(s) doing
wrong. However, a quick look at how Judith has been treated, before,
during and after that *life changing event, demonstrates how far
removed Fairfield Uniting Church is from being a (normal) CHRISTian
community. What is worse though is the fact, Judith's treatment lays
bear how far the wider Uniting Church in Australia has moved away
from being a caring, nurturing CHRISTian community.</div>
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**No Fairfield Uniting
Church Elder or Church Councillor has approached Judith to support,
assist, counsel or in any way show some level of compassion or
remorse – NONE! But it gets worse: Fairfield Uniting Church is
serviced by two part time Ministers, a Rev. Choi and Rev. Kava;
neither of those two ministers have approached Judith in any way,
they have simply ignored her, as has all those who comprise
Presbytery. Both the incumbent Chairman and Secretary of the
Parramatta Nepean Presbytery are fully aware of what happened to
Judith and neither have offered anything in the way of direct
contact/support, to this point in time – nine+ (9+) months later!</div>
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Now ask yourself this,
what could Judith possibly have done to be so roundly rejected by her
(local Uniting) Church community? I challenge you - the reader - to
ask each of those leaders and Ministers for an answer to that
question, per-chance you get one; you will be appalled by their
reply.</div>
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It is right to point
out here Judith is not the only person so treated; there are many
others who have been similarly repelled by the Elders and Church
Councillors of Fairfield Uniting Church and ignored by Presbytery.</div>
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What we have seen
played out within Fairfield Uniting Church, in its treatment of
children and adults alike, is every bit as sinful as that which we
are seeing reported daily in the news dealing with child abuse and
the persecution of CHRISTians overseas. Those disgusting things are
happening rights under our noses, in our Uniting Church in Australia
community, at Fairfield Uniting Church!</div>
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ALL other issues aside,
the treatment of Judith is a condemnation of CHRISTian
values/behaviour not the beacon of good it should be!</div>
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That is why the answers
to the questions, <i>Have we, at Fairfield Uniting Church, prepared
ourselves well for our final judgement and, how do you think we will
be judged; as spiritual leaders, as a congregation and as
individuals</i>?, can only be <i>no</i>, <i>we will be condemned</i>!</div>
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So what comes next,
more of the same or some immediate and sensible action?</div>
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The <i><u><b>INTEGRITY</b></u></i>
of the Uniting Church in Australia and Fairfield Uniting Church, as
CHRISTian communities, is at risk and firmly in hands of the current
leaders of the Fairfield Uniting Church (NSW) and the Parramatta
Nepean Presbytery.</div>
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Mr. & Mrs. D.
Tweed, Mr.,Mrs & Ms M. Solifoni, Mr. N. Lertsinpaksdee, Rev. Choi
and Rev. Kava, Dr. Thornley and Mr. J. Cutts, you each need to ask
why you have done what you have done to Judith; how does your
treatment of Judith (and others) demonstrate you, as individuals and
leaders, as members of the Uniting Church in Australia are following
in the footsteps of Jesus and doing the Lord's work?.....please feel
free to respond below in the comments or in person ;-)</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-57798788964128979642015-06-24T12:25:00.000+10:002015-06-24T13:32:57.779+10:00"No! There's not enough"<div style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
No! “there's not enough!”</div>
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Log entry for Fairfield Uniting Church
Sunday morning 21<sup>st</sup> June 2015. The disappointment and
disappointing actions continue. Just what is going on in these
peoples minds?
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The morning service printed Order of
Services had just arrived, in the church foyer, and were about to be
folded when I ask (the person folding) “could I have two of those
please”. “No, there's not enough!” I was, quite curtly, told
by another, none other than Mrs. P. Tweed. With little more to say,
about more of the same, I left: but not without feeling quite sad for
those two individuals. Again we witnessed, yet another, openly
public display of just how far away the Fairfield Uniting leadership
has moved from its primary function – witnessing and winning souls
for CHRIST.</div>
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The primary person in this story is a
person I have known for over 60 years. Mrs. P. Tweed is some years
older and a person I once respected. She was one (of her generation)
who was key in teaching me the principles by which I believe I
would/will be measured* and, ultimately judged.</div>
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*Therein is embedded the problem which
the current Congregation, Elders/Church Councillors, Reverends Choi
and Kava, Presbytery and the wider Uniting Church need to face up
too. Those fundamental CHRISTian principles, we were taught as young
people, are no longer followed or practiced by the very individuals
who taught them. Were those principles of value or just words and
fiction? That was a question I needed to answer, for myself, some time
ago and they are what directs my approach and public criticism.</div>
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Indeed, the problem is not just that
those individuals are not practicing what they preached; they are
also leading others to follow their (now) changed and distorted view
of what is right. They are openly attacking the principles of
Christianity as well as those who dare to speak out/up. In doing so,
with each disappointing act, they further expose the discrimination
and the hypocrisy which has become an entrenched feature of Fairfield
Uniting Church, its leadership and its mission.</div>
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Those two pieces of printed paper were
quite insignificant items but the sentiment with which they were
denied is anything but insignificant. There may have been “not
enough” Order of Services but what was more evident and ultimately
more important, in that act of denial, Mrs. P. Tweed denied Jesus an
opportunity of outreach. Which leads to a more important question;
what is the primary <i><b>m</b></i><i><b>ission</b></i> of Fairfield
Uniting Church?</div>
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Christianity stands for an abundance
of....., there is always enough (of)....., and it should never be
denied; they are not choices CHRISTians' were tasked to make or
enforce. You and Fairfield Uniting Church either follow Jesus or it
and you don't! Therefore;</div>
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- is Fairfield Uniting Church a place
of worship, <i><b>love and </b></i><i><b>f</b></i><i><b>orgiveness
</b></i>open to all.....?</div>
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- is Fairfield Uniting Church, its
Elders and Church Councillors working for the Lord and the
salvation of others or are they working for.....?</div>
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Pray, the hearts and minds of the
Fairfield Uniting Congregation, its leaders and Ministers will be
made aware of their treacherous position and pray they will return to
a path where their thoughts and actions reflect the will of the Lord
and our Saviour.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-43688948107912358052015-04-26T17:12:00.001+10:002015-04-26T17:18:02.081+10:00Money corrupts!<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<i>Sunday 26Apr'2015
log entry </i><i>for Fairfield Uniting Church as one of its disciples
mutinies </i>:-(</div>
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On the previous Sunday
previous Mr. D. Tweed was heard to be yelling at me from quite a
distance, as I walked away, “to come back and fix it”. His
reference was about my car being parked in front of Fairfield Uniting
Church – on a public road. As you may have already gleaned from
this blog the leaders of Fairfield Uniting have it in their heads it
is they who control the public/street parking in the City of
Fairfield; just as they believe, it is only they who decide who can
attend the Fairfield Uniting Church.</div>
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Not to be outdone by
his father, Mr. G Tweed took it upon himself this morning to, whilst
standing on the Church steps to loudly berate me over an extended
period. Not content with that little performance he also chose to
drag other – church attendees – into his tirade in much the same
way as Ms. Solifoni did when delivering her morning-tea tirade.
Which is, in turn, a reflection of how we can imagine the Pharisees
worked the crowd in front of Pontius Pilate.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What was today about? MONEY. Mr. G. Tweed put on his appalling public spectacle over
MONEY! MONEY for a fine levied on Fairfield Uniting Church by the
State of NSW for a breach of the law by Leaders of Fairfield Uniting
Church. Because of the <i><u><b>l</b></u></i><i><u><b>eaders breach</b></u></i>
Mr. G. Tweed wants to levy the entire blame on me! Mr. G. Tweed is
so focused on - the – MONEY and, finding someone else to blame, he
has completely and totally discounted what attracted the fine in the
first place.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
MONEY corrupts in
varying ways. Mr. G Tweed's event is a prize example of how corrupt
– spiritually – is the thinking being radiated from within
Fairfield Uniting Church. That is also one reason why this blog
exists. To record, for posterity, just how deep Fairfield Uniting
Church has sunk in its spiritual journey and how that loss of
spirituality and grace is taking individuals, and the congregation,
in a very disappointing and treacherous direction.</div>
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<br /></div>
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For a moment, putting
the underlying reason(s) for today’s event aside. Think for a
minute reader, as you picture in your mind, the vision of a Fairfield
Uniting Church member (flanked by one other) standing on their Church
steps loudly berating an individual standing on the public footpath
outside that same CHURCH. What does that say about what those who
attend that CHURCH stand for?</div>
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<br /></div>
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It is so terribly sad
to witness Fairfield Uniting Church slipping deeper and deeper away
from its primary purpose and goal to be a gracious CHRISTian
community.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
If CHRIST returned
tomorrow, to Fairfield Uniting Church;</div>
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- where should he park?
</div>
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- would he be welcome?</div>
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- should he have
witnessed Mr. G. Tweeds extended outburst what would he have said and
or done?</div>
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<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Mr. G. Tweed do you
think what you did today was what CHRIST would have wanted you to do? </div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-90084049769718532742015-03-30T22:09:00.002+11:002015-03-31T19:31:00.472+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
TheSpotsNeverChange.....</div>
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<br />
<pre class="western">“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">You are not welcome here!”;</span>
“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Don't you step into that Church!” (his Fairfield Uniting Church);</span>
“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">You should not step into a CHRISTIAN church!”(?);</span>
“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">You lie!”**</span></pre>
<br /></div>
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Within minutes of
arriving at Fairfield Uniting Church, prior to the Sunday morning
service (29 Mar'2015) and, while I was assisting and elderly disabled
church member from my car, all those statements along with more were
yelled at me from a distance of some five metres by none other than
Mr. David Tweed; an Elder of Fairfield Uniting and Chairman of
Fairfield Uniting's Church Council.<br />
<br />
Picture, if you
will, for a moment, that vehement rhetoric, being loudly voiced on
the public pavement/footpath directly in front of a Church decorated
to celebrate Palm Sunday; for the passing public to witness and in
front of other members of Fairfield Uniting's congregation, including
his wife (an Elder and Church councillor) and his adult son (Graeme)
none of whom, yet again, were prepared to step up to the plate and to
intervene. Why?<br />
<br />
Clearly Mr. Tweed is not happy
with my reporting of the goings on at Fairfield Uniting Church and
that is of no surprise - sometimes truth hurts. What escapes
Mr. D. Tweed is that it is he, ALL the Church Councillors, Rev. Choi,
Rev. Kava and Presbytery who MUST accept the ball is squarely in
their court. They have either caused, added too and, by
refusing to accept my (many and recent) approaches, prolong the
troubles of Fairfield Uniting. Which in turn provides more
fodder for the Fairfield Uniting Church's blog which, in turn, adds
to the woes of Fairfield Uniting Church and further degrades the
reputation and integrity* of Fairfield Uniting, the Uniting Church in
Australia and ALL its members.<br />
<br />
*To measure our failing
integrity, as CHRISTians, we need look no further than the
discrimination of Judith and Ruth and how the Uniting Church, as a
collective of professing (Professional and Lay) CHRISTians have
abandoned them both. I ask what is the difference between the
discrimination of CHRISTians outside of Australia and Judith and
Ruth's forced severance from the Fairfield Uniting Church? If
we as CHRISTians accept/allow one then we must accept the other; is that
what being a member of the Uniting Church in Australia is about?
<br />
<br />
Fairfield Uniting Church has become a litmus test of
the integrity of the Uniting Church in Australia. As it
festers, crying out for a resolution, our integrity as CHRISTians is
questioned and, for us all, judgement is only a heartbeat away.
Any delay or lost time makes the course correction a much longer,
more difficult and, possibly (for some individuals already), an
irreversible journey and;<br />
<br />
around we ALL go as we spiral
into the black hole and, as a Church, we crush grace and move further
away from the teachings of CHRIST: <i><b>within sight of Easter!</b></i><br />
<i><b><br /></b></i>
As
we reflect on the significance and reason CHRIST was sacrificed and
raised from the dead - for us ALL; please reflect on OUR actions and
in-action and pray for Fairfield to be <i><b>fixed</b></i> before we
are called to account. <br />
<br />
**I'll close addressing
Mr. D. Tweeds statement I am a liar. He has told me that to my
face: has said it to me from the CHAIR in a Congregational meeting
(in front of Rev. Choi) and now he has shouted it out in a public
place in front of members of the public and Fairfield Uniting's
Congregation. Clearly he may believe what he says: but
consider, as an Elder, after years of making slanderous
unsubstantiated accusations, in refusing to discuss the issues, Mr.
D. Tweed denies me the opportunity to correct and or make amends;
that is, of course, one of the major issues which underlines, drives
and maintains the problems as they exist at Fairfield Uniting
Church.<br />
<br />
With me in front of him, on (Palm) Sunday, Mr.
D. Tweed had yet another perfect opportunity to show his CHRISTian
leadership and, yet again, he threw the opportunity out the window;
preferring instead to present, publicly, Fairfield Uniting Church's
values with his appalling public performance, yet again, further
underlining why Fairfield Uniting Church has become the spiritual
black hole it is and, using Fairfield Uniting Church to undermine the
integrity of the Uniting Church in Australia as a faith/grace based,
compassionate and caring CHRISTian organisation.<br />
<br />
The
opportunity still exists to talk.....I remain available.....and
always will.....who has the faith, conviction and commitment to enter
the fray?</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-20364372866311192352015-03-11T08:34:00.000+11:002015-03-11T14:57:50.600+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Nuts & Bolts.....</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In the previous post I
highlighted the role Mrs. Solifoni played in forcing Judith out of
the Fairfield Uniting Congregation. I mentioned Ruth without
detailing the circumstances of her removal and, generally outlined
how their plight has been exacerbated by the complicity of the entire
church council and the failure/refusal of those, with the moral
authority to do so, to support Judith and Ruth, to intervene and stop
what has been happening and, rectify and reconcile that which has
happened. That remains so to this date!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I also quoted the
following question, “<i>are you not now prepared to accept the
Uniting Church in Australia is broken, not just in Fairfield but
throughout?</i>” It was one I have been asked and my reply is that
Fairfield Uniting Church is certainly broken. However, as to whether
or not the Uniting Church in Australia is broken, I said, I was going
to draw on you, the readers, for the answer. In part you each have
gone part way to helping me do so; but the jobs not finished.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
With this post I urge
reference to the the National Church
Life Survey (NCLS) 12 Core Qualities of Church Life as crucial
for Congregational vitality and growth. I would expect those points
to be part of the Life and Witness Consultation if conducted. I am
also going to pose several questions which “<i>could be asked of
the leadership team of the congregation during the consultation</i>”
as they are each very relevant questions to pose to the Elders and
Church Councillors of Fairfield Uniting Church*. I am also going to
highlight three “issues” which, from my point of view, need to be
addressed before any realistic CHRIST focused outcomes can be
reached.</div>
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<br /></div>
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*Starting with the
“<i>Life and Witness Consultation</i>” questions to the Elders
and Church Councillors;</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Q1.) “<i>Over what
things has your congregation grieved in the past five years? How was
that grief handled</i>?”</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Ans. This blog details
just a <b>small</b> portion of that which has “<i><b>grieved</b></i>”
Fairfield Uniting's congregation. “<i>How was that grief handled</i>?”
Very poorly to the point of being discriminatory.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Q2.) “<i>Have any
issues divided your congregation in the past five years? How have
anger and disputes been handled in these situations</i>?”</div>
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<br /></div>
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Ans. YES (quite) a
few! “<i>How have anger and disputes been handled in these
situations</i>?” With a “kill messenger” un-truthful ethos
employing deception, verbal abuse and physical intimation being some
of primary weapons of choice.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Q3.) “<i>What style
of leadership is present in this place</i>?”;</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Ans. One devoid of the
acceptance of a CHRIST centred Pastoral care responsibility,
Dictatorial, deceitful, secretive and abusive.....etc.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
;-) a supplementary
question might be, “<i>What is your view of the Presbytery and how
can the Presbytery be more effectively involved in your
congregation</i>?”</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Ans. I can only :-) &
laugh loudly whilst speculating how Fairfield Uniting Church Elders
and Church Councillors would answer that question. My response would
be considerably different to theirs.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“<i><b>are you not
now prepared to accept the Uniting Church in Australia is broken, not
just in Fairfield but throughout?</b></i><b>” </b>The
facts supporting my answers to questions 1 to 3 define a
simple conclusion; <i><b>Fairfield Uniting Church is broken</b></i>!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Three issues distilled;</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
1) The “problem(s)”
which appear to divide Mr. D. Tweed and me.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
2) The “problem”
Mr. & Mrs. Solifoni seem to have with me.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
3) The “problems”
relating to Church Governance (and me).</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Kill the messenger;</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It is fair to say “me”
is the focus of items 1&2 and the person who has focused on item
3 in the preceding list. Each has been covered in some way,
previously, within this blog. In expanding on each of those items I
am going to show – in part - how they link together to create the
spiritually evil black hole Fairfield Uniting has become. Equally it
MUST be understood Fairfield Uniting can never be “fixed” until
sensible and suitable solutions to those three items is sought and
achieved. Failure to do so will mean, no matter what good may come
out of, Fairfield Uniting Church will be be forever tainted and,
there is very little time left to prevent an adverse outcome!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To understand item 1,
“<i>The problem(s) which appear to divide Mr. D. Tweed and me</i>.”,
requires decades of knowledge, impracticable to document herein
(that's for the book). I will start by saying Mr. D. Tweed (Elder)
is an autocrat. Predominately, he <span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">takes
no account of other people's wishes or opinions; unless they coincide
with his own and, he is domineering to the point of obsession. Not
traits one would expect to be able to easily define or see in action
in a spiritual leader let alone being a good fit for the role of
Elder in the Uniting Church in Australia. It becomes a (real) issue
when those traits are exercised in an offensive manner. Challenging
(face to face, on the side or in any manner) Mr. D. Tweed's actions
has an effect similar to using a flint; sparks fly. Those sparks
are, in the main, Mr. D. Tweed's; he is not a man to be challenged
nor questioned of that, I have be reminded of, on many occasions.
Herein lays the root cause of what appears to divide Mr. D. Tweed and
me.</span></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Now
over relatively simple issues like copyright - when it became an
“issue” and a discussion several years ago – Mr. D. Tweed's
take was “we can copy what ever we like” and, “it should not
apply to the church”. Now we all know what is the correct thing to
do, and what we were being asked to do, and that was raised, but Mr.
Tweed was not going to listen; he knows what's best and right and
that was that! Not a difficult issue, just an obstinate attitude to
be “won-over” with fact. but, there are issues which are far more
critical; by definition more difficult and more important they be
resolved correctly, quickly.</span></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Two
issues, one an incident involving a child and the other a Minister.
Now in both these cases Mr. D. Tweed made some seriously bad calls.
The first of those two being a particularly </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">difficult</span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
situation, which was correctly handle by those who “stepped up to
the plate” to do so. The ramifications, for those who did the
correct thing though, were horrendous and, it was Mr. D. Tweed who
led and complained vengefully about the action </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">those
good people took</span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">,
why? What </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">or
who </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">was
he trying to protect?</span></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Second:
As a member, and as a congregation, we still don't know (fully) why
but Mr. D. Tweed, for reasons best known to him, took a dislike to
the minister of the day and, wanted him gone! What got my direct
attention </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">were</span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
announcements Mr. D. Tweed made, to the congregation, during the
morning service, which related to the Minister in question. His
comments were both of a derogatory nature and came with instructions
to the congregation which were, without any doubt, out of place and
character for any spiritual leader (Elder). Now, after the service
and on our own I raised, with Mr. Tweed, what he had said – sparks
flew immediately. Now, what with all that had happened, in the
decades preceding that incident this one seemed to be the catalyst
which brought all of D. Tweeds wrath to the surface. He made some
extraordinary personal accusations about the Minister and me. He
accused me of “conspiring” with the minister, of causing the
church a lot of trouble, of offending “many” and of “costing
the church a lot of money”. To say I was taken aback would be an
understatement, but it gets worse. Having said what he had just
said, when I asked him (on that and </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">at
</span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">every
other opportunity) to justify his statements, with details and or
facts, he refused and, continues to do so! That his accusations were
complete fabrications does not seem to matter to Mr. Tweed. </span></span>
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Despite
trying on several occasions I was unable to get Mr. Tweed to discuss
his accusations and comments calmly and as a result I resorted to
writing. Below, with salutation etc. removed, are two of those
letters; </span></span>
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>29
Nov' 2009 - It was ironic because that number of years is all but
equal for us both in that yours was for a particular service and mine
because that is the time I have also been a worshipper at the same
church and; while your congratulations were in order little did
anyone know that the selfsame person had in the last week chosen to
launch a personal attack on me for reasons I do not know or
understand.</i></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>So
with this note I am giving you the opportunity to document, by
return, an outline as to why I have, in your words, ‘caused the
church a lot of trouble’.</i></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>I
if have caused trouble I believe I have a right to know why, be given
a right of reply and the opportunity to rectify what I have done and;
as a leader – and the one who leveled the accusation - in our
church you must give me that opportunity.</i></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>As
the ‘problem(s)’ seems to have existed for a long period I can
see little reason why I will not receive the details of my
indiscretions promptly and as requested. </i></span>
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>9
Dec' 2009 - During the conversation there were veiled references to
two areas that may have been of concern but as they were only brief
references it has not been possible to guess as to why they should
have been of any ‘trouble’</i></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>Following
the conversation I requested I be supplied an outline and details of
just what I had done so as to be able to ‘rectify’ the problem.
That reply, I am told, I am not to receive.</i></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;"><i>It
must be understood I have never knowingly done anything to
deliberately ‘hurt’ the church or any member of the congregation
and, it has caused me much angst to be told that I have; to be then
denied an explanation has increased my concern, made me feel
extremely guilty, and brought me to this point.</i></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">To
this day (years later as you can see), Mr. D. Tweed has never, never,
never been prepared to talk through, justify and or validate any of
his accusations or statements. They were and are false. His refusals
clearly show the character of the man and how long he is prepared to
maintain his unjustifiable rage, multiplying and adding to it to the
point – one Sunday - he ordered me out of the church, on the floor
of the church, in front of other members of the congregation and
publicly questioned my character :-( </span></span>
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Yes,
from my perspective, item 1) can be easily solved. I argue Mr.
Tweed's accusations and comments, about me, always were entirely
false and without justification. So all that needs to be done is for
Presbytery, the </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>Life
and Witness Consultation</i></span></span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
panel, or anybody else (think Rev. Choi and Rev. Kava) to ask Mr. D.
Tweed to document his original accusations so it would be possible
for me address them. If he cannot/will not do so, then it goes
without saying his role as an Elder/Spiritual leader is seriously
compromised and he should apologise, in person, and to the entire
Congregation and should disqualify himself from his leadership roles!</span></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Item
2). “The problem Mr. & Mrs. Solifoni seem to have with me.”
Like all problems this one is multi-faceted but it is possible to
distil out one particular issue which is, for the Solifoni's only, a
sticking point. I say for the “Solifoni's only” because it is a
problem wholly of their creation which they have imposed on the
entire congregation. But they choose, for entirely selfish reasons**
to, not only blame others, but to use their failings as a reason to
bully others (see following paragraph) as I describe in the previous
post; </span></span>
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: red;">“</span><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>Why
Judith was targeted. The whole story is long and convoluted: suffice
to say, within this post, the Solifoni family is a disturbed and
estranged family and, because of a particular situation relating to a
family member, choosing to go their own way, the Solifoni parents and
other family members, have chosen to divest themselves of and, to
shift the blame, for that persons choice, to others in the
Congregation; bullying chosen individuals until they walk away from
the Church.”</i></span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">For
me this issue is the most important, the most damaging and, the one
item of the three which MUST be satisfactorily and FULLY resolved.
Why? Simple because it is about a fractured family unit.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">**
I mentioned earlier the Solifoni family chooses for selfish reasons
to blame others for their failings and this is entirely the case.
They have refused the help offered, have maintained it's not the
church's business whilst at the same time using it as a Povai to bash
those they select to blame. At the same time both Mr. and Mrs.
Solifoni have not been backwards in spreading their distorted version
of the “truth” as a deliberate strategy to divert scrutiny of an
environment which may well reveal components of abuse within the
family.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Now
you have seen detailed how devastating was Mrs. Solifoni's abuse of
Judith. What Judith has directly endured is much less than that
which has been hurled at me; and there is a specific reason; dare I
raise it? Well why not, it is important and it is embedded in
</span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>differing
cultures</i></span></span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">.
You see, it would appear, I am being held responsible, by the
Solifoni family, for failing to comply with their idea of how their
child (a young person) should behave. Indeed the Solifoni's believe
they have the right to </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>force</b></span></span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
me to accept cultural norms which are not mine and, if I complied
with their demands, in all probability would be seen, here in
Australia, as illegal***.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Now
let me quote, an excerpt, from a (confidential) letter I wrote to the
Mr. & Mrs. Solifoni shortly after Mr. Solifoni vehemently accused
me of wrong doing and told me in very straight language I should do
exactly as </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><b>he</b></span></span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
wanted. He believes I have an obligation, to him, to intervene in
what has occurred in another family in relation to the decision his
child (a young adult) had made. As disturbing as that thought was/is
I considered it important enough to open a dialogue with those
concerned (the other family) and the following letter (to the
Solifoni's) was a result of what was revealed.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">In
the letter (dated 1 Oct'2013) I wrote</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">;</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;">“</span><span style="color: red;"><i>(two
names) have no illusions as to why what has happened has and the
impact. Equally it is my understanding considerable effort has been
made to discuss, address and, maybe solve, the problems presented,
with you, to no avail.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;"><i>Name’s
(young adult) decision, I have no doubt, is difficult to accept.
However it is important to look closely at Name's concerns and work
toward finding common ground. Doing so, will provide you the
opportunity to demonstrate why the values you hold as being worthy
are of similar worth to Name.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;"><i>Family
challenges such as you face often have multiple causes and until
these are fully understood and discussed, by each party, a clear path
to any form of reconciliation will remain elusive.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;"><i>That
said, as I indicated in our conversation, if I was to get involved, I
would only do so as a neutral party and to this end, if I am to
contribute positively, I ask you take the time to provide me a candid
account of the issues, as you see them and, how you believe those
issues should be addressed.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;"><i>Please
understand it is my fervent wish the current situation between
yourselves and Name should not only be addressed but solved and
solved harmoniously very quickly. Personal experience has taught me
it is difficult for all involved but the one thing I do know, it is
of paramount importance it be solved and the time to do so is short.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;"><i>If
I can assist and, it remains your wish I should, then please take the
time to respond as requested.</i></span></div>
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<span style="color: red;"><i>If
you no longer want me to participate, please tell me so and, do not
feel I will be offended in any way; this must be your decision. If
not me though, I would urge you both not continue down your current
path and hope you, urgently, seek the assistance of a person, in whom
you can trust, who will council you wisely.”</i></span></div>
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Thinking about this
letter makes me emotional, reading it again brings tears to my eyes.
Knowing what I know it is impossible not to feel terribly sad for the
Solifoni family. That said, there can be no reason/excuse proffered
to support how they have used their situation to wreak havoc, as they
have, in Fairfield Uniting Church.</div>
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This was an emailed
reply (admonishment) I received from another Solifoni family member;
not from Mr. or Mrs Solifoni but one of their children, it reads;</div>
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<pre class="western"><span style="color: red;">“</span><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>I would firstly like to express my great disappointment in the nature and the content of the letter you have sent. As a parent or as a man that has gone through raising a family, I would of expected to see more wisdom and a greater sense of counselling from you instead of this!</i></span></span></span>
<span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>Secondly, I have read your letter,.....?</i></span></span></span>
<span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>I would like to request that you withhold any further letters or conversations to my parents as your "neutral" stance is one that is quite biased and well ill informed. This matter concerns my family and names only! And does not require any further intervention. We still await a positive opportunity to discuss the matter with our 'title of name' and we will hopefully get this opportunity soon</i></span></span></span>
<span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>If you would like to assist in any way, shape or form, then please contact names and have them send name back to us so we can have a family meeting to discuss this whole series of unfortunate events. In the interest of the Church and my family, I expect that you will respect our wishes as this is the best outcome for all.”</i></span></span></span>
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>***</i></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I mentioned what I was being asked to do by Mr. Solifoni was </span></span><span style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">in all probability illegal and it is right there for all to see; “ </span></span><span style="color: red;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>send name back to us”.</i></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"> I ask you, the reader – considering the person involved has removed themselves from an environment of concern - to whom am I responsible and whose interest should I consider first? Should I have complied with the instruction how was I to know the outcome could have been anything but adverse.</span></span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">To be asked to do what I was, came from a person with a particular point of view. To ask is not wrong in itself but, to expect that I would “send” a person into a potentially hostile environment is anything but reasonable, it is ludicrous and illegal!</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Now a few additional points relating to my letter to Mr. & Mrs. Solifoni – it was clearly marked confidential and sealed. It was neither Mr. or Mrs. Solifoni who replied but one of their children who stated he would return the letter? Why would you want to return the letter?</span>
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I remain</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">ed</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"> suspicious. </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">S</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">ome time later, I asked Rev. Lunney to ask Mr. Solifoni had he seen the letter. The reply was NO! However a subsequent meeting with Rev. Lunney revealed a change; now, Mr. Solifoni had seen the letter, found it offensive and, remained adamant in his refusal to discuss the issue further with me. Rev. Lunney, in defending Mr. Solifoni's position simply stated it was a “</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>cultural thing</i></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">!”. Let's get real folks!</span></span>
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">So, on the one hand, me and my family are to take the blame and responsibility for the Solifoni families dysfunction but we cannot help or discuss the problem with them in any meaningful manner. Their family failings are being used as an abusive weapon (unjustifiably) against Judith and I. We get forced out of the church we have grown up in and the current Fairfield Uniting Church/Congregation and many in the wider church sit by and watch it happen; REFUSING TO GET INVOLVED, EVEN WHEN ASKED! CHRISTians?</span></span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">WHY ARE JUDITH & I BEING PUNISHED AS WE ARE?</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">My letter to the Solifoni's was the direct result of Mr. Solifoni's instruction I should intervene in a particular manner (against my better judgement). My letter was not offensive (****) and it is difficult to see how, when he had told me to do so, that my actions, offering and suggestions (given I have first hand experience) were anything but reasonable.</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">****However, if you look at the situation from the Solifoni point of view; that being they believe they have the right to instruct me to “send” a person back into a situation they were escaping; I guess you may see my offer to help from a knowledge base as offensive. If you do then you need to seriously question your CHRISTianity, your principles, ethics and your role in Australian society!</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">From another perspective, if you are a CHRISTian and understand the importance of supporting others in need and, continue to remain inactive now and, still refuse to help, then same applies, you need to seriously question your CHRISTianity, your principles, ethics, your role in Australian society and the question, is the Uniting Church in Australia broken?</span>
<span style="color: black;">“</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>are you not now prepared to accept the Uniting Church in Australia is broken, not just in Fairfield but throughout?</i></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">”</span></span>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">So, in concluding
Item 2) - “The problem Mr. & Mrs. Solifoni seem to have with
me.” - for the moment, is, in the main, all to do with them and
(listen Mr. J. Cutts – Secretary of Presbytery) it is a problem for
the Church! Mr. & Mrs. Solifoni's “problem” can be fixed if
they truly want that to happen. But what I know, for sure now, is it
will not happen whilst they continue down the treacherous path they
are going. They MUST accept the full responsibility for the outcome
as it stands! The Solifoni's have set-out to hurt our family and,
whilst they have wreaked havoc they have have in not broken it –
quite the reverse. However, they have irreparably damaged their
personal reputations as parents, as individuals and as church leaders
(should disqualify themselves from holding office) and, if they do
not face-up to that which they have done then it will go with them to
their collective graves – then to be held to account by the only
one who can justifiably do so!</span></div>
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<pre class="western"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Which leaves us Item 3, “The problems relating to Church Governance (and me).”</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Honestly the problems relating to Church Governance at Fairfield Uniting Church are numerous and range over a wide number of issues. But, out of Items 1 to 3 they are the easier to fix. The Congregation and the Church Council simple need to read, understand, follow and implement the rules of the Uniting Church in Australia as they are laid-out for all to see. “Blind Freddy” could do it so why is it not done?</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Well. The first thing to understand is that Mr. D. Tweed (Elder) Chairs the Church Council and I have already detailed his autocratic style. Mrs. (D). Tweed is Secretary and two other councillors are Mr. Solifoni (yes the same) and a daughter Ms. M. Solifoni. Is there a picture emerging here*****?</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">If you have pieced together my epistles and understood what I have said, even if you find it hard to believe, you must understand Governance of Fairfield Uniting Church is being dictated by the same individuals who are wreaking havoc, abusing, intimidating and forcing long standing Congregational members to leave? They have gone rogue and despite that evidence, in one of my earlier dealings, about our issues, with Mr J. Cutts, Secretary of Presbytery (and Rev. Lunney), he said, “we will continue to work with the elected Church Council”. What that means is he is prepared to “leave the foxes in charge of the hen house”. That intransigence has led to the treatment of Judith, and, her and others being treated as collateral damage and seemingly of no consequence to Fairfield Uniting and its Congregation: therefore of no consequence to Presbytery and, by extension of no consequence to the Uniting Church in Australia! </span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Think I’m being harsh? Stick your head up (comment below or email) and tell me so, I'll will listen carefully. But you better have a pretty good argument because what your are going to be trying to prevent is me answering Yes to both parts of the following (recurring) question;</span>
<span style="color: black;">“</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>are you not now prepared to accept the Uniting Church in Australia is broken, not just in Fairfield but throughout?</i></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">”</span></span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">So what sort of things happen at Fairfield Uniting Church that would demonstrate Church Governance is an issue? (How long is a piece of string?) The short answer is just about anything you might choose to look into;</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Lets start with the fact the Church Councillors believe they can run the Fairfield Uniting Church as they see fit; the Congregation should simply fall into line! Interesting.</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Election of officers outside the stipulated rules and the purler self elected Elders. Namely Mr. & Ms. Solifoni – oh dear, and done with legal advise I'll tip ;-) They know what best for every one else just look at the way they decide who can say what. That they decide who can attend church or not. At the way they tell other people to order estranged family members around......etc. I could go on and on and on and..........</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">***** As a next step in understanding how to fix Church Governance is to accept as a fact the current Elders and Church Councillors are not about growing and nurturing a CHRISTian community. They are not about growing and nurturing the Congregation in the ways of Christ with Grace; they are all about POWER. POWER and CONTROL. POWER and CONTROL over everything to do with Fairfield Uniting Church. POWER and CONTROL over every individual who attends and where they can and can't park in the street and, who they can talk too and what about..... Again I could go on and on.........</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">If CHRIST returned tomorrow..........?</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I started the section relating to Item 3 indicating it was the easiest of the three item to fix; and it is. You see once Items 1 &2, are correctly addressed the outcome will lead to a rectification of Church governance. It is so obvious it seems odd to even have to say so. The flip side though, if Items 1&2 are left ignored and unresolved; if it is thought re-training - the foxes to manage the hen house - is what should be first tackled then that would be a very foolish first step! Indeed that is what we are actually witnessing, and is taking place right now and, already it is possible to see it failing.</span>
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">A Life and Witness Consultation conducted at Fairfield, if it is going to happen (?), is going to need to tackle, and resolve properly & completely, all of the above plus some and much sooner than is being suggested. You all owe it to Judith, Ruth, many others and my (very young) grandchildren, who were also forced out of the Fairfield Uniting Church by the actions Mr. & Mrs. Tweed (Elders), Mr. & Ms. Solifoni (self elected Elders) & Mrs. Solifoni.</span>
<span style="color: black;">“</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><i>are you not now prepared to accept the Uniting Church in Australia is broken, not just in Fairfield but throughout?</i></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">” Yes or No its still you call – GET INVOLVED!</span></span></pre>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-39945730307044455222015-02-24T22:06:00.001+11:002015-02-25T10:58:46.811+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I return:</div>
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In discussing,
recently, what was happening at Fairfield Uniting Church, with people
from another Denominational Congregation who know our situation, I
was asked, “are you not now prepared to accept the Uniting Church
in Australia is broken, not just in Fairfield but throughout?”.</div>
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This post will expand
on why I answered “yes” for Fairfield Uniting Church (NSW) but,
was unwilling to condemn the entire Uniting Church in Australia.
Though, having said that, an email from the Presbytery Chairman has
shifted my perspective, of the wider Church, south. Unjustified
though it may seem to some, I read his email as a <i>door closing</i>
event. It was the trigger for me to return once more to this blog.
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Fairfield Uniting
Church is certainly broken, it has become a very dark place.
Outwardly functional but with a leadership leading a Congregation
down a treacherous path and, one which has spiritually paralysed and
rendered the Church void of inclusive fellowship.</div>
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Fairfield Uniting sunk
to an incredible depth one Sunday after the morning service, some
distance back, when after a turbulent Congregational meeting my wife
Judith was set upon by a Mrs. Solifoni, was verbally abused and
intimidated, to the extent Judith has not returned to worship at
Fairfield Uniting. No, that event was not the first time Mrs.
Solifoni has done this and Judith is not the only person to have been
on the receiving end of the Solifoni wrath. As it has been for
others before her, Mrs. Solifoni's abuse of Judith, on that occasion,
was the last straw.</div>
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<span style="color: black;">W</span>hy
Judith was targeted. The whole story is long and convoluted: suffice
to say, within this post, the Solifoni family is a disturbed and
estranged family and, because of a particular situation relating to a
family member, choosing to go their own way, the Solifoni parents and
other family members, have chosen to divest themselves of and, to
shift the blame, for that persons choice, to others in the
Congregation; bullying chosen individuals until they walk away from
the Church. That appalling behaviour is neither a recent<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
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nor isolated to a single person at Fairfield Uniting Church; it has
been going on for <i>years, progressively </i>worsening, slowly
whittling away targeted Congregational members who object, take a
stand and who challenge what is happening.</div>
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Significant to note,
Mrs Solifoni is the wife and mother of <i>self-elected</i> Elders who
fully support her actions and participate. Equally, the abuse,
bullying and discrimination, is supported by a Church council led by
D. & P. Tweed and therefore, by extension, the entire
Congregation.</div>
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Why, you may be
thinking, has such activity not been brought to an end long before it
consumed its latest victim, Judith?</div>
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As the Elders and
Church Councillors are the perpetrators of the problems we have
experienced, it has proven of absolutely no value to appeal to them -
as has been done on many occasions - to correct their behaviour.</div>
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So, just what can a
member of the (Fairfield) Uniting Church do and, to whom can they
turn (for help) when they are dictatorially and abusively ruled by
Elders and Church Councillors who have gone rogue? Elders and
Councillors who are not even attempting to adhere to the teachings of
Christ, toward <i>some</i> others, nor coming within a bulls roar of
complying with the rules and requirements of service clearly laid out
in the Uniting Church in Australia rules?</div>
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The answer, in truth,
is nothing and nobody! A conclusion re-enforced by the following
statement of Rev. Choi's, “<i>The matter should be fixed in the
local congregation.</i>”</div>
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“<span style="font-size: 13pt;"><i>The
matter should be fixed in the local congregation.</i></span>”, by
whom I ask, by whom? The absolute fact of the matter is we are now
months down the track and absolutely nothing has been done to rectify
what has happened to Judith. No apologies, no counselling not even a
phone call or visit from any <i>spiritual leader*</i> of Fairfield
Uniting Church nor, from its hamstrung Minister in “<i>his is a
very limited supply appointment in which he is principally
responsible for Sunday worship and other matters at his discretion</i>.”
That last quotation, from the Presbytery Chairman, I understand but
challenge: I draw the following parallel between CHRISTians and a
Police, neither are ever off-duty.</div>
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*A Rev. Kava, of a
Tongan Wesleyan Church I believe, is also a frequent preacher at
Fairfield Uniting. He, also is very aware of what is occurring and
has, as others have, not attempted, to prevent the escalation of the
problems or offered any support to Judith. <i><b>There is a theme.</b></i></div>
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Does the application of
<i>fairness</i> have a role in my reporting and criticism? Taking
into consideration Rev. Choi's (and Rev. Kava's) short and <i>limited</i>
tenure and, knowing they both have walked into Fairfield Uniting at
its worse. Couple that with the fact they <i>may</i><i> still</i> be
trying to get their head around all the issues, and you may conclude
it is a reasonable reason for them to keep their heads down. Is their
inaction being fair to Judith? I would argue, it is neither fair nor
reasonable. I go further: a Minister's profession and being
professing CHRISTians defines what they should have done and should
do; that is my opinion. Is it yours? Would it be Christ's?</div>
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Equally, I don't
believe my reporting and criticisms of the Elders and Church
Councillors is unfair; if they have chosen to carry the titles of
spiritual leaders then, by default they must, conduct themselves
accordingly. Yes or No?</div>
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<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What has happened to
Judith (and others) is not really about fairness: in reality it is
much, much more insidious; its discriminatory!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I received a suggestion
I approach, directly, the Chairman of Presbytery with the eye to
having a Life & Witness Consultation conducted within Fairfield
Uniting Church. Now, I do not have a lot of confidence in Presbytery
(as a body), because of how they have failed to adequately address
issues thus far, including that which has happened to Judith, and I
voiced that opinion. However, being an optimistic kind of a guy ;-)
I acted on the advice. Sadly, whilst there has been a statement made
a Life & Witness consultation may take place, at some time toward
the end of 2015, nothing else is to be done! Nothing, nothing,
nothing!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Just for a brief moment
put yourself in Judith shoes, how would you feel having been so
poorly treated by the leaders of the Church you had been a part of
and, served in, for the best part of six (6) decades? Imagine what
you might feel like not having a Minister you can turn too or count
on for support and then magnify those failures in pastoral care with
the fact Presbytery says it's also <i>hamstrung</i> and cannot think
outside its box** and help in a timely manner either. **Does that
mean Presbytery (whatever that defines) has nobody within, or worse
still, has no idea of how to cope with situations like Judith's and
rogue Elders and Councillors. What does this say about the
structure, values and members within and of the Uniting Church in
Australia, when considering the support and nurturing of others in the
Uniting Church <i>family</i>?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Can you understand why
Judith might not want too, at the moment, worship at Fairfield
Uniting Church?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Delaying intervention,
and ignoring the immediacy Judith's situation demanded, is why I see
the email from the Chairman of Presbytery as an in your face door
closing event! More importantly though, I also see it as another act
of discrimination!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Many of the issues at
Fairfield Uniting have a discriminatory tone; in the main because the
manner in which individuals are singled out, abused and bullied. But
the collective discrimination of Judith far exceeds that which she
was forced to endure at the hand of Mrs. Solifoni, because Judith's
plight is multiplied by the orchestration and acceptance of the abuse
by the Elders and other Church Councillors, the inaction of the
Members, the Ministers* who preach at Fairfield Uniting, and the
Presbytery membership etc.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Is describing Judith's
situation as <i>wilful discrimination</i> a step too far, I don't
think so. What do you think? Is it a sign of something worse?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Fairfield Uniting
Church is broken of that there is little doubt but, the more damaging
trait to consider, is the manner in which Fairfield Elders, Church
Councillors, the Ministers, Congregational members and Presbytery
have chosen to multiply the discrimination of Judith to a level which
far exceeds that which she was forced to endure from the mouth of
Mrs. Solifoni. <i><b>Is that </b></i><i><b>a</b></i><i><b> sign the
Uniting Church in Australia is broken?</b></i></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“But wait there's
more..... :-(</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What has happened to
Judith is not the first time in any respect. Prior to the “straw
breaking the Camel's back” attack on, and Judith being forced out
of Fairfield Uniting it also happened to Ruth. Ruth a member of the
Fairfield Uniting Church for over eight decades (that's right 80+
years and several generations) has also been forced out and, if you
look at the response of the (also limited appointment) Minister, Rev.
Lunney and, the similar lack of assistance from Presbytery we see
history repeated. I could quite easily repeat and continue the
process, and this paragraph, outlining similar incidents backwards
for years. At the heart and cause of all those losses are the same
people, highly similar circumstances of discrimination, abuse,
bullying and intimidation. <i><b>There is a theme, do you not notice
it?</b></i></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In having highlighted
two incidents of many you must be wondering why, how and ,
and.....etc? In short I am going to state the following; and there
is, to some degree – also a parallel in the way Congregational
members have reacted too and absorbed the terrible behaviour we have
endured and witnessed - to that of abusive relationships and child
abuse. There is a measure of, apathy in some, fear in others and a
desire to “not cause waves and, maybe, exacerbate the problems”.
There has always been a high degree of “let just ignore it, and
get on with it, after all we are all CHRISTians.....?”. I
paraphrase Rev. Choi, <i>we are the one family</i>.....?
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Well it might have
seemed like a good idea (<i>not making waves</i>) but it was not and
never was; neither can the leaders' behaviour be shrouded in a cloak
resembling CHRISTian love. What has and is happening at Fairfield
Uniting, in NO WAY, represents “disciplining with love”, anything
but!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<b>Now, does Fairfield
Uniting Church becomes a test for the wider Uniting Church community!</b></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What I have done (going
public) and will continue to do has been seen by some as “incorrect”
even offensive. However, Fairfield is not going to be fixed as
Presbytery, Rev. Choi and Rev. Lunney before him thought - “t<i>he
matter should be fixed in the local congregation”. </i>Time and
repeated attempts have proven that fact beyond doubt. What will fix
Fairfield Uniting is intervention: intervention by CHRISTians not
frightened to stand up and fight for that which is right!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Are Fairfield Uniting
Church issues, issues for the wider Uniting Church in Australia?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
For a short period: if
your reading this blog posting your possibly doing so because it has
been deliberately brought to your attention; for a reason. My voice
along, with many others, at Fairfield Uniting has been taken away by
the Elders and Church Councillors and, supported and severely
curtailed by the Minister's and Presbytery's inaction. With my only
remaining option I am both asking and urging you the reader(s), as
(a) CHRISTian(s), become involved, please. Prayer and personal
intervention, are both necessary to bring about a CHRIST like
solution for Fairfield Uniting; which will also be a significantly
important step for the Uniting Church in Australia.
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“<i>are you not now
prepared to accept the Uniting Church in Australia is broken not just
in Fairfield but throughout</i>”. For Fairfield my answer remains
“yes” but, for the wider Uniting Church? Well my view did shift
as a result of the Chairman's email however, my final choice and
answer is, to a great degree, now going to be decided by, you the
reader(s), a greater proportion of the Uniting Church community;</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
- Does it matter that
Ruth and Judith (and many others) have been treated the way they have
and forced to leave worshipping at Fairfield Uniting?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
- Is it a reflection on
the wider Church?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
- Is it fair, or
justified, to use and hide behind the non- interference notion,
Councils of the Uniting Church, are such they prevent individuals,
with the moral authority from intervening?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
- Do other individual
(CHRISTians) bear any responsibility to “step-up to the plate”,
becoming involved in rectifying and reconciling?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
- Are we a Church of
Samaritans or are we of the same mould as the righteous who passed by
the injured man?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
You need not look
overseas, or to the past and the civil rights movement, or at past or
present indigenous issues to find real examples of discrimination,
bullying and persecution. It is, and has for some considerable time,
been part of the culture of Fairfield Uniting Church;</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
- Is it more widespread
in the Uniting Church: does it also occur in your Church?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Along with and through
continued <i>inaction</i> and <i>apathy </i>are <i>discrimination,
bullying and persecution</i> going to become five traits associated
permanently to Fairfield Uniting Church and therefore, as a Uniting
Church, become a permanent part of the culture, of the Uniting Church
in Australia?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It's your call, take a
stand or....!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In considering my
questions, request, your responsibility and response, consider
Galations 6: 10 applied equally to all and, the following quote of
Martin Luther King (Jr.)</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“<i><b>Our lives
begin to end, the day we become silent on the things that matter.</b></i>”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I believe Martin Luther
King's quote is relevant; it's both a warning and defines a key
responsibility for a CHRISTian.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Over to you dear
reader(s).....</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-72633927354673916762014-12-24T13:00:00.001+11:002014-12-29T20:34:22.063+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
CHRIST would park where?<br />
<br />
In my 15<sup>th</sup>
post I detailed an incident which involved the Lertsinpakdees
deliberately preventing me from parking, in Harris Street Fairfield,
directly in front of the Uniting Church. That those individuals
believe they had the right too, on behalf of the Uniting Church,
to demand I not park is laughable if it were not so serious. It
also highlighted to what lengths the leaders of the Fairfield Uniting
Church will go to in their quest to control members and attendees of
the Church. It also highlighted how they see their selfish belief, they have 'rights' above that of others in the community, is defining
their lack of Christianity. That they were prepared to put their
selfish convenience ahead of a severely disabled person is, had it
not occurred, would not have been believed.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
On the sign in front of
the Fairfield Uniting Church is the word, in red, WELCOME.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Red is a significant
colour to use for that word in the context of a Church sign. For it
is the blood of CHRIST that was spilled for our sins. It is the
recognition of Christ sacrifice, and why, which forms the cornerstone
of, and why, ALL persons are welcome in the house of the LORD, except
at Fairfield Uniting. To be welcome there requires an additional,
personal, sacrifice. You are require to worship the Church
leadership in the form of submitting totally to a set of rules, they
have claimed exists, rules you will not find anywhere except in the
minds of the Phar'.......* Oops! Sorry a Freudian slip ;-)</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Writing (in these posts)
about Fairfield Uniting is about contrast and as you will see WELCOME
on a sign does NOT translate to welcome to all; only to those chosen
by the *Tweed and Solifoni management are welcome; all others 'need
not attend'.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Think I am wrong, think
I have been un-just or un-truthful in speaking out (and blogging)
about the goings-on at Fairfield Uniting? Well look what happened on
Sunday last, the 21<sup>st</sup> Dec'2014, the last Sunday prior to
the celebration of Christ's birth – “the reason for the season”; indeed David Tweed!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
As is necessary, having
brought Jessie to Church, I left my car parked in Harris Street, a
public street. When I returned a short time later I find a person
has place a hand written note, on the windscreen, constrained by a
wiper blade. As I walked toward the car, a person from another
Church congregation, who I know, who had already seen the note and
its contents, drew my attention to it and, simultaneously, expressed
considerable concern.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The note read; “<b>DONT
PARK HERE GO TO YOUR CHURCH AND PARK There</b>”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
So there you have it
folks a public declaration that I should, as a rate paying Fairfield
City resident, not park on a public road I contribute too and, I
should not “PARK HERE”, meaning in front of Fairfield Uniting
Church and, that I should go and park at “MY CHURCH?”. You may be
forgiven for wondering was I not parked at MY CHURCH.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I don't own a Church
but you know Fairfield Uniting is the Church I grew-up in, married in am a member of, etc, etc, etc. Was I not at MY CHURCH? Well clearly in the eyes of
the person who 'graffiti-ed' my car should not and neither should I. What does that say
about the Fairfield Uniting's leadership, the congregation and those
guiding them spiritually?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Clearly the Church
sign's WELCOME is NOT for me! Does this also apply to Christ. If
Christ were to appear, again, by car, would he be allowed park in
front of the Tweed and Solifoni's Church?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I asked a very pointed
question in my previous post and pose it again, differently;</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Are the Fairfield
Uniting Leadership and Congregation, David & Pat Tweed and Foni
&Rachel Solifoni meeting Christ's expectations?
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Each and every one of
the Fairfield Uniting Church Congregation bear some responsibility for the note found on my car
and for ALL that has transpired in the last few years in relation to
the matters outlined in my posts.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
This coming CHRISTmas
day Mr. Keith Suter, I understand will preach. On previous occasions
he has mentioned his keenness in coming 'back' to Fairfield. This
year I hope he sees through the 'greetings' and understands to what
depth, in sin, Fairfield Uniting, and its leadership, has descended.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To Mr. Suter, Rev. Choi
and Rev. Kava I wish you each a happy CHRISTmas but, like many others who
should be worshiping with you, we will not be there because we have
been told we are not welcome. I caution; continuing to preaching to
the Fairfield Congregation and waiting for 'a fix to occur' is
ruining the history of Fairfield Uniting Church by licensing and condoning
the Tweed and Solifoni families conduct and actions.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To all at Fairfield
Uniting I pray this CHRISTmas day may be the day your hearts will
feel CHRIST's presence and your eyes will be opened to the reality of
that which, in your midst, is terribly wrong and at odds with what
the day and 'your faith' represents and what, our Lord, expects of you.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-69907794172541139002014-12-15T11:49:00.001+11:002014-12-15T14:58:47.110+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
This one is for you
Graeme Tweed.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
That I “should take a
tumble to myself” as you put it was an interesting comment the
meaning of which is more significant to you than me. However for me
the more significant of your two comments was the statement “you
can't write about people in a blog and expect them to be your
friends”.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
My immediate
(un-spoken) thought was, for you, Church is about “friendship”
and that made me very sad for you. After all these years is that
what Church and being a Christian is to you Graeme?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Friendship (in Church
and life in general) is of some importance but it is a result of
exercising more important traits towards people. (True) friendship is,
in a way, a reward; it should never be expected and that
is, quite obviously, a major sticking point for you and some others at
Fairfield Uniting.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Which bring me to the
word “expect”. What is expected of (not by me) a Christian and a
Fairfield Uniting member is a Love of Christ with behaviour to match.
Ask yourself, Graeme, could you not have contributed to the 'issues'
of Fairfield Uniting by using more common-sense and not just
“following the leader”. The legacy of Fairfield Uniting is
yours, as much as it is others, and you are going to be around longer
to carry that burden!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Expect?” A
further point to not loose sight of Graeme is it is not I who will
makes the final judgement and my expectations of people are not of my
choosing. It is well past time the Congregation of Fairfield Uniting
looked deep into itself and ask the question, are we fulfilling
Christ's expectations of us? Are you Graeme, are your parents
Graeme, is the Fairfield Uniting Leadership and Congregation meeting
Christ's expectations?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To help you answer
those questions Graeme the following will document what happened when
I arrived at Fairfield Uniting on the morning, of Sunday 14Dec2014,
bringing Jessie to church.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It commences with the
main player being Noi Lertsinpakdee rushing to stand, on the road,
directly in the path of my vehicle, with the sole intention to
prevent me from parking, in a vacant spot, directly in front of
Fairfield Uniting. Not withstanding the inherent danger of Noi's
actions it was his intentions which also need scrutiny. Noi clearly
stated I was not to park as it was reserved for the Church bus. This
is of course a lie and shows illegal intent to impede a vehicle on a
public road whilst simultaneously causing significant danger to
himself and other road users.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What makes Noi's action
worse though is his statements, “he knows the law”, “he has the
right to stop me parking”, “I am the caretaker of this Church, I have the
right..”, “what are you (me) in the Church, nothing”. When I
asked was he going to stop me from allowing Jessie (a severely
disabled person) to get out of the car he said “yes”.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Just think for a moment
Graeme, if Jessie was your father, would you like to have seen him
treated the way Noi and you treated Jessie last Sunday morning? Ask
yourself this Graeme, what friendship did you extend toward Jessie?
Are you and Noi persons 'one' would want as friends?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Worse though; now think
about how that altercation looked to the 'outside world'. Think
about what those children sitting on the Church hall steps were
witnessing and learning from that event. Were Noi's actions, your
in-action, actions which fulfil the expectations of Christ?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The blog, Graeme, exist
for one reason only: it is a record of 'recent' events. Done to
ensure the truth about that which lays beneath the surface (the sin)
of Fairfield Uniting is understood in the future. It is a warning to
Fairfield Uniting's leadership and Congregation and to other
Congregations just how NOT to behave when conducting the 'business'
which represents Christ and his teachings.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The events of Sunday
are now also recorded publicly, in part, for the authorities to now
see Graeme. You, Noi, your parents, the Solifonis and the
Congregation may see breaking the law as being ok but does Christ?
You, Noi, your parents, the Solifonis and congregation may see what
Noi did as justified but, it was, in truth, dangerous, illegal and discriminatory.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Does that help you
answer the questions asked above Graeme, I'll repeat;</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Are you Graeme, are
your parents Graeme, is the Fairfield Uniting Leadership and
Congregation, Graeme, meeting Christ's expectations?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
If you - or any other
person in Fairfield Uniting and the wider Uniting Church - can answer
yes to those questions I would welcome your response and reasoning.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-26808655841959632592014-11-10T10:14:00.001+11:002014-11-10T13:16:42.131+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Well I'm back and, it
ain't with good news.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What
would Jesus do with the
Congregation of Fairfield
Uniting Church?</div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Should, <b><i>Fairfield Uniting Church be closed? </i></b>
</div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
If
you don't want to read all this post just go to the 2nd last paragraph starting with '*In closing.....' and let me know what
your answers may be to the two opening questions.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In talking with a
minister a couple of weeks ago there was a suggestion inferred these
blog posting were not helping.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
They are not meant to
help! They have been done to record (the truth for the future) the
un-Godly behaviour of Fairfield Uniting Church under the leadership
of its current Elders and Church Councillors.</div>
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I use, un-Godly, in a
strict sense meaning, quite simply, as a description of the behaviour
of Fairfield Uniting's Elders and Church Councillors; behaviour which
excludes (completely) God, the Holy Spirit and the teachings of Jesus,
in every respect.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I also have used these
posting to highlight the contrasts found at Fairfield Uniting:
often very good sermons are book-ended by behaviour which is almost
incomprehensible. Bullying, verbal abuse and physical intimidation
can all be experienced before and after the Sunday services at
Fairfield Uniting and, Sunday the 2<sup>nd</sup> October 2014 was no
exception. What happened, that day, is the subject of this post.</div>
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<br /></div>
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In addition to being a
record, these posting gave the Elders and Church Councillors an
opportunity to see another’s perspective of their actions and
behaviour so as to allow, their actions and behaviour, to be
addressed and fixed. A faint hope but I remain 'relatively'
optimistic ;-)
</div>
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So what did happen last
Sunday. Well, for starters, my wife and I arrived late for Church
due in no small part having travelled nearly 400km to get there; we
arrived as Rev. Choi was concluding his sermon and just prior to the
delivery of communion. Having not heard the sermon I am unable to
comment but, if Rev. Choi's delivered a sermon similar to the past it
would have been a worthy lesson.</div>
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Morning tea followed
the service which was, in turn, followed by a Congregational meeting;
the first since the 14 April 2013.</div>
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<br /></div>
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The meeting was opened
(and was to be Chaired by the self appointed) Mr. David Tweed (an
Elder and Chairman of the Church Council). Mr. D. Tweed opened with
two statements: the first statement indicated the meeting would be
run according to the 'Rules'. The second statement –
which in all probability passed over the heads of all but two – was
that only people in “good standing within the Church” were
entitled to be there and participate.</div>
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<br /></div>
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Only people in “good
standing within the Church” were entitled to be there and
participate. A curious comment but one which was not lost on me as
this is precisely the comment D. Tweed has directed at me personally
many times and, has used when referring to me when misleading
Presbytery in relation to my membership status. When it was (to my
knowledge) first thrown at me, some years ago, I was taken aback. In
trying to get to the bottom of why D. Tweed used and still uses, and
directs, that statement at me has met a complete dead-end. D.
Tweed's failure (for years) to tell me why he refers to me in this
way has led me to the conclusion it is completely without basis in
fact and is totally unjustified. It has now reached a point of being
a discriminatory and defamatory statement. It was used, again, in
the Congregational meeting, by D. Tweed (Elder) in an attempt and as
a reason for denying my democratic right to speak*!</div>
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<br /></div>
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Now the Congregational
meeting to which I am referring was to be our annual general meeting
and one which elected two (2) persons to the existing Church Council.
Following is the format of the agenda provided and printed on a
Church letter head;</div>
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<i>Agenda.</i></div>
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<i>1.
Minutes of last year</i></div>
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<i>2.
Minister report</i></div>
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<i>3. Office</i></div>
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<i>4. Diner</i></div>
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<i>5. Annexe</i></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<i>6.
Financial report</i></div>
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<i>7. Ballot</i></div>
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<br /></div>
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It's a joke
eh?</div>
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<br /></div>
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No joke,
Yep, that's it folks a genuine agenda Fairfield Uniting Church style:
a title and seven (7) 'points' of which only three (3) probably carry
any real meaning outside of a guess. Now, to you the reader, if you
know something about meetings of the type we were attending you would
be probably thinking was the meeting organised by kindergarten
children or experienced Elders/Church Councillors. As the
Chairman/Elder D. Tweed is in his eighties and has an extremely
dictatorial style, that agenda indicates, in just how much disdain
David Tweed holds the Congregation and just how cavalier are all the
Elders/Church Councillors in relation to the offices they hold.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In short,
the meeting was an inconvenience to the Elders and Church Councillors
and totally un-necessary, from their dictatorial point of view. As
you will soon come to see the Elders and Church Councillors of
Fairfield Uniting Church are a rouge council bent on protecting, at
any cost, their positions and control over Fairfield Uniting's
Congregation and The Uniting Church in Australia's property and
assets. With behaviour which excludes completely God, the Holy
Spirit and the teachings of Jesus, in every respect.</div>
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<br /></div>
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So to work
our way through the agenda. The first item: well they actually
didn't have the minutes from the previous two meetings what was
presented was a 'recollection' of what occurred. That another way to
say we'll present what we want you to hear not what happened. <i><b>I
do know why they do not have the original minute notes; because I
have them</b></i> ;-)</div>
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<br /></div>
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To continue:
we ramble our way through the “Minister report”, Office, Diner
and Annexe arriving finally at the Financial report which revealed
some very interesting points. Of particular interest was information
extracted in relation to Church owned vehicles destroyed and
purchased. More on that topic latter.</div>
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<br /></div>
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The we get
to the Ballot: this was of particular interest to me because it
involved the election of two persons to the existing rouge Church
Council.</div>
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<br /></div>
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Now cast
your mind back to an earlier paragraph in which I said “Mr. D.
Tweed opened (the meeting) with two statements: <i>the first
statement indicated the meeting would be run according to the Uniting
Church rules</i>. The second statement – which in all probability
passed over the heads of all but two – <i>was that only people in
“good standing within the Church” were entitled to be there and
participate</i>.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
You would be
forgiven for thinking having said the meeting was being to the 'Rules' that he (Elder/chairman D. Tweed) meant Uniting Church
rules and, you would be wrong! This is a Tweed and Solifoni show
therefore it's their 'Rules' which apply NOT the Uniting Church's.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
You see the
nomination, for the two positions, were NOT done nor did the
notification follow the Uniting Church rules. With the consequence
that when to ballot papers were about to be handed out I stood and
asked to speak. The immediate reply from the Chair was that I was
not going to be allowed speak, he as the Chairman was not going to
allow it and further more he angrily stated the reason why; it was
because “I was not a person of good standing in the church”.
There is that comment again and delivered as it was, very angrily,
and in front of the entire Congregation you may now see why I
consider it doth discriminatory and defamatory. What D. Tweed
(Elder/Chairman) was attempting to do was to deny me my democratic
right by discrediting my character – in public this time!</div>
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<br /></div>
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The meeting
– understandably - descended into chaos and on the way other Church
Councillors of the Congregation – one being, Foni Solifoni, a self appointed
Elder – choose to take the opportunity, and NOT speaking to the
motion in play, to also besmirch my character with one very lengthy
dissertation culminating in telling everybody about this blog. Now if
you have read the other posts, in this blog, you will be familiar
already with the character Foni Solifoni and some of his earlier
exploits (more on him later too in relation to him being a 'self
appointed Elder').</div>
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<br /></div>
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There came a
point, in the chaos, which I did get to speak. Important to note, at
this point, without any formal procedure a Ms. Ma'ata Solifoni took
over the functions of the Chair (you now see why I say Fairfield
Uniting is a Tweed/Solifoni circus with rules of administration to
match). I commenced speaking and in doing so pointed out how D.
Tweed had mentioned 'running to the rules' I also pointed out that
only last Sunday Ma'ata Solifoni had given a long childrens' talk in
church about the importance of following rules in society; the 10
commandments being the basis of that sermon.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
With a small
amount more to say about why the nominations were incorrectly done
and why the Congregation should have the opportunity to nominate
others, I was stopped by the 'self appointed Chair' and asked to
summarise. In other word we don't want to hear what you have to say
so make it brief. So I did by moving the following motion;</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<i>As the nominations
of Janet McKinley and Lorna Field have not complied with the
regulatory requirements of notification; I move (a procedural
motion) the Congregation vote to defer, their vote, for or against
their acceptance of the nominees, for the positions of Church
Councillors, to an adjournment of this meeting to be convened on the
30</i><sup><i>th</i></sup><i> November 2014.</i></div>
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<br /></div>
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<i>The
postponement will provide additional time and opportunity for the
nominees to reflect on the responsibilities of the office; it will
also provide additional time to ensure regulatory requirements are
met and, will provide the Congregation its rightful opportunity to
put forward other nominations for consideration.</i></div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Self explanatory and not a big deal actually and, if you were a
person, in that hall, with a head on your shoulders and a brain
within tuned in to 'GOD and doing things correctly in a Christian
environment' you, may, have rationally discussed the reasons for and
against and then proceeded. Don't forget this is Fairfield Uniting
Church – the Tweed/Solifoni show. After putting the motion, in the
melee which followed was when Foni Solifoni delivered his
condemnations on my character. Normal and predictable behaviour on
behalf of the Elders/Church Councillors and using their methods of coercion my motion, to postpone and, allow the Uniting Church rules to be adhered too, for the opportunity of other nominations, was
defeated and two new Church Councillors were elected.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Those two councillors now join the ranks of the rogue Elders and
Church Councillors and, sadly, they will now - unless they stop what
is happening (fix what has happened, ha! ha!) - become stained by
association. Sad and true!</div>
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<br /></div>
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Voting done and dusted D.Tweed then asked what next? I said date of
next meeting. D.Tweed then said to all assembled did they want to
finish and that was then end of the first Congregational meeting
since early April 2013. No date set for the next meeting is yet
again a display of the contempt the Elders and Church Councillors
hold the Congregation and is their way of displaying how they hold on
to their power.</div>
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<br /></div>
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*In
closing I am going to make a very important statement. Mr. David
Tweed, an Elder, Chairman of the Church Council and self elected
Chairman of the Congregational meeting told all those assembled that
what is written in this blog is “all lies” and that I was a liar.
Now this very serious accusation
was from the mouth of a Fairfield Uniting Church Elder whilst he was
Chairing a Congregational meeting – you, the reader, can draw you
own conclusions about what I have written but what Mr. David Tweed did was witnessed by
the Congregation
and nobody, absolutely nobody at that meeting could
challenged
what was said.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div align="LEFT" class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In
not
seriously challenging Mr. David Tweed's
character assassination of
me
– as
it happened - condemns
every person present, which in turns condemns the very spirituality
and
Christianity
of Fairfield Uniting Church: leaving only questions to be asked: a
key one being, what would Jesus do and
a second, given the un-Godlyness displayed; <i><b>Should
Fairfield Uniting Church be closed</b></i>?</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-85360835942464825682014-10-08T14:11:00.000+11:002014-10-15T10:45:19.813+11:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Can It Be Fixed?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The million$ question:
is it possible to 'fix' that which has occurred at Fairfield Uniting
Church?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To be able to do that –
'fix' Fairfield Uniting Church – one first needs to define the
'problem(s)', who is behind the 'problem(s)' and (probably, the most
difficult part) what might be driving them?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<i>Before tackling
those three questions let's recap. In an earlier post I argued the
reason Fairfield Uniting is as it is – an irreverent mess – is
because it is in the best interests of the Elders and Church
Councillors that it remain so. To change or 'fix' Fairfield Uniting
does mean the Elders and Church Councillors consider, in their minds,
they are going to 'loose' something!</i></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<i>How did Fairfield
Uniting Church get into the terrible state it is? Rev. Lunney said,
on one occasion, if people would read their bibles the 'problems'
would not exist. I responded along the lines, those causing the
'problems' know their bibles; reading is one thing applying is quite
another. Application means following what God and Jesus expect us
all to do in fulfilling the mission of a Christian Church; that is
what is NOT being done at Fairfield Uniting! </i>
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<i>Additionally, and
also in an earlier post, I made the statement, “Fairfield Uniting's
leaders, long ago, 'lost the plot'; Fairfield Uniting is most
</i><i><b>definitely about them</b></i><i> and </i><i><b>NOT Jesus</b></i><i>
and that must change!” That remains the case (aofn). God and
Christ Jesus need to be brought back into the centre of Fairfield
Uniting Church, </i><i>which</i><i> includes, making sure God and
Jesus form the centre of every action, decision and comment made by
the Elders and Church Councillors</i>.
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What might be driving
them? I'll address that as a question first, because, at the time of
writing this post, despite the protracted length of time involved
and, number of people involved, the answer to that question I –
surprisingly - may not have; but on the other hand I 'think' it can
be worked out.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The reason I do not
have a concrete answer is simply because the 'problem(s)', some of
which appear on the surface to exist between me and the Fairfield
Uniting Elders and Church Councillors have never been defined. The
Elders and Church Councillors have been, for years, accusing me, of
being the 'problem', using broad statements like - “your working
against us”. When asked how or why they have refused to say. Not
only have they refused to say, they have also refused to discuss –
'me the problem' – with me. That's right, Fairfield Uniting's
Elders and Church Councillors have NEVER taken the opportunities
provided (by me) to discuss the 'problem(s), nor have they attempted,
in any manner, to create or encourage me to discuss what it is they
believe I have and are doing 'wrong'. You know, its a process called
counselling; the sort of thing you would expect Elders and Church
Councillors to be able to do?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
That very failing, the
failing to discuss issues, has in itself become one of the major, if
not the main issue/problem. Talking through and or discussing
'issues/differences', in a church environment, is a 'God given right'
you might have thought. I am sure it is in many churches but, not at
Fairfield Uniting. So what question(s) might, not wanting to
talk/discuss raise? Well, time and repeated attempts to do so, has
given me a good insight as to why and, it distils down to a very
simple premise. The Elders and Church Councillors, of Fairfield
Uniting, simple believe they are completely above being questioned by
me (or any other person for that matter). They all believe I have
absolutely NO rights, NONE; one Church Councillor has said as much to
my face!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rights aside, what
question(s) does not wanting to talk/discuss a church member's
'conduct' – with the person - raise about the Elders and Church
Councillors? Is choosing NOT to discuss a church member's
challenging (sometimes referred to as disruptive) conduct an
appropriate position for Elders and Church Councillors to take? If
so when and how? Are the Elders and Church Councillors acting
responsibly? Are they carrying out their responsibilities as defined
in our biblical teachings and as they are laid out in the Uniting
Church rules?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The answer to the first
question - in the last paragraph – is, MANY. The answers to the
remaining questions is a resounding NO therefore NEVER, NO & NO.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
So, amongst the many
questions their (Elder/Church Councillors) conduct raises, if
following the teachings of Christ, if executing their roles in
accordance with that which is outlined in the Uniting Church in
Australia rules, is not what <i><b>they</b></i> are wanting to do;
the most pressing question may be, what do <i><b>they</b></i> see is
their role, as Elders and Church Councillors, in Fairfield Uniting
Church?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
If the Elders and
Church Councillors are choosing to ignore the fundamentals of
Christianity in following Christ teaching, and the requirements of
the Uniting Church in Australia; then just what is their role as
Elders and Church Councillors in Fairfield Uniting Church?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Answer; not known.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Why, then, bother to
wear the mantle of leadership at all?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Answer: POWER &
CONTROL; it's the only sensible conclusion based on what I witness:
POWER & CONTROL of the congregation; POWER & CONTROL over
individual congregational members (in what they can say and do) and,
POWER & CONTROL over the property and assets of the Uniting
Church as entrusted, by the wider church, to the Fairfield Uniting
Church Congregation!
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To repeat the question,
what might be driving the Elder and Church Councillors actions?
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Answer: personal POWER
& CONTROL!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The evidence abounds
and it is ALL confirmed by their actions. Not tabling substance or
evidence to support their accusations of 'wrong doing' and or
disruption; then refusing to discuss the 'issues' raised. Offend and
bully congregational members to 'encourage' them to walk away.
Elders and Church Councillors strip volunteers of their roles: for
the sole purpose of ensuring the person understands they are no
longer welcome – by the Elders and Church Councillors of Fairfield
Uniting Church; those members then feel compelled to walk away and
leave the Fairfield Uniting Church. Embroil and use other un-thinking
congregational members to encourage and support the ostracising of
target individual congregational members. Actively seek to remove
both congregational members and clergy who dare challenge their goal
for total CONTROL! The evidence is plain to see by any person who
might choose to take even a cursory look at the past and recent
history of the administration issues, congregational and clergy loses
at Fairfield Uniting Church.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
So I started with three
(3) overarching statements/questions: “one first needs to define
the 'problem(s)'?, who is behind the 'problem(s)' and (probably, the
most difficult part) what might be driving them?”. Having concluded
CONTROL and POWER addresses the last of the three questions let’s
now move (backwards) and tackle the second question, “who is behind
the 'problem(s)'?”.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Who? There are those
who would say all the ‘problems’ of Fairfield Uniting Church are
caused by me and me alone. I did feel, for a period, I was an
integral part of Fairfield Uniting's 'problems'. I no longer do, and
have covered this situation in earlier posts. I drawing my
conclusion based on knowing if I was the 'problem' what evidence
could the Elders and Church Councillors show, to demonstrate they had
made every or any effort to counsel, support and or address why they
perceive me as being the ‘problem/issue’ in Fairfield Uniting
Church.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The truth is, the
Elders and Church Councillors have absolutely NOTHING to show which
would support their accusations. They have not even come close to
fulfilling the requirements and responsibilities relating to the
positions held as outlined in the Uniting Church ‘rules’ and or
the teachings of Christ. In failing at a fundamental level the
Elders and Church Councillors have tagged themselves as ‘the who’
behind Fairfield Uniting Church’s ‘problems/issues’. They and
they alone must now carry the full responsibility.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Who? David &
Patricia Tweed, Talanoa, & Ma’ata Solifoni and Noi
Lertsinpakdee are the main players. Those individuals form the
current ‘rogue’ Fairfield Uniting Church Council who MUST bear
the entire responsibility for the appalling ‘recent’ events which
now define Fairfield Uniting Church as a disappointingly irreverent
and fallen place of worship.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Two of my questions
have now been addressed. From what I have recorded in this post and
the others within this blog we see D.&P Tweed, T., <span style="color: black;">L</span>.
& M. Solifoni and N. Lertsinpakdee are the persons responsible
for the dictatorial control and, it can easily be said, 100% of the
nastiness, un-pleasantness, irreverence and loses of generations of
congregational members. Their drive, for POWER as individuals, to
selfishly CONTROL Fairfield Uniting’s property, Worship services &
congregational members, in preference to administering church affairs
on the congregation’s behalf, is a key driver*.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The last of my three
statements/questions; “one first needs to define the 'problem(s)'.</div>
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*In stating POWER and
CONTROL are the key drivers of the Elders and Church Councillors it
is only a small step to make to then understand it is the Elders and
Church Councillors drive for POWER and CONTROL as also being ‘the
problem(s)’. It is oversimplifying to a degree, but POWER &
CONTROL does underline what I see as ‘a major problem/issue’.</div>
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To continue, a wee bit more focused – on the individuals – behind
the overarching goal for POWER and CONTROL.</div>
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There is a litany of issues which have accumulated over the years in
relation to D. Tweed (which are well known to many in Fairfield
Uniting – past and present and to Presbytery). Much has been
either ignored or simply counteracted by conscientious, gracious
congregational members. Many of whom have left because ‘it’ just
became too much to bear. But the issues which surround D. Tweed’s
exertion of CONTROL, have been magnified – (in 'recent' times) - by
his personal effect/attacks (on me, my family and a great number of
other congregational members; including his OWN family members), are
not the only problems. The merging of the desire to CONTROL by the
Tweeds has been aligned with a similar intent of the Solifonis. The
‘problems’ experienced at Fairfield Uniting have been further
enhanced by the introduction, by the Solifonis, of a particular
‘family issue’. An 'issue' T. & L. Solifoni seem to, on the
one hand claim is of nobody else’s business and yet, on the other
hand have made it EVERYBODY’S issue, at Fairfield Uniting, by their
own actions. The Solifoni’s family issue is a root cause of the
bullying, the physical and verbal attacks (some now recorded in this
blog) on me and my family.</div>
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That said why do I seem
to be a focus? As these blog postings mention and allude too, I am
not the only person who has 'run foul' of the Elders and Church
Councillors; there are many others including clergy. What probably
stands proud – in 'recent' times - is that I have 'pushed back'
and, challenged Elders and Church Councillors actions, to such a
degree I am seen as a threat to their POWER and CONTROL end game. My
belief the congregation's welfare and opinions, as a whole, is of
more 'importance' than those who choose to dictate, is seen as a
threat. It simple does not figure in their POWER and CONTROL quest
I, or the congregation, should have any say in what does or does
not happen at Fairfield Uniting Church.</div>
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So, we are closer to
understanding what are 'the real problems/issues' at Fairfield
Uniting. But, why has it been so difficult for me as a person?
Firstly, I am going to zero in on the 'friction' which appears to
exist between David Tweed (an Elder) and me. This will reveal two
very significant points. The most important being, remember, D.
Tweed is an Elder of Fairfield Uniting and Chairman of the Church
Council. The second point being, the 'friction' (which by definition
involves at least two bodies) is the creation of, and is
perpetuated solely by D. Tweed.</div>
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Put bluntly, D. Tweed
is - when it comes to particular issues – extremely dogmatic. His
aggressiveness blossoms when 'questioned' about something he believes
should be done in a particular or 'his way'. For me – in a
community or congregational sense – that single minded approach is
likely to always cause problems. Every person has a different
approach, or view, of a particular problem or issue; however, should
another person's view differ from that of D. Tweed, and the alternate
view is voiced, trouble is sure to follow! That has been a feature
of Fairfield Uniting since its earlier Methodist days.</div>
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So let's take a quick
tour of what may have brought me into 'recent' - (recent being a
relative term and for the sake of brevity ;-) I will be using 2009 as
the start point) - conflict with D. Tweed; which, in turn, led to me
choosing not worship at Fairfield Uniting for a period of time. This
will also provide an insight as to why 'solutions to problems/issues'
are so difficult when D. Tweed is involved.</div>
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There was an issue
which arose some time back relating to a particular member of the
clergy. Comments were made, about the individual, which I (and
others) found very disturbing and offensive. Offensive because they
had no substance and, partly because they truly challenged freedom of
speech within and outside Fairfield Uniting Church. They were
statements and instructions a church leader should NOT have made
privately let alone to the congregation.</div>
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When I approached D.
Tweed, in relation to that which was said, expecting to be able to
discuss it; imagine my surprise when D. Tweed immediately launched a
vitriolic attack, not only on the person previously mentioned but on
me and my character as well! D. Tweed's character attack on me was
very personal and indicated I had caused much trouble too and in the
church. What was significant, at the time and subsequently, is what
D. Tweed was indicating, or alluding too, was simply not true.</div>
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Indeed when asked, at
the time (and subsequently a number of times), to qualify his
comments he WOULD NOT. To this day that remains the situation: D.
Tweed refuses (“<i>I will never give you an answer to your
questions</i>!”) to justify his assertions of my 'wrong doing'.
Whatever is going on in the mind of D. Tweed there is no doubt he is
harbouring distorted thoughts which influence his questionable
decisions and actions.
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There you have it, in a
'nut shell', almost the ultimate problem for any concerned person. I
said earlier an insight as to why 'problems' are what they are and
have become, at Fairfield Uniting, would be forthcoming and there it
is. D. Tweed leads the Church Councillors in 'throwing mud' at
perceived threats and at no stage are they prepared, to consider the
contradiction of their actions, to alter course or to discuss, why!
</div>
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It is worth
understanding I did stop worshipping at Fairfield Uniting for a
period of time as a direct result of D. Tweed's actions and
continuing refusal to accept his responsibilities as an Elder and to
conduct himself accordingly. It is also worth adding here, when I
returned to worship at Fairfield Uniting – the direct result of the
efforts of several people – I was NOT welcomed back by the leaders.
Yet another contradiction?</div>
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My family and extended
family continued to worship at Fairfield Uniting which allowed me to
remain 'attached' as it were and to gauge whether or not my self-imposed exile improved 'church' for those who I had been told I had
caused trouble; the truth is it did not. In the period I was 'away'
I was able to look very closely at what I thought I may have done to
'cause the trouble' and, watching was continuing to occur,
concluded I was not the problem D. Tweed believed I was. It was at
this time I also concluded it was simply because I would NOT let
D.Tweed's appalling behaviour go un-challenged that was the 'cause'
of his angst. It also is why he cannot discuss or justify his
attacks and accusations; because that would mean he would have to
question or change his actions and, he is simply NOT prepared or man
enough to do so!</div>
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<br /></div>
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But how far was this
fellow, and Fairfield Uniting Church Councillors, prepared to go in
attacking me as a person; well 'all the way' at it turned out.</div>
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D. Tweed often referred
to me as a “person of not good standing”; this statement he used
both to my face and when speaking of me with others, including
presbytery's secretary, Mr. J. Cutts. The statement is a curious, an
'old world', expression but its use was intentional and used to
insult. D. Tweed used the statement as a weapon and as a shield. As
a shield, to justify his REFUSAL to accept his responsibility as an
Elder. As a weapon, it was effectively used to deliberately prevent
Fairfield Uniting's congregation's right to call a special
congregational meeting.</div>
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D. Tweed and the entire
Church Council called my character into question for the sole purpose
of thwarting the democratic rights and voice of the then Fairfield
Uniting congregation. That dictatorial act was achieved with the
Presbytery's assistance. Presbytery swallowed 'hook line and sinker'
D. Tweed's assertion my character was not good leaving J. Cutts with
a belief my membership of the Uniting Church was in doubt. How do I
know that; because J. Cutts asked me (personally) to write a letter
to Fairfield Uniting's Church Council to have my membership clarified
and or confirmed.</div>
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I was not happy to
write the letter as I saw it (and that turned out to be correct) was
nothing more than a smoke screen; a fabrication of D. Tweed and
Fairfield Uniting Church Councillors to allow them to justify not
doing what the Uniting Church Rules required them to do and, up until
now they have got away with it.</div>
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For those of you who
know the 'rules' you will know there is a procedure laid out to
discipline Uniting Church members and at NO stage have those rules or
procedures been followed by the Fairfield Uniting Elders and Church
Councillors nor by Presbytery and Mr. J Cutts. To this day those
procedure have still NOT been applied or followed; the reasons for
must now be obvious to you the reader.</div>
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To follow the
disciplinary procedures requires counselling 'of the person'.
Counselling requires discussion: as I have outlined D. Tweed, as an
Elder, and the ENTIRE Fairfield Uniting Church Council are REFUSING
to discuss anything with me! That situation should be of grave
concern to the entire membership and leadership of the Uniting Church
in Australia: but I don't think any could care less!</div>
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<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Can Fairfield Uniting
be fixed?**</div>
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I started with three
components in a statement which are also question;</div>
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One). First define the
'problem(s)': In the main, whilst there are many issues, the 'problem'
at Fairfield Uniting is the Elders and Church Councillors. Central
to them being the 'problem' is their inability to accept and
carry-out their responsibilities as leaders, as defined in the
Uniting church in Australia rules;</div>
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Two). Who is behind the
'problem(s)'?; self-evident. The Fairfield Uniting Elders and Church
Councillors are a 'rogue' Church Council. It would appear
inconceivable leaders in the Uniting Church in Australia could act as
they do at Fairfield Uniting, but they do and will continue to do so
until the congregation, with the support of the wider Uniting Church,
bring them to account;</div>
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Three). What might be
driving them? POWER and CONTROL. Nothing more and nothing less.
Fairfield Uniting Church's Elders and Church Councillors want to
totally CONTROL all aspects of the Fairfield Uniting Church. They
believe it is only they who can and should decide what occurs at
Fairfield Uniting Church and what clergy and congregational members
can say and do. This is of course totally at odds with the
requirements and teaching of the Uniting Church in Australia but, it
is what they are currently doing with the tacit support of the
congregation, and the leaders of Presbytery, Synod and The Assembly.</div>
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**So I return to the
question; Can Fairfield Uniting be fixed?</div>
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<br /></div>
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YES, with GOD's
help/guidance. Which does, of course, mean D. & P Tweed
(Elders), T. & M. Solifoni and N. Lertsinpakdee are going to need
to, firstly, listen to what God wants of them, then do the
un-thinkable; accept their responsibility and their role in all that
has 'gone wrong' at Fairfield Uniting Church. They must stop their
vindictive behaviour, apologise and accept the inevitable in line
with what I put forward at a meeting with them and Presbytery.</div>
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<br /></div>
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Then and only then will
Fairfield Uniting Church be able to be said to be a place of true
worship, reverence and of peace. Only then will Fairfield Uniting
become, once again, a place my entire family, and those who have been
forced to leave, would want to once again worship within.</div>
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A conclusion of sorts
but I have not finished this post;</div>
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The direct interaction
between D. Tweed and me I have outlined as an example of the
'problems/issues' at Fairfield Uniting. Earlier in this post I
stated issues experienced by the Solifoni family had combined with
the existing 'D. Tweed based' issues and that needs clarification.
The full details of their issues I will leave to another time but
suffice to say the reason their issues have wrought the havoc, within
Fairfield Uniting, they have distils to a relatively simple premise.
</div>
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The handling of the
Solifoni 'family issue' was completely mis-handled right from the
start. It was handled incorrectly by the Solifoni parents and by the
Elders. To the best of my determination and as a result of a
statement made by D. Tweed (Elder) there was no intention nor attempt
made by the (current) Elders of Fairfield Uniting to counsel and or
assist in what was becoming a very serious issue with wider
implications for several families and Fairfield Uniting Church. Not
to get involved was flawed thinking and a fundamental failing by the
Elders, D. & P Tweed. There was much more they should have done
to ensure what has happened did not!</div>
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<br /></div>
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However, whilst I
believe they, as Elders, 'dropped the ball quite badly' I am also
aware of the Solifoni 'resistance'. As previously mentioned, there
appears to be a belief their problems are not the business of the
church, and yet by their own actions, bullying and abuse, of church
members, they have ensured it is the business of Fairfield Uniting
Church. It is simply NOT possible for them to say it is not: this is
a critical point, for if, their issue is not the Church's', then their
angst directed towards me and my family simply would not exist!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Then their angst
directed towards me and my family simply would not exist!” If that
were so then there was never any reason to bully, abuse and attack
me, my family and extended family. Equally there would never have
been the situation nor the material available for me to write much of
what I have written in these post. So why have the Solifoni's
continued to rail against me and all who they see I represent?
Because it suits their pursuit of POWER and CONTROL.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To even consider
talking about their 'supposed' disappointment would mean, as it does
for D. & P Tweed, facing some un-palatable truths about
themselves. Which in turn, would mean they would no longer be able
to blame others for their failing and shortcomings; they would have
to face the bare fact they have made some very big mistakes!
Mistakes which will take a long time to fix and, as I can speak from
experience, will mean their family will NEVER be as it may have been
or what they would have wished for. The Solifonis' should be prayed
for of that there is no doubt; equally of no doubt is the fact, they
could have and should have, availed themselves of the help being
offered.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
They made the choice to
take a very narrow view of 'their' issue and refused that which was
being offered. It's was a choice not an imposition the Solifonis'
needed to make; they made an un-wise choice, one I do not agree with,
but it has been accepted. Problem is, not content with making the
choice to refuse help, the Solifonis' then chose to heap the blame,
un-justifiably, on to others. Most notably me!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
T. Solifoni asked me,
to my face, to step into the situation he faced, and when I had done
some preliminary work he then roundly rebuffed my request for 'his
side of the story' claiming, through another person, my involvement
was offensive. Then through that same third party issued an
instruction which, had I have done, was morally in-defensible and
would have all but broken the law! Since then, even when given
additional opportunities to discuss and or help, he continues to
refuse to talk.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Time, in these
situations, is a tool which one can use to assess different
approaches, scenarios and possible outcomes. Time, in relation to
the Solifoni issue, has given me an insight into the inflexible
thought processes being applied by these people and it leads me yet
again to conclude CONTROL and POWER, this time over an individual, is
at its heart. To consider there may be an alternative does not
figure on the 'Solifoni radar', because it does NOT fit their
ultimate goals. They cannot bear the thought they may have to share
in another person's life in preference to CONTROLLING it! Sad, and
true, a situation crying out for prayer and support but.....</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
So it is quite easy now
to see why Fairfield Uniting's Church Council has become, as I put
it, a 'rogue' council. You have the desire to CONTROL and DICTATE
permeating the entire Church Council membership. With differing
underlying causes and motives but, when they perceive there is a
'common enemy' they have chosen to 'protect' their CONTROL and POWER
by closing ranks to bolster their indefensible positions in
preference to performing the duties their positions, and the rules,
require them to do. In taking this treacherous path they have chosen
to abdicate their responsibilities as Elders and Church Councillors
but, want to retain the positions and titles. A hypocritical stance,
in the true sense!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
**So, yet again, I
return to the question; Can Fairfield Uniting be fixed?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
YES, with GOD's
help/guidance. Which does, of course, mean D. & P Tweed
(Elders), T. & M. Solifoni and N. Lertsinpakdee are going to need
to, firstly, listen to what God wants of them, then do the
un-thinkable; accept their responsibility and their role in all that
has 'gone wrong' at Fairfield Uniting. They must stop their
vindictive behaviour, apologise and accept the inevitable in line
with what I have previously put forward at a meeting with them and
Presbytery.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Then and only then will
Fairfield Uniting Church be able to be said to be a place of true
worship, reverence and of peace. Only then will Fairfield Uniting
become, once again, a place my entire family, and those who have been
forced to leave, would want to once again worship within.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Not a conclusion
either, but a 'road map of sorts' with one confronting consideration
to follow;</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
For me the most
confronting piece of sadness Fairfield Uniting Church represents is
one which no gracious, self-respecting or competent Elder or Church
Councillor could possibly want as a display of their leadership
capabilities. There are Fairfield Uniting members and family members
of the Fairfield Uniting Church's Elders and Church Councillors who
are not worshipping at Fairfield Uniting because of their actions and
they know full well why. There are also those who continue to
worship at Fairfield Uniting Church who are far from 'happy' with the
situation they find themselves; again the Elder and Church
Councillors know why and are the central cause.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
To know those
situations exist and to be not actively working to rectify them
demonstrates very loudly just how much of the 'problem' Fairfield
Uniting Church is, is of the Elders and Church Councillors creation.
They are, in the main, <b>the problem</b>! Their ill-considered
drive for CONTROL and POWER has destroyed their love and compassion
for the church; from their point of view there must appear no good
reason to make Fairfield Uniting Church one which welcomes all in the
name of Christ.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I conclude with the
following tease, a question and an answer;</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
If you want to see a
prime example of exactly how Fairfield Uniting's Elders and Church
Councillors perceive Fairfield Uniting Church, within the community
of Fairfield, with your eyes wide open, take a look at what is handed
out each week. Do you see what I see?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Can Fairfield Uniting
Church be 'fixed'?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
YES, if God and our
Saviour Christ are re-instated at the centre of Fairfield Uniting
Church.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-14244720805308005162014-10-05T10:55:00.001+11:002014-10-05T10:55:45.099+11:00Left behind, why?<br />
Whilst visiting family a considerable distance from home, in a phone call I was told an elderly parishioner would like to go to church today.<br />
Unable to pick him up because of my location I sent a message to another church member asking for the pick-up to be done.<br />
Have just received a message from the fellow's family to say "the bus has not arrived".<br />
Has the fellow been picked-up or not? I guess I will find out when I return.<br />
If he has not I could assume the message - I sent - was not received or, I might also assume the person who received the message ignored the request in yet another demonstration of how personal animosities/agendas control what the leaders and members of Fairfield Uniting Church dictate who gets to go to church and who does not! Which of the two options is correct, I wonder.<br />
Pray for these fellows souls.R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-65850350883884000462014-09-29T17:50:00.000+10:002014-09-30T14:14:24.738+10:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
from Romans 15:</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
“<i>We should not
please ourselves. Instead, we should all please our brothers and
sisters for their own good, in order to build the</i><i>m</i><i> in
the faith</i>.”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Sunday 28 Sept’
2014 back to worship at Fairfield Uniting and it was of no surprise
the ‘welcome mat’ was not rolled out for me ;-) and, as we are
well used too it was a morning of contrasts.</div>
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As I started writing
this post a live show played by the Monty Python cast was on the
television. Monty Python is a 'comedy' show of sorts often featuring
very irreverent sketches which poke fun at religion; the show running
in the background was no exception and I could not help drawing a
parallel with Fairfield Uniting Church.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
I have said before
if these post were not recording the very serious state of Fairfield
Uniting irreverence, they could be seen as a bad script for a tragic
opera. There is a small group of individuals who have jointly
combined to re-define the reverence of Fairfield Uniting from a
church of love and friendships to one of personal vendettas. That
group comprises the entire Fairfield Uniting Church Council, a rogue
council; to a man and woman Fairfield Uniting's Church sunk today to
a still greater low than before solely at the hands of the
Elders/Church Councillors and one particular church member.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Picture if you will
a cream biscuit: three layers. The outer two layers are brittle,
none too sweet and crumble when bitten. The middle layer, creamy in
texture, sweet and full of flavour. In truth, as it is described as
a cream biscuit, it is the centre most are wanting to eat.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Fairfield Uniting
service/sermon was the cream: led by Rev. Choi it was full of
meaning, substance and a touch of a warning. The children’s
message was delivered by Penny Solifoni.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
The biscuit/wafers
were Foni and Rachael Solifoni.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
The morning unfolded
thus but not in the order written;</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
The service
commenced led by Rev. Choi with a greetings, prayers and a hymn.
Penny Solifoni's talk was based on the reading from Exodus 17:1-7; a
story outlining Moses following instruction to strike a rock to
obtain water for those he was leading in the wilderness. Penny's
'punch-line' stated the thirsty were facing a seemly impossible
situation which needed them to trust in God.
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Here, yet again was
a display of the contrast of Fairfield Uniting, a children's story
delivered by a young member of a family who face some very real
personal crisis and are deliberately using their problems, as an
excuse/foil, to destroy the very fabric of Fairfield Uniting by
blaming others for their shortfalls; by targeting, slandering and
bullying other individuals. It is so terribly sad. However, until
their stone hearts submit to the teachings of Christ and let God
direct their thoughts and deeds they will continue to direct and
inflict their pain, through their unjustified actions, onto others.
A normal Sunday at Fairfield Uniting!
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Rev. Choi continued
the theme developing it more fully by initially outlining, then
expanding on, two question he said 'confronted' him. “Have you
ever felt desperately thirsty?” “Have you ever demanded proof of
God?”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
In the context of
these posts, the answer too “Have you ever felt desperately
thirsty?” is a resounding <i>YES</i>. Think of Penny's “impossible
situations” and another question posed by Rev. Choi' “can we
drink water from him (God) even in the hardest and most unlikely
places?”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Fairfield Uniting's
Elders and Church Councillors are the closest any of us will get to
meeting the Pharisees of old. If ever there were any in need of
drinking the life giving waters of the scriptures it is the entire
congregation of Fairfield Uniting not withstanding the Elders and
Church Councillors. There exist a huge need to quench the thirst for
revenge - at play in the leadership at Fairfield Uniting. We need to
quench that thirst with compassion, understanding and love as taught,
and displayed, by Christ.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Rev. Choi finished
with; “<b>Use what you have in your hands, today, for the work of
the Lord</b>”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Let's now look at
the brittle biscuit either side of the service. That is, what
happened to me before the service and what happened in the aisle of
the church as we were leaving.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Firstly on arrival,
by virtue of circumstance, I needed to walk past several people
standing near the entrance of the church. I offered my hand to the
first person, who reciprocated with words of welcome. To the person
standing beside him I then, also, offered my hand. Saying nothing,
looking away and leaving his hands in his pockets he nodded only at
my gesture. Rejecting a hand offered in friendship says much about a
person but, when that person is a Church Councillor it says volumes
about the person and Fairfield Uniting as a Church.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
In his response,
Foni Solifoni did not reject me, he rejected our Lords wishes,
abdicated his responsibility as a Church Councillor and demonstrated
to those around him just how brittle he is and how much guidance and
support he is, personally, in need of. What more can I say or do
except pray for Foni's heart and soul! One brittle wafer.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Now for the other:
as we were to leaving the service, in the ensuring traffic jamb, I
said good morning to a woman standing on the other side aisle. Her
reply was initially indistinct. When I asked what she said I was
told and she followed with a repeat that “we should leave the
church for good”. Rachael Solifoni's reply was no surprise and,
just as her husband did earlier, by rejecting a pleasantry Rachael
demonstrated, yet again, just how brittle and bitter she is. Yet
again Rachael Solifoni displayed how desperately she wants to blame
and hurt others for her shortfalls. As with Foni, what more can you
say or do except pray for Rachael's heart and soul!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
So consumed, by
their family and personal issues, are these two, they are completely
abandoning the very principles taught by Christ whilst at the same
time attending and participating in morning worship. Curious
or.....?
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
“<b>Use what you
have in your hands, today, for the work of the Lord</b>” said Rev.
Choi. Both Foni and Rachael Solifoni used what they had in their
hands/hearts: but were their actions/words the tools to hand Rev.
Choi was was alluding too, were they working for the Lord? I think
not.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="color: black;">“</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">Be
not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good</span></span></b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">”
Romans 12:21 (KJ ver.) Was a key statement made by Rev. Kava – in
an earlier sermon – and is a great piece of advice. However, as
with much else Foni and Rachael </span></span><b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">choose</span></span></b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">
to NOT accept 'hands offered in friendship' because, as I said in
previous posts, it does not suit </span></span><b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US"><i>their</i></span></span></b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">current
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">purpose
and they see it as not being in </span></span><b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US"><i>their</i></span></span></b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US"><i>
best interest</i></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">to
do so.</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">Sad,
but true, which means, </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">of
course,</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">
they – nobody else - are the single biggest stumbling block to
finding a solution to </span></span><b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US"><i>their</i></span></span></b><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-US">
problems.</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">The
tragedy Foni, Rachael and Ma'ata Solifoni represent, along with their
partnership </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">and
the </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">different
tragedy Pat and David Tweed have created for themselves and their
family, have combined as one in Fairfield Uniting's Church Council.
The net result is that Fairfield Uniting's congregation is now
defined by the Tweed/Solifoni </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">combo</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">:
the 'problem' Fairfield Uniting </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">has
become</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">,
is because Fairfield Uniting's Elders and Church Councillors have
moulded the Fairfield Uniting Church/Congregation in</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">to</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">
a form of themselves. Fairfield Uniting Church is all about the
Tweeds and Solifonis: </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">if
it were not so I could never have written these posts.</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-US">If
he belongs, </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-AU">where
does Christ fit/</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-AU">figure</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-AU">
in the Tweed/Solifoni </span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-AU">hearts
and</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-AU">
church?</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
At the tail end of
Rachael's comment was another gem, as usual; a reason Rachael gave
for me going is because, Rachael says, “you have brought your bad mouth
into church”. Was this a case of the 'pot calling the kettle
black' or does it have substance. Others can decide and I know when
the time comes there is only one judge who counts.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Rachael is, of
course, mentioned through these posts as a person quick to bully and
slander not only my family and others church members, but her own;
and she does all this in front of and within the Fairfield Uniting
congregation on Sundays. The reason these posts can exist, as a
record, is in greater part, due to Rachael's (Elder and Church
Councillor supported) behaviour. Without meaningful spiritual
leadership within Fairfield Uniting there was a need to expose
publicly and record, for future reference, what Fairfield Uniting has
become.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
“<i>Always look on
the bright side of life, always look on the bright side of
life.....etc</i>” as sung in Monty Python maybe a light-hearted
finale to this post about Fairfield Uniting but I am going to add one
more observation;
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
In the 'satirically
contradictory'
stage show which is played out, at Fairfield Uniting, each week -
with a cast consisting of the Fairfield Uniting's Elders and Church
Councillors, Pat & David Tweed, Foni and Ma'ata Solifoni +
Rachael - just what is the show about, for them? Christ our Lord and
Saviour, about what he did in dying for us all or, is it about what
the main players can take by way of 'a thrill and reward'; for the
hurt they inflict, the power they engineered and enforce over
individuals and the Fairfield Uniting Congregation as a whole? What
do you think?</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">For
me it is sad to see people consume </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">there
souls</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
in a fight they cannot win; they are fighting God</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">'s</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
will. Fairfield Uniting Elders and Councillors need to stop, reflect
and pray: they have already missed out on the opportunity to fix the
damage </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">they
have</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
inflicted on some but, there is still opportunity, if they choose, to
restore </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">some
of </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">the
respect they have lost and fix some of what they have destroyed; </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">w</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">ith
God's help.</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">From
the previous post as preached by another minister;</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
“rebuke us (the
ministry team/leaders) if 'it' becomes about us and not Jesus.”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="color: black;">“<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span lang="en-AU">Partner
with leaders. 'You' cannot do ministry on your own. Minister to one
another.”</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">Pat
& David Tweed, Foni and Ma'ata Solifoni and Rachael; </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">accept
the rebuke(s) in the spirit they are offered and for the
opportunities it presents. </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">Partner
with </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">God
and</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">the
Fairfield Uniting congregation</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">.
'You' cannot do ministry on your own. Minister to one another.”</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">Y</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">ou
have tried to do </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">'</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">ministry
on </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU"><i><b>your
own</b></i></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">'</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">,
in </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">'</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU"><i><b>your
own way</b></i></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">'</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
and, its has </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU"><b>failed</b></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">.
You have hurt and split </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU"><b>your</b></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
families and friends </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">whilst
strengthening </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">those
you have</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">targeted
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">and
who you continue to want to hurt</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">;
soon</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">er
better than later</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">,
I hope and pray, you will see that more clearly.</span></span></span></span></div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">Learn
to Minister to ALL in preference to only those who you decide are
'worthy'.</span></span></span></span></div>
<br />
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
<span style="color: black;">“</span><span style="font-family: Calibri, sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">Use
what you have in your hands, today,</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU"><b>
for the work of the Lord</b></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span lang="en-AU">”.</span></span></span></span></div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-80308497554882132992014-09-23T22:02:00.000+10:002014-09-24T13:57:00.813+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I finished
my last post by stating power and control, of the Fairfield Uniting
Church and Congregation, was a driving force behind Fairfield Uniting
current problems. I also stated a reason the 'problems' don't 'get
fixed' is primarily driven by the Elders and Church Councillors NOT
wanting to 'lose' the dictatorial control they currently enforce
because it is not in their <i>best interest</i> to do so.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Because
it is not in their <i>best interest</i> to do so.” Let's return to
that point toward the end of this post*.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Yesterday
(Sunday the 21<sup>st</sup>) was a very enjoyable day. We attended
two church services; one quite close to Fairfield Uniting and one
some distance away. The reason? Well because we could and, it
provided us the opportunity to worship with members of our family who
have previously been driven away from Fairfield Uniting. In doing so
it reminded me of just how different Fairfield Uniting is to other
churches. The most stark difference being the welcome we received;
even knowing who we were we were still welcomed; not a feeling we
have been accustomed too at Fairfield Uniting for a very long time.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Attending
two services means two sermons: the first being about the role music,
in particular, singing plays in Christian worshiping. An interesting
choice of subject, by a young minister, which focused on the reasons
music, singing in praise in particular, was important. The sermon
came with some warnings though; one warning being that we should pay
close attention to the words and their meanings**.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
At
Fairfield Uniting singing, led by an organist/pianist, has always
played a significant part of worship. At least that was the case
until Fairfield Uniting Elders and Church Councillors decided to push
her away from the congregation and switch to appallingly discordant
canned music – with one exception of course. That exception is, of
course, the Solifoni singer's see how good are we - when it suits us
– segment. **Pleasing to the ear if not to the soul: indeed my
current thoughts turn to the Solifoni's singing (recently) about
being Sunday Christians. I remember thinking how appropriate (ironic
maybe) the song was being sung by Fairfield Uniting's (pseudo self
appointed Elders) Church Councillors!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The second
sermon started with the minister posing the question, “what do I
do?”. What do ministers actually do? Great question(s) and one
some, in some congregations, might struggle to answer if asked to
express their knowledge, of the tasks/jobs their ministers did on
days other than Sunday.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The
minister delivering the sermon proceeded to outline what tasks/jobs
he and his ministry team (of four) did on any given week and it was a
considerable list. But there were important points he was about to
make and as a backdrop to his sermon he referenced the words of Paul
as recorded in Romans 15 specifically verses 14 to 33.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The
initial question asked and the 'works' of Paul were and, are not
about their effort, they are about the opportunity which was and is
provided to each of these individual, and us all, to pass on, to
others, the teachings of Christ. For Paul, in his travels, it was to
take Christ teachings to the gentiles. In a similar manner so it is
for each of us and whilst we may not be (always) forging new ground
as did Paul, none the less, as Christians, we are charged with the
responsibility of ensuring that which we do, with the opportunities
presented, does reflect Christ's teachings. Gods work is not about
us or the time we spend doing it***!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
There were
several other questions posed to the congregation, during the sermon,
but there was one in particular which struck a cord with me. It was
this; “what happens when it goes pear shaped.....”? When what
goes pear shaped you may be asking? For the person preaching he was
referring to churches which may be failing in one form or another and
he suggested the reason may well be rooted in the fact Christ and his
teachings were no longer the centre of focus. He suggested if the
focus of a church's activity had shifted to its leadership in
preference to Christ then it was in trouble.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
He
continued, and ended by asking his congregation to do four things,
all under the heading of “Keeping God at the Centre”.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
One) Pray
to be humble and to glorify God.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Two) To
give thanks for the ministry team. (Minister(s), leaders.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
***Three)
To “rebuke us” (the ministry team/leaders) if 'it' becomes about
us and not Jesus.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Four)
Partner with leaders. 'You' cannot do ministry on your own.
Minister to one another.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Four (4)
very important points, applicable to all churches, including
Fairfield Uniting, but the two which hit home for me were points
Three & Four. The minister speaking was inviting his
congregation to “rebuke” him and the church leaders if they
'strayed' onto a path which was about them and not All About Jesus.
Sound familiar?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Can you
imagine Fairfield Uniting's Edlers and Church Councillors being
rebuked by any person in the Fairfield Uniting's congregation. Truth
is, the 'problems' of Fairfield Uniting, are very heavily embedded in
the forced control exercised, by Fairfield Uniting's Elders and
Church Councillors, the root cause of the 'problems' at Fairfield
Uniting is the focus demanded by the Elders and Church Councillors on
their rights, privilege and their right to control!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The Elders
and Church Councillors have morphed their privileged positions into
posts which they perceive are separate to the congregation, and above
being challenged or questioned in any way. That is more than evident
each Sunday as the Tweed and Solifoni show raises its curtain, struts
down the aisle, parades and performs its stuff around and throughout
a Sunday service.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Is Sunday
at Fairfield Uniting about Jesus or the Tweeds and Solifonis?
Working two full days in the diner we were told at length without one
single mention about Jesus? Driving the bus is a Foni
responsibility; “I am in charge” he scolded me continuing with,
it is only he who will decide who is to be picked up or not and when
it suits.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The Elders
and Church Councillors, of Fairfield Uniting, have set themselves
above being questioned by any person in the congregation; their
dictatorial approach is why Fairfield Uniting is not a place which
has or keeps God at the Centre.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Point
Four); “Partner with leaders. 'You' cannot do ministry on your
own. Minister to one another.”</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Taking
these three points backwards:</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Minister
to one another.” How do you see this playing out at Fairfield
Uniting?
</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“You
cannot do ministry on your own.” This is true but I perceive, at
Fairfield Uniting it is understood the Tweeds and Solifonis have the
task of Ministry well in hand no need for any further assistance and
even then only if it's done exactly as they define. Control!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Partner
with leaders.” ;-) at Fairfield Uniting, yeah right. Not easy to
write anything in response to this statement except it ain’t going
to happen/work effectively, at Fairfield Uniting, whilst the Elders
and Church Councillors continue down the very treacherous path they
have been following for a very long time.
</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Can
Fairfield Uniting ever be 'fixed'? I do, and always have, believe it
can. However that is going to require a huge shift in the thinking
by the entire congregation but mostly by the Elders and Church
Councillors.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Fairfield
Uniting's leaders, long ago, 'lost the plot'; Fairfield Uniting is
most definitely about them and NOT Jesus and that must change!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
* So we
arrive back at the beginning of this post which started with “a
reason the 'problems' don't 'get fixed' (at Fairfield Uniting church)
is primarily driven by the Elders and Church Councillors NOT wanting
to 'lose' the dictatorial control they currently enforce because it
is not in <i><b>their</b></i><i> best interest</i> to do so.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Because
it is not in <i><b>their</b></i><i> best interest</i>
to do so.”</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Once you
understand why that previous statement is true, the 'problems' of
Fairfield Uniting are obvious!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Am I wrong
in emphasizing this point over and over again? I really don't think
so.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It is so
obvious God is not centered nor factored into Fairfield Uniting's
Elders and Church Councillors decisions, enforced congregational
control, the rage and abuse exercised; “Because it is not in <i><b>their</b></i><i>
best interest</i> to do so.”</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I conclude
this post with Romans 15:1-7 from the Good News Bible;</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
We who are
strong in the faith ought to help the weak to carry their burdens. We
should not please ourselves. Instead, we should all please our
brothers and sisters for their own good, in order to build them in
the faith. For Christ did not please himself. Instead, as the
scripture says, “The insults which are hurled at you have fallen on
me. Everything written in the Scriptures was written to teach us, in
order that we might have hope through the patience and encouragement
which the Scriptures gives us. And may God, the source of the
patience and encouragement, enable you to have the same point of view
among yourselves by following the example of Christ Jesus, so that
all of you together may praise with one voice the God and Father of
our Lord Jesus Christ. Accept one another, then, for the glory of
God, as Christ has accepted you.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-138006197712686272014-09-16T15:01:00.000+10:002014-09-22T11:14:41.487+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I am to
meet mid week, this week, and at that meeting I am going to need to
be able to explain to another person just what it is about Fairfield
Uniting that I believe needs fixing and why.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I am going
to make available, if necessary, copies of documents which cover
specific events of concern to me, and many others, which have
occurred, in particular, since 2009.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
This
meeting may, and I hope it does, lay the foundation of a process of
repair. If it does not then it will mean I will need to make a
decision the likes of which I would never have thought necessary for
any member of a Christian church to make.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I am aware
the early Christian church had many problems of its own and, as
history has proven many time over, we humans seem to not learn from
history and make the same or similar mistakes over and over again.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In my
struggle with the issues at Fairfield Uniting I have looked at,
repeatedly, passages in Romans, Galatians and others and tried to use
these as a guide, and they are, but they also add to the frustration;
because the leaders of Fairfield Uniting must also know how many
passages in the bible challenge us to follow a true path of Love,
support and fellowship with of our fellow man in all the connotations
that entails. But I don't see those traits radiating from Fairfield
Uniting, nor its current leadership. Why?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I do hold
out some hope for this meeting but its starting point has possibly
been marred/compromised by the actions of Fairfield Uniting's
leadership. Having some idea of what may have happened after I left
the Sundays service before the one just past I was interested to see
what may happen last Sunday.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Led by
Rev. Choi it turned out to be a service of considerable value with
both the childrens' address (presented by Pat Tweed*) and the main
message having a focus on forgiveness: Mathew 18: 21-35 with the nod
given to forgiving not three (3) times, nor seven (7), but 70x7
times. The question was asked of parents, how many time had you
forgiven your children? ;-)</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
At the
start of the service we again experienced a 'technical glitch' with
our 'music' and Rev. Choi floated the idea/suggestion about having a
music group lead the service. A point to make here is this: less
than twelve (12) months ago we had an organist. A person who had
been a part of Fairfield Uniting for eighty (80), give or take,
years. Ruth also had other roles in the church life until..... it
was decided by the Church Councillors she was to go. Ruth was
un-ceremoniously shut out of all her roles to the degree she has left
the congregation. I have written about this in other forums:
highlighting it as a classic case study of the failure, of our Elders
and Church Councillors, to ensure/provide pastoral care to church
members as a primary function/concern.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Ruth's
treatment was a shocking display, which still has not been correctly
addressed (even by and made worse by Presbytery) and, in the light of
a service dedicated to the topic of forgiveness, also begs the
questions was the Love for your neighbour or forgiveness considered,
by the Fairfield Uniting leaders, before they pushed Ruth away.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Do we need
better musical leadership in Fairfield Uniting? Yes, and had our
leaders thought. prayed and behaved more thoughtfully we may still
have had an organist instead of the disastrous canned music we now
often need to bear.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Again, we
all, as a congregation, sat through a very pointed, relevant and
valuable sermon. One I took very personally because I believe
forgiveness is a key component of my faith and my up-bringing. “The
forgiven should forgive”, said Rev. Choi. There would be few -
Christians - who would not agree with that statement; but how does
that understanding play-out at Fairfield Uniting. Well, in my
opinion, not very well: for as I left the service two, of the
congregation (one an Elder), chose to make comments to me, which
displayed no hint of forgiveness; quite the reverse actually. Why?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
But that
is and has been for along time standard fair at Fairfield Uniting.
Often the message given is directly applicable and yet seems to
simply ignored. Why?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Returning,
briefly, to a point made by Rev. Kava, several Sundays ago; <span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">“</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Be
not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good” Romans 12:21 (KJ
ver.) I saw this as a very important point. Rolled together with the
'notion' of 'un-limited' forgiveness it gives Christians </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">(and
Fairfield Uniting)</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
a pointer as to how to forge ahead, against the odds, always aiming
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">for
and </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">to
follow the teaching of Christ in a daily lives. </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">(think
Ruth etc.)</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">To me, there is
definitely 'evil' at play within Fairfield Uniting; overcoming that
evil requires faith, forgiveness, kindness and consideration and,
that applies to me as well. Herein, for me, is the conundrum. With
all the evil and nastiness at play within Fairfield Uniting it is
understood the necessity to forgive must never be 'off-the-table',
but there is something important needing recognition before
forgiveness can play its part. That recognition is understanding
just what and who may be standing in its way.</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I repeat the
following questions from an earlier post: Is it me who rocks-up to
church and verbally bullies people? Is it me who slanders people,
family and church members? Is it me who tells people they are not
welcome at church and to leave?</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I
add; is it me who is not wanting to sit, talk and resolve whatever it
is David Tweed has accused me doing wrong as far back as 2009 and who
has NOT – to this day - despite being asked too, David Tweed (</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">an
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Elder)
has NEVER told me what he maintains I have done wrong to 'the
church'? Is it me who is not prepared to sit down and discuss the
issues which surround the Solifoni famil</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">y</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-US">
</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">split</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">?</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">The answer is NO to
those (last two) questions and to not wanting to fix other issues
like the in-appropriate treatment of Judy, Ruth, Janet and Jessie
etc., just to name just a few.</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Let us take a
different tack:</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Let's
just assume, for the moment, all the discord at Fairfield Uniting is
the responsibility of one person – ME. Let</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">'s</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
take on board the attack on Judith </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">was</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-US">
</span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">MY</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
fault, </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">that
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Ruth
leaving is MY fault, </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">that
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">the
attack on Rev. Wakefield was MY fault, </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">the
fact that </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">members
of </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">David
and Pat Tweed's family and my family have left because of </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">MY
actions</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">.
Lets also assume for the moment the split in the Solifoni family is
also my fault and MY fault alone </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">and
the (Church Bus) traffic fine is MY fault: then let's ask</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
the following questions;</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">One)
What evidence is there to show how, and what effort, suggestions,
proposals. </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">guidance and counseling, have the Fairfield Uniting Elders and Church
Councillors have worked towards a 'solution' to prevent those people
leaving and to outline to ME what I am doing incorrectly. NONE!</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Two) What evidence
is there which demonstrates the Fairfield Uniting Elders and Church
Councillors have done all in their 'power' to repair the damage I
have caused to all those people (and more) such that it would be
their choice to return and, once again, worship at Fairfield Uniting.
NONE!</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">NONE why?</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Because
the Fairfield Uniting Elders and Church Councillors have a vested
interest in not having the/their problems resolved. Why(?): as is
often said, is the 'million dollar question'. I offer the suggestion
it is because they are finding it too difficult to take on-board it
is their actions which are </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">the
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">root
of Fairfield Uniting issues and their 'problems'.</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">It's not and never
was about ME, that has always been a smoke screen, used by the
leaders as a diversion to hoodwink the un-thinking. Even
Presbytery's leaders and management have fallen for and un-wisely
allowed the smoke screen to cloud their vision and commonsense.
Which in turn has empowered the evil to continue!</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">At
no stage have I not been prepared to discuss their</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">s
or my</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
missteps to look for solutions and to try and head off </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">a</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
worsening situation. To a 'man' the Elders and Church Councillors
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">REFUSE</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
to take </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">the</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
opportunities </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">presented</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
and worse, they </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">REFUSE</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
to create opportunities to resolve 'the issues' and problems; because
it is in their interest NOT TOO.</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Behind an appearance
of a caring Christian community (the diner/shop primarily) power and
control, of Fairfield Uniting, is the primary mission of Fairfield
Uniting Church leaders!</span></div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-59857491241095291622014-09-08T22:00:00.000+10:002014-09-10T09:55:53.357+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It's a
side issue with some interesting connotations; suffice to say, good
one Graeme Tweed <span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">you
really did put your foot right in your mouth eh! :-)</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
How blest,
or fortunate, are/were we, at Fairfield Uniting, to have as part of
our congregation (yesterday) two (2) good Ministers. Rev. Dr. Choi
led the service and Rev. Kava – who has led services over the past
weeks – was welcomed into membership of Fairfield Uniting along
with his family.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The last
time we were blest with two ministers in the congregation was when
Rev. Mau Mau Monu and his family used to attend?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
For a
number of reasons, Sunday 7<sup>th</sup> September was, for me, a
bitter sweet day.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev. Choi,
in commencing the service, asked “what did today represent”?
Several responses indicated Fathers' day; however, Rev. Choi reminded
us, it was a day to (meet together and) worship the Lord. Was that,
I wondered, the thought foremost in ALL our minds: has that been the
leading thought in the minds of the Fairfield Congregation for a long
time? If, worshiping the Lord and following the teachings of Christ
is 'the mission' of Fairfield Uniting would it have been possible for
me to record that which I have in this, and previous posts?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev.
Choi's message was anchored in a scripture verse read from Zephaniah
3:17; “The LORD your God is with you: his power gives you victory.
The LORD will take delight in you, and in his love he will give you
new life. He will sing and be joyful over you.” (GNB Ver.)
</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
So why a
bitter sweet day. It was a day to worship together but, for Judy and
I worshiping at Fairfield Uniting is like being in a 'lions den'.
There are those who still treat us cordially as members of the
congregation; but there are those who would prefer we no longer
attended Fairfield Uniting. Those people are the current leaders of
Fairfield Uniting and as can be gleaned from what happened after the
service that un-welcoming persona was yet again revealed.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Fortunate
for families who had their children worshiping with them on that
Fathers' day. But for me neither of my children, nor my grandchildren
were there; they would have been there 'normally' except the
environment which is Fairfield Uniting drove them away – not that
long ago. I was not alone is this situation of having family members
'deliberately absent'; our leaders were 'in the same boat' and for
the same reasons. The difference is – it could be argued – my
family members were missing because of the actions of the Fairfield
Uniting's leaders failed pastoral/leadership care and theirs were
missing; for the same reasons! A sad an undeniable 'fact'* needing
repair.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
*'That
fact' – missing family members – brings the focus of my posting
directly to the core of what is one of the main troubling issues
which exists within Fairfield Uniting and which is central to what is
seen as an issue 'between' Fairfield Church Councillors and me! Both
the Tweed and Solifoni Elders/leaders had family members missing
yesterday for reason which are intertwined. Some might say complex,
or even cultural, which ever way it is viewed the current situation
is couched in selfishness wrapped in a vindictive veneer totally
devoid of any sensible or forgiving thought and, has degenerated into
stupidity. From NONE of those leaders has come even a modicum of
effort to prevent, fix or forgive their situations and the effect
that has had on many in the Fairfield Congregation. Despite both
time and many opportunities/requests to addressed and rectify their
positions, the leaders of Fairfield Uniting have stoically worked to
keep their rage and hurtful regime in the forefront and ahead of the
Christian value of forgiveness and commonsense. Their rage, and
desire to control (the Ministers and congregation) was, again, on
show yesterday**.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
*Rev Choi,
in his way zeroed in on Fairfields Uniting's (broken family) issue;
by design, accident or because it was fathers' day I do not know but
it was an important and poignant sermon referring to the importance
of “fixing relationships”.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Meet
together (with your children/families) to sing, rejoice and praise
God in the name of Christ”. Rev. Choi followed with, “forgive
children with no limits or conditions”, children should also
forgive their fathers (parents ed.) he intoned.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
If Rev.
Choi had fired, those points, as arrows at the congregations hearts
there is no way they could have missed their mark. But, as we have
seen so often before, the preachers words seem to last no longer than
the time taken to say them. As with Rev. Kava's poignant sermon one
week earlier there seems to be no effort by the Fairfield Uniting
leadership to accept and practice what is laid out clearly before
them!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Let's take
Rev. Choi's comments a little further and apply them to ME only. The
first point is particularly important because there was a point I
chose to separate myself from worshiping, at Fairfield Uniting on
Sundays, with those of my direct and extended family. That was a
response to how, I felt at being un-justly accused of wrong doing and
causing the church much trouble. Statements made by (Elder/Church Council Chairman)
D. Tweed, which have never been substantiated or detailed (despite my
requests); which would have allowed me to correct “my behaviour”.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
As I
detailed in my previous post, partly, as a result of Rev. Wakefield's
visitation, I did return, to worship at Fairfield Uniting, only to
receive the hostile welcome I did and, to experience shortly
thereafter, due to the pressures brought to bear by Fairfield Uniting
leadership, my children, grandchildren and extended family members
then were compelled to leave the Fairfield Uniting congregation.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It is
important to say, at this point, my family where not the only ones to
leave Fairfield Uniting, in disgust, in that period of time. There
were many other long term congregational member and, significantly,
*one individual directly connected to our Church Councillors. It is
that association which is going to be the most un-palatable issue to
be faced by the (Ministers), Elders and Church Councillors of
Fairfield Uniting. Face it square on and address the issue, appropriately, they MUST or it is going to ruin their lives for some
time to come. It also brings, directly into question, the efficacy
of their positions as Elders and Church Councillors in the Uniting
Church in Australia.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The
leaders of Fairfield Uniting have worked hard to destroy families:
however, the outcome of my families 'worship separation' though has
not been as 'total' as they may have hoped for; but it has been very
damaging for the Tweeds and Solifonis. Judy and I do get to see and
have occasionally worshiped with our children and grandchildren
within another congregation.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev.
Choi's second point: “forgive children with no limits or
conditions”. Again if applied to me first; at the risk of being
seen as 'cockey' I have naught to forgive my crew for; as we have not
split or separated in any way, there is no reason to forgive. For
some of our leaders/congregation there exists many reasons to forgive
to be forgiven. As disappointing as it was for me, to have my family
(and extended family) leave the congregation, I must say the example
being set by the Elders and Church Councillors of Fairfield Uniting
are not examples of conduct, I believe, are appropriate in a
Christian church, and are certainly NOT behaviours, attitudes and
actions to which my grandchildren (or others' children) should be
exposed.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I have and
will rejoice with my 'crew' each time we have the opportunity to meet
and worship together. It is the Fairfield Congregation which is
missing out on the sparkle my two grandchildren bring to any room
they walk into. They enjoy their time with other children at church
and it shows. It is a sinful shame and a terrible indictment that
Fairfield Uniting's leaders ruined what my wife (as their Sunday
school teacher), our grandchildren, and other young children (who not
that long ago attended) had and could look forward too, at Fairfield
each Sunday.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I am going
to take the vexing issue of 'split families' into a different realm
now, and do so in keeping with my intentions that these posts are a
record (for the future) of events – at Fairfield Uniting, their
causes and consequences. In particular I am going to now focus on
only two families; mine and the Solifonis, with a side salad of
Tweeds, Presbytery, Synod and the Assembly.
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
These post
have detailed the fact I (and my family) attract particular attention
from Rachael and Foni Solifoni (a Church Councillor). In particular
I have mentioned - without great detail – the un-truthfully
vindictive and slanderous comments made by
these individuals to me 'at church'. For those who have read these
posts, what I have said must seem almost sci-fi. Christians would
not do such things. A comment frequently heard recently in the press
associated with the child molestation inquiry. In the main, I must
admit, I was in no way prepared for the deterioration I have
witnessed in the behaviour of people who were welcomed into our
congregation some time ago.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
But there
is a reason, and a very un-palatable one it is: and, as can be the
case, it involves family 'expectations'. To be truthful, 'the problem'
was and is entirely fixable but, what makes it so bad, is it was
entirely avoidable. The actual problem I am going to leave alone,
for the moment, but what I am going to reveal here is that it is me
who is being blamed, bullied, vilified and held responsible for what
has been the decisions, and actions, taken by others and the
Solifonis. There is a 'twisted' thought in the minds of the
Solifonis it is my responsibility to order other adult individuals to
do that which is contrary to their belief, wishes, their safety and
indeed against the law.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It is also
my contention the Solifoni family was very poorly supported by the
Fairfield Uniting Church, as a whole. Hindsight has its benefits but
I am going to say much of what has happened could have been seen
coming and indeed it forms one of the 'issues' between the the Elders
P&D Tweed and me. Whenever I tried to raise the issue (on the
side) to encourage they 'step in' I was roundly rebuffed – why?
For me it was no brainer, but there proved to be a stumbling block;
and a classic it is. You see when verbally bullying me it is what
others have done that is the key subject and driver. What they have
failed in, as leaders of their family, is in some way my fault: but
the twist to this saga is that what they are experiencing, as a
family, they believe is 'their problem' and of NO business of the
church. Indeed this attitude is also reflected in the actions and
statement coming out of Presbytery. Are you now confused?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
As
reported in the minutes of a meeting convened and Chaired by the
Secretary of Presbytery, our Minister of the day (Rev. Lunney), the
entire Fairfield Church council and myself it was stated “At this
time a matter concerning the Solifoni and Waddington families (not
relevant to Fairfield UC issues) was raised, causing considerable
distress to some in attendance.” “The chairperson called a halt
to proceeding.”</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Now the
first of those quotes, when I first read the minutes, incited
considerable anger in me. I responded in a form I am not
particularly proud of but I was insisting the minutes be corrected to
reflect the TRUTH.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I stated
there is not a 'matter' between the Solifoni and the Waddington
families. There is little doubt Rachael and Foni Solifoni are
un-justifiably holding me (and my family) responsible for an
issue/matter of concern for them but it should not have be couched in
the callously dismissive way it was by the Chairman who knows full
well, in depth, what it is about. This is NOT a family feud its a
Fairfield Uniting – Solifoni issue, not mine!
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I, and my
family, have NO case to answer to or for the Solifoni family issue outside
of what the entire Fairfield Congregation and leadership also bears,
a point I have tried to make, to all and to Elders Tweed, to no avail,
long before it got to where it is now.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The Presbytery
Secretary's comments were and are insulting and, I must point out, my
requests for the correction have been ignored as have requests to
Presbyteries leaders to provide me and my family an apology.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
But lets
look a little more closely at an end result of what was a very stupid
(under the known circumstances) move/statement and, what have been the
consequences of the Presbytery comment; this blog and it contents are
one of the direct consequences.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
You see
the truth – about Fairfield Uniting – and all who sail in her and
about all who have been thrown overboard needed telling (in part at
least) and recording for the future. More importantly though it is
my only outlet, why? Well because where do I turn to within the
Uniting Church for assistance. The Elders and Church Councillors
have gone 'rogue' and provide absolutely NO SPIRITUAL/PASTORAL CARE OUTSIDE OF
CONTINUING ANGER AND ABUSE. Presbytery, Synod and the Assembly
leadership have all either ignored or dismissed my requests for help.
Those facts I have already mentioned earlier.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Is the
Uniting Church in Australia a Christian church in anything but name?
I question it is and I know, for a fact, Fairfield Uniting would
struggle to claim competency if its leaders were audited academically
for Christian duty, community mission and pastoral care.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
But the
greatest un-truth revealed in those Presbytery minutes is the
statement “(not relevant to Fairfield UC issues).”</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The fact
is, what Presbytery was so quick to dismiss, is a MAIN issues for
Fairfield Uniting, Rachael and Foni Solifoni have actively set out to
make it so; that is patently apparent in their reported actions and
comments. They are using 'their family issue' to assert control over
the Fairfield Uniting congregation in the mis-belief more control
will solve their problem. In doing so they have dug the entire
Church Council and congregation into a hole from which extraction is
going to be painful, painfully slow and fraught with added
complications.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
They have
destroyed their friendships and hurt families but the loss has been
mostly one-sided, theirs and the Tweeds. For whilst they have caused
people to leave, Fairfield Uniting, they have not broken the family
and friendship bonds of those who have left as a result of their
bullying – quite the reverse, as you would expect. They have
simple forced those people to into other congregations
(Fairfield Uniting's loss) leaving the Church Councillors' family names and actions as a
bad taste experience and a poor reflection on those who continue to
support, or ignore, their actions.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
There is
no doubt now the Fairfield Elders and Church Councillor, D&P
Tweed, F&M Solifoni carry, almost entirely, the burden and blame
for Fairfield Uniting's 'issues'. There is no way forward for
Fairfield Uniting until that group of people face the fact it is
their attitudes, policies and actions which have brought Fairfield
Uniting to where it is and, nothing will improve until they each face
their demons, accept their personal responsibility and
responsibilities and make good the damage they have caused.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In time
there will be forgiveness but only if they accept what they have done
and do what I believe they must by way of apologizing, in writing,
publicly and in person, to the entire congregation and those forced
away, who have not already passed away or can no longer be asked for
forgiveness. I personally believe, in accepting their fault, they
must also disqualify themselves from holding office within the church
as well. Only then Fairfield Uniting will be able to return, fully,
to its mission.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Be
not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good” </span><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Romans
12:21 (KJ ver.)</span></div>
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<br /></div>
<br />
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It's very
difficult to remain at Fairfield Uniting, amongst the evil; I remain,
for the moment only as an obligation. However, bearing in mind the
passage (above) from Romans, a key component of Rev. Kava's previous
sermon; I have asked both he and Rev. Choi to meet with me as
(possibly) a final attempt to bring Fairfield Uniting back onto the
straight and narrow; the result of those requests will, I trust,
unfold over the next week.</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-44175454049798968142014-09-01T22:51:00.000+10:002014-09-02T13:16:53.494+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The most
memorable part of yesterday at Fairfield Uniting, for me, had to have
been Rev. Kava's sermon. Once again, a message delivered with a
passion and an obvious conviction. More about the sermon, its fit to
Fairfield Uniting and, yet again, the technical hitches, later.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
These post
are, in the main, about recording and contrasts and I will continue
that theme. Comparing the differences I have experienced in the last
few weeks between Fairfield Uniting and another church/congregation.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Firstly,
some weeks ago I was invited to a breakfast for men; the first
(hopefully) in an effort/outreach specifically to men. It was
attended by 50+ individuals, from the various congregations within a
parish, with varied view-points and needs. The scripture verse chosen
to underscore the event was 1<sup>st</sup> Timothy 2:8.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The second
invitation received, from within the same parish, was to attend a
Sunday morning service which had a special meaning for a particular
person. Both Judy and I attended and it was a joy to be able to
worship amongst people who have a desire to share Gods word in a
genuine manner, to be worshiping with other family members and to
meet new people.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Why are
those two events of significance and why do they draw attention to
the contrast in attending, a worship service at, Fairfield Uniting?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Point one;
after attending the two 'special' events I received a communication
from the 'Superintendent' minister, of the church concerned, thanking
me for my attendance, voicing his pleasure in meeting Judith,
offering some biblical information to read and outlined the bible
passage being followed for the next (the week just past) week –
(part of) Romans 13. (Chap' 13 covers duties towards the state and
one another: advice very applicable to Fairfield Uniting)
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Now
contrast that effort and outreach to that which I experienced when I
arrived at Fairfield Uniting yesterday (31Aug'2014). On my
entering, Fairfield Uniting, four others were in the same small
entrance space: An Elder and Church Council chairman, another church
councillor and two others. With the exception of the person handing
out the order of service sheets each of the others made a particular
effort to ignore my presence!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
There are
many ways to look at and react to the leader’s behaviour; in the
main though, for me, I simply find it sad. It highlights the
contrast of leadership and it shows how, if allowed, human nature and
personal agendas can stand between what a functional Christian Church
stands for and how it is run and viewed by others. When examined
critically, it is not me who is hurt by the continuing process of
vilification. It is pointless me feeling anything but disappointment
in each of the individuals, Elders and Church Councillors involved.
It is a crying shame they could not have listened to Rev. Kava's
rousing sermon and, hearing what was said, take immediate remedial
action; or is that too much to ask of Fairfield Uniting's leadership?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The
contrast, in leadership, between the two congregations, highlighted
herein, feeds directly into Rev. Kava's theme for yesterdays sermon;
“Behave yourself like a Christian”. That theme and Rev. Kava's
entire sermon went directly to the heart of Fairfield Uniting's
(leadership/congregational) problems. Behaving as a Christian, to
me, means placing Jesus's teachings at the core of all we do as a
Church and individuals. At Fairfield Uniting this is not normal
practice: that is so clearly highlighted in these postings.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Why is it
so important, to the leadership of Fairfield Uniting, that me, my
family (and many others who have been pushed away) should be made
feel so un-welcome in a church which has been our life for decades.
Additionally, why is it the leaders in Presbytery, Synod and the
Assembly choose to 'pass us by on the other side of the road',
ignoring our requests for help? I repeat: if I am not worthy, in
their eyes, is it not church I should be attending, should not
Fairfield Uniting leaders be encouraging me to follow their example,
'right principles' and actions; or is that the problem?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Let me
provide another contrast relating to the 'welcoming'. It has become
a feature at the commencement of announcements made during the
morning service to 'welcome' people. Not unusual, I would think, in
any/other church(s), but at Fairfield Uniting it has a particular
ring: a false ring. Sharp to the ear and, to those who know better,
a hypocritical ring. The welcome often includes the statement “it
is great to see you here.....etc.”. It points to the fact those
attending the service are important (and they are) and welcome(?).
But what it masks is the fact ONLY SOME ARE WELCOME, NOT ALL! Made
patently obvious in the reception(s) I received yesterday and on
previous (written up) occasions. You are and will be 'welcome', at
Fairfield Uniting, if you understand it is a requirement of
participation you MUST do only that which is 'defined' acceptable to
the Fairfield Uniting Church Council. Said another way: you must
adhere strictly to the Tweed/Solifoni dictums; one example, I quote
Foni, “I am in charge!” therefore.....you must.....etc.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev.
Kava's theme “Behave yourself like a Christian” is a particularly
important energy which should be found radiating from all Christian
Churches into their surrounding communities. Taking on the
'challenge' of being a Christian, in a world of contrast and
contradiction, can be quite difficult. At the point you 'claim' to
be a Christian the responsibility to act as one, in all you say and
do, becomes an imperative. No longer do you get the varied choices
the world has to offer: your choices now are reduced to two; continue
to follow Christ and act accordingly or change you mind completely
and turn your back on Christ and being a Christian. For me there is
little middle ground. Equally, for me personally, that commitment
has created great difficulty, highlighted in the absurdly
contradictory situation I face at Fairfield Uniting. There is no
doubt Fairfield Uniting is being tested, as am I, as are the Elders,
Church Councillors and the wider congregation.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
My
considered opinion, at the moment, is we ALL are failing the test,
and there can be no argument that is the case. But why?</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I said
earlier in this post, about Rev. Kava's sermon, “It is a crying
shame they” - (Fairfield Uniting's leadership) - “could not have
listened to Rev. Semisi's rousing sermon and, hearing what was said,
take immediate remedial action; or is that too much to ask of
Fairfield Uniting's leadership?”</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The question to be answered first is, was the sermon applicable to me?
Am I applying, to my actions, the Christian principles/advice Rev.
Kava eloquently delivered. In particular his statement “do not be
overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good”.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In amongst
all his other points his 'insistence' evil should be overcome by good
is of particular relevance to me and, it is knowing the importance of
this, I have followed the path I have. It may appear contradictory
to some, but it is important to any person looking into what has/is
destroying Fairfield Uniting to understand it has been a practice, at
Fairfield Uniting, to not assertively enforce, the application of
Christian principles into the decision making relating to the
corporate management of the church; in particular when it came to
challenging the decisions and actions of some leaders*.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I have
mentioned this before by stating, whilst there were enough of those
doing the correct thing it ameliorated the influence of the leaders
doing the wrong and the damage being caused. But
following the path of “not wanting to cause wave” and or just
doing the correct thing anyway has not proven the correct course.
Those who worked hard and followed a true path have been worn down
and ejected, resulting in Fairfield Uniting being reduced to the
management we have now; similar to the past, with the same wrong
intent, but without sufficient 'opposing good' to prevent a slide
deeper into evil.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Peace
should be your aim”, said Rev. Kava. How true. “Bend over
backwards for peace” he continued; with the caveat “do not
compromise”. I am going to take issue with the first two of those
three points; not because I disagree but because they are applicable
when looking at what is/does occur within Fairfield Uniting.</div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
*The truth
is it has been the aim for many to try and 'keep the peace' and
'bending over backward' - particularly where Mr. D. Tweed
(Elder/Chairman of the Church Council) is concerned - is what people
have done for as long as I can remember; as I eluded to earlier.
The reward for that effort was not an improvement; it simply
brought, those doing wrong, time and opportunity to wreck havoc and
wheedle, for selfish reasons, greater control.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Is peace
my aim? It sure is and always was and quite frankly I have 'bent
over backwards' in looking for different ways to get those who are
taking Fairfield Uniting down a very treacherous path to recognize
what they are doing, why they must reconsider and change, or perish!
In taking the route(s) I have, I have proven beyond doubt who is
responsible for and on whose shoulders Fairfield Unitings problems
rest.
</div>
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Is it me
who rocks-up to church and verbally bullies people? Is it me who
slanders family and church members? Is it me who tells people they
are not welcome at church and to leave?
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Do not
compromise” said Rev. Kava, again he is correct. Compromise is
what too many of us have done for too long at Fairfield Uniting.
What I now also know is Presbytery is guilty of this as well; they
have understood for many years about existing, and looming, problems
(at Fairfield Uniting) and have made some curious 'decisions' which,
for all intense and purposes, seems to be mostly to sit on their
hands, the fence and ask for things to be done which leave the issues
in place and make 'the problems' worse. Synod and the Assembly,
well, they just don't seem to care.
</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev. Kava
had another point to make, I thought it a cracker. He said, “to
overcome your enemy make him your friend”. A classic statement for
the simple reason it defines what I have often been employed to do in
the industries within which I work. “Fire fighting” is an
expression some have used to describe what I have done and, whilst
the requirement to “put out the fire(s)” has often been why I
was inserted it has always proven important, in each of those
situations, to 'win over the enemy by making h/er/im my friend'.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
What is so
frustrating about Fairfield Uniting is that 'the issues' in
contention have absolutely smashed long standing friendships. Many
of those who have left, unhappy, Fairfield Uniting are people and
direct family members with whom my family have grown up with, with
some family ties being several generations in length. The Solifoni
family were welcomed along with many others into an existing
Fairfield Uniting congregation 'maybe' sixteen years ago, what's
happened there?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
So, within
a 'Christian environment', Fairfield Uniting Church, friends have
become enemies. How is that possible? Can friends who have become
enemies, once again, become friends? The answer lays in
understanding forgiveness and what that may mean in the context of
Fairfield Uniting. The lack of thought, consideration and an
un-willingness**, by the entire Fairfield Uniting Church council, to
consider the importance of their actions and their failings in suing
for peace and forgiveness is the sin standing between Fairfield
Uniting growing as a church – in more than numbers of attendees –
into a church based on the Christian principle of loving your
neighbours, enemies, those in need or seeking spiritual guidance.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Making an
enemy a friend in my business dealings firstly required me
understanding why they were, or had become, an enemy of the
company. It needs to be understood, in the context of Fairfield
Uniting, I would appear to be the enemy and yet, I have no animosity
toward those who see me as such. Curious ain't it. Cranky I am, at
each of them, of that there is not much doubt, but that's it. If
there is one thing I do know it is, if the Fairfield Uniting Church
Elder/Councillors do not address their problems I will not be their
judge. My anger and frustration, with the Elders and Church
Councillors, is the knowledge they may suddenly find they are in the
position of not being able to rectify their wrongs and as a result
will be brought to account by the one who will judge us all.<br />
<br /></div>
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In truth
that has already happened: several of those long standing members,
who have been pushed away and out of Fairfield Uniting are no longer
with us; no longer can they be asked for or grant forgiveness. That
is very sad and is quite likely to be repeated.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Another of
Rev. Kava's points follows; “when anger lingers in the (your) heart it
poisons all you do” Nothing could be closer to the truth and I
know this at a very personal/family level. That experience is one of
the main drivers behind what I am doing right now, and in writing
these posts. I get very angry on occasions, for differing reasons,
but in the main it is almost always to do when I see another person
doing something wrong toward another or, in a business environment, if dangers
or safety, too personnel is ignored.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Being very
open now, I must say, Fairfield Uniting makes me very angry on
occasions for 'spiritual safety' reasons. The actions of the Elder
and Church Councillors, toward me, my family, the congregation and
others, is putting their salvation in danger and they, for some
inexplicable reason, cannot see that fact. Why?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
These
posting are a reflection of my anger: having exhausted so many other
avenues to 'bring Fairfield Uniting's leaders to their senses' and
having been unsuccessful due to their un-willingness** I have chosen
to 'vent my spleen' and record the pain. Maybe that will cause some
reflection on their behalf, maybe it might lead another to intervene
and make them see the error of their ways. Who knows what tomorrow
may bring ;-)</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Does anger
poison what you do? Yes and no I would answer; Cyanide is recognized
as a poison but it is used in medicines as are other chemicals and
compounds. Anger in a person can serve to bring focus and this is
the case with me; anger does not frighten me as it does others and
when I feel anger, even to the point of rage, I know I need to check
myself and ask why.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
As applied
to Fairfield Uniting my anger/rage is also against the injustices
metered out by our Elders and Church Councillors. eg. The unjustified
attack on Judith, the forcing of Ruth (and others) out of the church,
the physical, verbal/slanderous bullying experienced, all make me
angry. However, all of the problems which currently plague Fairfield
Uniting can be laid squarely at the feet of the Elders and Church
councillors/family members who have allowed their anger to poison
their thoughts and have controlled their actions at church, and
beyond, for a long time and, include those laid bare in my posts.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“Are you
quick to condemn or forgive?” asked Rev. Kava.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
A question
we all need to direct to ourselves before applying it to others. I
know exactly what it would take for me to forgive Fairfield Uniting's
Edlers and Church Councillors, Presbytery, Synod and Assembly
leaders, for all they have done or not done in relation to the
matters I, and others, have endured and highlighted.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Focusing
on Fairfield though, do David & Pat Tweed, Foni, Rachael and
Ma'ata know what they need to do to be forgiven? I wonder? Who, in
'maintaining his rage' has fought to have the 'wrongs righted' and,
who, in 'maintaining their rage' have collectively sought to continue
their hurtful, selfish, vindictive, slander, 'exclusinistic' control
of the Fairfield Uniting Church and congregation?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
For 'enemies', at Fairfield Uniting, to become friends again rest
entirely in understanding the answers to the immediately previous
questions and understanding just how Fairfield Uniting has arrived to
the point where those questions need to be answered.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev.
Kava's sermon had a more subtle message which I understood to
indicate if you try and correct a (persons) wrongs and they fail to
listen or correct their 'miss-deeds' then it is no longer 'your
fault'. It was a fleeting reference which I may have miss-understood
but it was very similar to a comment Rev. Lunney once made, directly
to me. In Rev. Lunney's case it was in response to a comment of mine
about having to carry others burdens. Rev. Lunney's inference was
clear: to him, I had made my point, got nowhere and should therefore
walk away. I was appalled, then I felt enormous disappointment. Here
was a clear indication that the hurt and damage wrought at Fairfield
Uniting should be just simply ignored & “passed by”. I think
Rev. Kava's reasoning is somewhat different.</div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
**I am
going to float one last argument I this post. We know Fairfield
Uniting 'problems' continue as a direct result of the actions of the
Elders and Church Councillors. The responsibilities of Uniting
Church Elders and Church Councillors are well documented and (in
theory) understood. So why is it that we do not see those attributes
reflected in Fairfield Uniting's Elders and Church Councillors
working towards a solution. 'Fighting corporate fires', rebuilding
co-operation and trust with the aim of improving the business
environment is often about loss! Who loses what and how much.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Negotiators
talk about 'win win' etc. 'Win win' is another way of saying, reduce
the loss. Once there is a joint understanding of who loses what and
how much, solutions are often found. When no solution 'can' be found
there exists a loss which has not been addressed, not been tabled for
consideration/discussion; often deliberately. That is what we face
at Fairfield Uniting.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
David and
Pat Tweed have an arena of losses to face and the Solifoni's have
similar problems multiplied by several distinctly proprietary
personal issues. When each of those individuals are prepared to
willingly face 'those demons' then it will be possible to find the
solutions sought and for them to ask for and, be forgiven. Then also,
Fairfield Uniting will be able to move forward as a Christian
community.</div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I close
with; having delivered his sermon Rev. Kava concluded it by asking
the entire congregation to read allowed, with him, a paraphrased
version of Romans 12:9-21. It was a brilliant way to conclude his
poignant and strongly delivered message. It had the power, if taken
on board, to bring about a substantial re-think in the Fairfield
Uniting congregation. Will it?</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I thank
Rev. Kava for his considered, forthright approach and I look forward
to what he might be instrumental in achieving at Fairfield Uniting.</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Be not overcome
of evil, but overcome evil with good”</span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Romans 12:21</span></div>
<br />
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">(King James version)</span></div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-87712260506441509032014-08-19T13:42:00.000+10:002014-08-19T13:42:49.985+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">August 17 2014, yet
another Sunday to remember at Fairfield Uniting. For the wrong
reasons though and, yet again, it is the contrasts which highlight
the conflicting tragedy Fairfield Uniting has become.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">The
worship service - again - experienced a 'technical hitch' preventing
the use of both </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">projector</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
and </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">video
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">screen;
the 'plan b', hand held hymn books </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">with
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">can</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">n</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">ed
music. A great example of why, sometimes, with a slice of
forethought what is seen as a step forward was little more than an
un-necessary indulgence and a waste of a valuable resource.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">In
contrast, Rev. Kava's sermon “faith can work without prayer but
prayer cannot work without faith” was delivered with a passion and
a deep sense of spirituality and personal conviction. It was </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">a
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">pointed,
relevant sermon – as have others he has given - and contained
valuable advice and guidance for us all. Rev. Kava spoke from the
heart and, in doing so left no doubt in my mind he was speaking
wisely, to me and the congregation, whilst at the same time
challenging us all to adhere, follow and apply Christian principles
to all we do and say.</span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">As this blog is
about recording the personal experiences endured by some in Fairfield
Uniting for the express purpose of ensuring the truth is not wall
papered over, distorted or changed. Bearing the last sentence of the
previous paragraph in mind, I'll continue in highlighting the
contrasts and tragedy Fairfield Uniting has become.</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">As
happened (to me) on the previous Sunday [and the one before that ;-)
etc.....], the Sunday just past, whilst standing outside of Fairfield
Uniting, prior to the commencement of the morning service, I was once
again verbally abused by two women arriving for the morning service.
For a brief period it was a joint effort: two on one. If it wasn't so
serious you may be excused if you were thinking – what I write
about - is a rehearsal for a tragic opera. But seriously speaking
both these people revealed much about themselves and what I refer to
as the driving force: which is in the main a selfish self interest
driven by a belief right is on their side. It goes without saying
neither of these women stop </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">to</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
consider, even for a split second, about what might be so wrong in
unjustly heaping abuse on a person, in this way, at church (or any
time for that matter). These episodes define the nature of the beast
we are dealing at </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Fairfield
Uniting</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">;
hopefully, at some point, those two and all who </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">'</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">sit
on the </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">fence'</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
watching will, with God's help, one day realize, just how
'wrong/unjust' they have been.</span></span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">A</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
look at some of the comments: Cathy's opening shot was about the
previous post stating I should have talked with her directly not
“through the blog”. A reasonable comment: except she provided no
invitation or opportunity to explain myself when she first attacked
me. Had Cathy asked me to explain my actions I would have been happy
to do so. I did point out on this occasion she needed to know the
full story, and that may change her perspective, but clearly that was
not going to happen.</span></span></div>
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<br />
</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">A second part of
Cathy's “you should have talked to me directly” approach was to
tell me I should have the courage of my convictions. Smiling (which
she interjected offended her) as I replied “it is standing up for
my convictions and what is right I am being castigated for”. Cathy
followed with another gem stating, as I have indicated in the
previous post, “I (Cathy) have not been coached”. Really. Cathy
can that be true?*</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I asked Cathy a
question; “did she feel what she was doing was what Jesus would do
or want done?”. Her reply was to say the reason she came to church
was to do good. I replied that was, in part, what I want as well.
To that Cathy replied, “*then why did you leave the church for four
years”.</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">*This is a
significant comment because not only is it un-true the
mis-information has as its source the Solifoni's. That one comment,
Cathy, demonstrates the priming I have previously referred too. Let
alone it's irrelevance, a very large part of the on-going issues at
Fairfield Uniting are fueled by seriously distorted facts farmed out
deliberately, by a small band, for no other reason than to cause
trouble and division.....</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">As I said in my
previous post, Cathy's original attack was because she directly
blamse me for the police for issuing an infringement notice relating
to the 'church bus'. Interestingly on this occasion Cathy revealed
her son was a policeman. So here we have something to consider; is
Cathy saying what I did, in responding to Rachael's “go to the
police taunt”, was wrong because in reporting what Rachael had said
and done, in bullying me, I had drawn police attention to an illegal
act. Is Cathy actually saying I should not report an illegal act?
Would that be the position taken by her son (a policeman) if he were
a member of Fairfield Uniting?</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Which
ever way you look at Cathy's comments they raise questions. If the
</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Fairfield
Uniting</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
congregation, as it appears it had, broken the law, as a result of
its representatives – the church councillors - actions then it does
appear Cathy is OK with the fact a breach of the law should be
covered-up and or ignored. Interesting stance for a policeman to
consider.....? Does this line of thinking, which is also the church
councillors stance ring any bells about the past actions – </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">of
Churchs' -</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
being aired in the press. Cannot others see this type of thinking
and action is NOT what </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Fairfield
Uniting</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">,
nor any other church, should be engaged in or encourage!</span></span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;">
</span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">But
what of Rachael's involvement in the latest proceeding? Well more of
the same it can be said; Rachael's last spit was full of her usual
vehement, slanderous comments relating to me and my family. But
there was a more revealing moment I must air. I stole an
opportunity, </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">in
the tirade,</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
to ask </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Rachael</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">,
as I had done Cathy, did she think what she was doing was what Jesus
would want. Whilst Cathy dodged the answer, Rachael was more
forthcoming, she replied, </span></span><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">“</span><b style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">Jesus has nothing to do with this</b><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif;">”!</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">That
folks says it all: finally Rachael has put in word</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">s</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
that which is the root of the problems in </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Fairfield
Unitin</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">g
- “<b>Jesus has nothing to do with this</b>”!</span></span></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Jesus
is NOT a part of the 'processes' which are leading </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Fairfield
Uniting</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
and there was/is no way Rachael is/was going to let Jesus 'rain on
her parade'. She </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">continued</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
her tirade demanding I leave and go home. Rachael repeated that
demand clearly not wanting me to go into church. To this I angrily
replied you go into church and ask Rev. Kava to come and tell me to
go home.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">That was not going
to happen but I was so incensed with Rachael, like a petulant child I
walked into church (which had commenced), walked to the front of the
church and told Rev. Kava, Rachael had told me to leave.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I ask this question:
if I am such a bad person, full of evil and evil intent as Foni and
Rachael Solofoni and, as it does appear, other congregational members
do, is not church exactly where I should be? Should each of the
Elders and Church Councillors be moving heaven and earth to expose me
to the teachings of Jesus to rid me of the evil they (appear) to see?
Have David and Pat Tweed, Foni and Ma'ata Solifoni been 'appointed'
as councillors for the purpose of doing God's work and in doing so
use their posts of responsibilities, as Elders and Church
Councillors, to throw me out of a church which I have been a part of
for sixty plus years with no counseling, just or defined reason?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Who in the Uniting
Church in Australia, or any other church, is equipped, or courageous
enough, to answer that last question?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">More importantly
though, who in the Uniting church in Australia has the calling and
commitment to step up to the plate and do, at Fairfield Uniting, what
has been necessary for a very, very, very long time.</span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">As
they say</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span lang="en-US"><i>,
but wait there's more:</i></span></span></span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
At the church door, after the morning service, I asked our Church
Council Chairman (Elder), Mr. D. Tweed if it were possible the fellow
I had been bringing to church could be taken home in the 'new' church
bus. My approach was not welcomed, but repl</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">ied</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">
“we'll do what ever we need to do” and in doing so re-directed
the question to Foni Solofoni who promptly replied “no”. In the
ensuing exchange our erstwhile Chairman/Elder walked off not wanting
to pursue the rejection </span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">(leadership?)</span></span><span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Now the person this
is about I have previously outlined but I will remind the reader(s)
he is a severely disabled church member who has, until 'recently'
being ignored by the current church leaders/councillors, been
attending F/U and for thirty years+ has made an enormous effort to
attend despite his disability. For a great period of that time he has
been assisted with access to the church bus – that is, until the
'recent' management**.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">To return though to
councillor Foni Solofoni: his rejection of my 'request' was, of
course, and I am constantly told so, my fault (all of Fairfield
Uniting's 'problems' are caused by me). 'Leader' Foni Solofoni was
quick to remind me of a hostile question he asked me only one week
earlier. The question was, “was I going to continue to pick-up the
church member? My answer simple was “yes”. Foni Solofoni's
question and my answer were part of the exchange outlined in an
earlier post; the same one in which Foni said to another person, from
a different congregation, I was a waste, rubbish etc.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">It is important to
note I knew the 'church bus' was an un-registered vehicle and would
not be able to pick-up any person. I was not aware of, nor did Foni
Solofoni, for his convenience it now appears, impart any knowledge
about the fact he would have other transport available next
week/soon; why was that you may ask?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Foni Solofoni pushed
his argument in a numbers of ways, basing his argument (with his
son's support) stating I had said I would pick-up the person and
therefore he had no reason nor obligation to do so. He is
effectively refusing (which he denies) to use church property, for
the purpose it is for, to transport people to and from church, who he
feels would be inconvenient to him! Why do I say that with such
certainty? </span>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Well the answer is;
because Foni flatly refused to take the fellow home in the 'new bus';
that is a refusal of kindness by a 'church leader'. However, bearing
in mind why the bus exists, I pressed Foni Solifoni about picking up
the fellow next week. It took several attempts but Foni,
begrudgingly, agreed to do so, but with a caveat? That caveat was,
if it is raining “I will not pick him up”. Interesting? So I
asked why and the answer was if he slipped over he would <span style="color: black;">sue</span>
the church.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Over thirty years of
making the difficult effort to attend church and a church councillors
main concern is being 'sued'. Goodness gracious me have you ever
heard anything so pitifully ridiculous? Possible yes, plausible no.
It was just another excuse among many, proffered as a reason to cover
what amounts to being inconvenient effort to Foni & Co. Picking
this fellow up for church is a work load and an effort beyond what
Foni (a church councillor) wants to perform and that is the real
reason he fabricates agreements to leave somebody behind. </span>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Another example of
how Jesus is left out of Fairfield Uniting's 'management'!</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I must admit at this
point in time I had had the proverbial 'gut full' and angrily said to
Foni what he was doing was ridiculous. He was very quick to point
out it was me who was being ridiculous (***); but there was a more
potent statement made by Foni and that was, “I am in charge”.
Foni went on to say I (the writer) should never have gone and visited
the fellow he ignored (and inferred I should not have picked him up
either) without asking his (Foni's) permission! “We are the council
he followed, I (Foni) decided what happens!”. Ah! Now we see more
of the real colours of Fairfield Uniting's management exposed; it's
all to do with CONTROL. Do only as I (Foni and councillors) tell you
and don't do anything, anything we have not approved.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I repeat: <i> </i><i>Do
only as I (Foni and councillors) tell you and don't do anything,
anything we have not approved</i>.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">This 'instruction' -
from a church councillor (speaking for the entire church council) –
a person who has openly flaunted Uniting Church in Australia rules
and NSW laws; a person and group (the church council/councillors) who
are openly hostile to individuals who have been part of Fairfield
Uniting for their entire lives and or many decades.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I pose the following
questions to Foni Solofoni – in part due to the importance he
seemed to place on 'agreements of convenience' he had supposedly made
with an individual about transport - but they are questions for all
of Fairfield Uniting's church council, the Fairfield Uniting
congregation, and the entire Uniting Church in Australia.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">If accepting the
challenge of being a Christian is and 'agreement' made to accept
Christ as our Saviour, to follow, and apply, his teachings to our
daily lives and in all we do and say, then why is it we, at Fairfield
Uniting, are in the midst of the crisis we are?</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Did anything said to
me, on the Sunday(s) past, by Cathy, David Tweed (Elder), Rachael and
Foni (church councillor) Solifoni reflect the agreements made in
accepting the 'title/responsibility' of being Christian and
up-holding the principles outlined for a Uniting Church Councillor?</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Is it acceptable for
the Fairfield Uniting Church Council/Councillors to flaunt the laws
of our state and then to heap scorn and blame on another church
member when caught out? </span>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Lambasting,
slandering and bullying individuals is a component part of Fairfield
Uniting's current leadership; are they acceptable traits or required
characteristics and component(s) when accepting Christ as Saviour?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">What I have been
doing in these pages, as I have previously outlined, is diarizing
part of the life of Fairfield Uniting Church as directly applied to
me, my family and a great many others who have fled; as I did for a
short period. In the main it has been done as an historical record
but it has also been very important to me in other ways.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I am not an overtly
angry person: however; the past years of attendance at Fairfield
Uniting have changed me and driven me to depths I would rather not
have had to experience. My anger and rage have grown as each
injustice has been delivered and exposed. It has also grown out of
the shear frustration of having to watch as the leaders of Fairfield
Uniting have purposely dismantled much of the past good, have been
un-truthful, have vilified ministers, have caused splits in the
congregation and families and defections of considerable proportions.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I know part of what
is driving the 'hate' they feel they need to express; my anger is
driven and multiplying with the frustration I feel in not being able
to find a way, for these protagonist of evil, to see the error of
their ways. I feel enormous sadness for them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">My anger has grown
ten fold as I have witnessed the cruel and vindictive behaviour,
displayed at Fairfield Uniting, being left un-challenged/corrected by
the leaders if Uniting Church in Australia's apparent un-willingness
to wade into our difficult situation; for their failure to
demonstrate the moral courage, conviction and commitment their
positions would give them the authority to exercise.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Their failure to
intervene/lead when asked, is one thing; for me, the other is
the/their complete inability/desire or willingness to provide
guidance, a plan, a process or something else to assist in preventing
the continued propagation of sin as exposed in Fairfield Uniting.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Rev. Luney's reply
to a similar statement I put to him was to say, “if only people
would read the new testament”. This seemed, to me, to imply
reading the bible would fix the problems. In part that is correct;
however it requires application, not just reading.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">We, in Fairfield
Uniting, have witnessed Church rules and laws of society broken in
deliberate and calculated ways. Knowing the rules and laws does not
prevent intentional breaches.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">Knowing the bible
has not prevented what has happened at Fairfield Uniting, quite the
reverse.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I reached a point
some time ago in which I decided I would stay at Fairfield Uniting to
confront what I see as evil and that is also why (one reason) I have
documented the events of the past few Sundays. To expose that evil
as a warning, to others, and as a record for the future.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">With the exception
of the sermons over the past weeks, attending Fairfield Uniting for
me (and my wife) is the worst day in our week: there is no joy,
little reverence and absolutely no encouragement to return the next
week. If that is seen as being a church of value then I throw the
following question; if Christ was to return (in person), into
Fairfield Uniting's midst what would he think or do.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I know he is in our
midst but not all hearts and minds are open. Fairfield Uniting is a
test we are all failing and for which, if we are not very careful and
quick to change, we will be held accountable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">I close with the
following: whilst Cathy and Rachael were lambasting me Cathy said, “I
(me) should forgive people not do what I am doing!” In what way
can her attacks and those of Rachael, Foni and Ma'ata Solofoni, David
and Pat Tweed be interpreted as forgiveness. Is being told to, or
forced to, leave the church a display of forgiveness worthy of Elders
and Church Councillors?</span></div>
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“<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">faith can work
without prayer but prayer cannot work without faith”</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times New Roman, serif;">At Fairfield Uniting
faith, prayer coupled with courage, decisive and transparent action
is the only way forward now; the alternative is to descend deeper
into hell!</span></div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-41780899962744372002014-08-12T09:39:00.000+10:002014-08-12T09:39:05.096+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">August
10 2014, another Sunday to remember at F/U. In the light of what
occurred, this post, will continue my previous post's theme
highlighting the contrasts between worship and action. </span>
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<span style="font-size: small;">The
service of communion was conducted by a Rev. Samata Elia and, for his
part, he delivered a very good talk to the children 'attending' and a
good sermon built on the story relating to Jesus's response to his
disciples fear in a storm driven sea. Take heart, have courage, do
not be afraid, we can put our faith and rely on Jesus and in his
words, were some points Rev. Elia made, particularly
appropriate/relevant when seen in the context of our dysfunctional
congregation.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Rev.
Elia expressed a thankfulness we were worshiping as a mixed group. He
also commented on the number of children present. Little did he know
only minutes earlier one member of the congregation had been quite
openly, unjustifiably, castigated by another member arriving for the
service. That the leaders of our church remain openly hostile to
individual members of the congregation and that the children present
were not representative of what we would 'normally' see in
attendance!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Rev.
Elia perceptions (he saw what was in front of him) are quite
understandable. Just as it's possible to perceive a colourful,
healthy looking piece of fruit is sound only to find, as you bite
into it, it is full of worms and entirely inedible. So it is with
Fairfield Uniting: cloaked in a thin skin of respectability; just
below the surface tho' is.....rot!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">As
happened (to me) on the previous Sunday, the Sunday just past, whilst
standing outside of Fairfield Uniting, prior to the commencement of
the morning service, a person (we will call her Cathy for the
purpose) arrived and with no warning (reason or justification)
proceeded to verbally berate me. Some interestingly ridiculous
statements were made; the abusive accusations culminating in me being
told I had allowed the devil to enter my head. In her eyes am I evil
and without religion(?). What brought on that extraordinary
attack/display?</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">Well
$675.00 in the form of a fine was probably at the root of her attack.
Cathy specifically mentioned I was at fault; she asserted I had
“allowed somebody” to be fined. Interesting, ;-( I don't issues
fines nor do I hold a special position of influence which could cause
or prevent an infringement notice from being issued (or not) if it
was warranted.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Before
I expand on the (possible) underlying 'reason' for Cathy's attack let
me say, it is my belief Cathy was deliberately primed (to be used) by
others. The content of her attack, being so wide of reality, and
misplaced, can only be explained thus.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">In
continuing, I am making the assumption the $675.00 Cathy spat out is
the result of the NSW Police issuing, to Fairfield Uniting an
infringement notice relating to the church bus. I say assume because
Cathy did not say as much but, as my earlier post outlined, I was
aware one was in train.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">If
that is the infringement being referred too then Cathy's 'somebody'
has not been fined; it is more likely Fairfield Uniting congregation*
has been fined, as it should have been, if it was found to have
breached the law!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">*As
an aside - (<i>Alternatively, if it is an individual then who I wonder?
' Who' would also indicate the church bus is not actually owned by
the church?????, whilst I am aware of a possible alternative scenario
of ownership and why, it is informed speculation. The possibility of
the alternative raises additional significant church councillor
compliance/trust issues but does not change the thrust of this post,
quite to reverse.</i>)</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">This
is why Cathy's attack on me was unjustified and misdirected: if the
bus is the property of Fairfield Uniting then it is also true
Fairfield Uniting (the congregation) has broken the law
(un-knowingly) as a result of the deliberately planned actions of the
church councillors; one of whom has legal training (who is
professionally required to uphold the law?); one other councillor and
a church member both being heavy vehicle drivers all of whom knew
full well what was happening with the church bus and why and, why
what they were allowing to occur was breaking the law!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">It
is also very safe to say those same individuals have knowingly
operated the church bus, over a long period, for personal use and,
whilst carrying congregational members (including Cathy and her
father), in an un-safe and un-roadworthy vehicle!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">Attempting
to hide those facts and what they may intended for the bus are, of
course, why Cathy was primed to do what she did; church
councillors/members attempting to deflect scrutiny of their past,
present and future pre-determined indefensible behaviour!</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">In
my previous post I talked about being bullied after the morning
service. During that tirade from Rachael I repeatedly asked her to
move away and stop but, she continued until I said, if she did not
stop I would talk with the police; sniggering, Rachael taunted me to
do so. So I did!</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">In
doing so I outlined what had occurred and why. Acting on that
statement/information the police investigated then issued the
infringement notice. And rightly so: Fairfield Uniting is part of
the community it is NOT above the law.</span></div>
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</div>
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<span style="font-size: small;">It
is important to note several points here; one being Church
Councillors, Lesielli (Rachael), Talanoa (Foni) and crew seem to think they have some
level of ordained right to bully, slander and dictate to all and sundry. Secondly, they have clearly used church property for their
own purposes; quite interestingly being captured, some month ago, by
a companies video which has since been published on the web (didn't
see that one coming I'll bet). Additionally it would appear the
Solifonis may have long been angling to 'get cheap possession' of the
church bus for the purpose of self ingratiation. ;-o ?</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">A
further point to be made here, which may be a tad distasteful for the
likes of Cathy and those who either, have chosen to side with, and or
participate with the appalling behaviour of individual church
councillors/members and or of the church council as a collective.
Ask yourself why (without the bus) it is some people have been
regularly picked-up and transported to church whilst another, one in
particular, has been ignored. I know what has been said and
understood by all involved and the 'stories' don't match; not
something new nor unexpected given who and what was involved.</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">Let's
re-cap: Fairfield Uniting church councillors knowingly left the
church bus parked on a public street, for an extended period,
unregistered and in an un-roadworth state. As a direct result of
those actions NSW Police issued and infringement notice – as they
should. That, it would appear, has a $675.00 dollar penalty attached
which, if it is the church's, needs to be paid from the offertory,
gifts given freely by the congregation for the work of the church!
Something which should not go un-challenged or corrected.</span></div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">Add
to those facts the verbal abuse and bullying I (and others) have
experienced at the hands of the church council, councillors and other
members for no other reason than daring to stand up and challenge
councillors actions and yet, Cathy you chose to attack me!</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">Were
Cathy's actions necessary, appropriate, informed, considered or
considerate? A higher power/others can/will answer that question;
what I will say is her actions were/are a reflection of what others,
in the congregation, are equally guilty of supporting and
propagating.</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">I
hope Cathy and others in the Fairfield Uniting congregation see her
actions, for what they represented and, more importantly, what
were/are the driving forces. When they come to understand the sinful
forces at work, within the Fairfield Uniting council/congregation,
maybe then they will also see how Fairfield Uniting, as a church, its
congregation, services, facilities and property have and are being
hijacked.</span></div>
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<br />
</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">Food
for thought for all Fairfield Uniting members, members in association
and other congregational attendees. There are those who appear to
have un-wisely aligned their loyalty, a choice which may prove to be
an issue. However, there exists a more dangerous choice, symptomatic
of Christian congregations; that is to sit on the fence, to not speak
up and or challenge wrong doing or to 'rock the boat'. Those who
choose to sit on the fence, who choose to not challenge the
councillors' wrong doing and to not speak up, have in fact, made a
choice; they have chosen the side of, and to support the wrong
doer(s).</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">I
repeat and add to my closing paragraphs from the previous post;
Fairfield Uniting Church needs prayer: our leaders need prayer, a
severe dose of reflection, counseling and, much more besides >
they need to step down – NOW!</span></div>
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</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">The
Uniting Church in Australia’s leadership should reflect on the
damage Fairfield Uniting represents in human terms and from a
‘corporate image’ point of view.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><br /></span></div>
<br />
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
<span style="font-size: small;">Prayer
is definitely needed; substantive action is also needed and, <u>looooong</u>
overdue!</span></div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-77533748211722297582014-08-04T15:18:00.000+10:002014-08-05T09:20:03.312+10:00<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I am going
to start this post by saying the sermon delivered by Rev. Semisi Kava
was a very good sermon. Bread and fish being feed to the masses
gathered to hear Jesus speak formed the anchor to his sermon. Rev.
Kava made the statement the story was a demonstration, to all, about
looking to what can be achieved in preference to what cannot be done.
The disciples’ protestations, about not having anything to feed
the people with, were more than adequately counted by the actions of
Jesus. A clear indication of taking the small amount of what you do
have, along with a strong faith, to satisfy real needs.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev. Kava
went on to make other very good points, some of which were;
Christians should confront problems not try to ignore them.
Christians should not avoid providing help when needed and, if a need
is seen we (Christians) MUST respond. I emphasize, as Rev. Kava did
as his spoke, the word MUST.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Rev.
Kava’s sermon was a poignant piece of sensible advice delivered to
a congregation mired in sin, hurt, revenge and an overwhelming
desire, of a few, to destroy others.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I
thank(ed) Rev. Kava and against the important backdrop of his sermon
I am now going to outline the remainder and contrast of my Sunday
morning experience at Fairfield Uniting Church. The contrast is
provided by Fairfield Uniting’s leadership and three particular
members! However, before I do that, I must say I left church yesterday feeling unusually buoyant and more at ease than in a long while, why?
My guess is I genuinely know who ‘has my back’.</div>
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<br /></div>
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Prior to
the commencement of the service, standing alone enjoying the
sunshine, I was approached – on her arrival – by a particular
church member, the same member, mentioned as threatening me in the
previous post. The purpose for the approach: well as before it was
to harass and bully. Her foul rhetoric was delivered with the usual
threats of harming me and causing me much trouble and telling me I
have no rights. It included statements about members of my family
brainwashing her children (sic) and that I should stay away from them
and continued, denigrating my children, vehemently stating they were
un-educated trash and that should, they appear, she would put them in
that (indicating/pointing toward a council street bin) rubbish bin.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
You might
be asking yourself were these actions seen; did nobody try to stop
this tirade. Well yes it was watched by other church members and yes
it was eventually stopped by the woman’s husband, who, approached
and said to her leave it, he’s not worth it, adding other
denigrating statements. As we entered the church, the husband, now
at the door of the church, told me I was rubbish and he had no idea
why I even bothered to come to church.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
This is
the contrast I mentioned; that abuse and those accusations were
followed by Rev. Kava’s sermon; both those people listened to the
same sermon and one might reasonably expect an improvement in how I
would be treated after the service. But it is Fairfield Uniting I am
reporting about, the only thing normal here is the abnormal.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
It is
important to point out here ‘the husband’ is a Fairfield Uniting
Church Councilor, one who it is advertised, and claims, to be a
church Elder, but who was never elected – by the congregation –
to that position of ‘respectability’. More about that in another
post ;-)</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Having
listened too and learned from a good sermon, the service concluded
and, we moved to leave. Part of the ritual of departure, as it
probably is in other churches, the congregation files past the
Minister/Elders/Leaders shaking hands in greeting and passing
pleasantries. That may be so for some but not for all at Fairfield
Uniting.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
I shook
Rev. Kava’s hand and thanked him for his sermon. I then offered my
hand to the person standing alongside Rev. Kava, an Elder/Chairman of
the Church Council, it was ignored and he attempted to look away. I
left my hand in place out-stretched and, whilst continuing to ignore
my hand, the Elder then said, “I don’t shake hands or talk to
bloggers”, followed by, “don’t you blog me again” (sic).</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Well
David, this post I dedicate to you. The stated reason for this blog
is to put on the historic record the leadership of Fairfield Uniting
as it currently exists and has existed for some considerable time!
Thank you David for the reason too, the fodder and fuel ;-)</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Outside
now and awaiting to take an elderly member home I am again approached
by the Husband/councillor from the earlier encounter. An interesting
mix of statements and un-truthful comments flowed from him, part of
which was to enquire about whether or not I was going to continue to
pick-up the elderly parishioner I was waiting for. I answered “yes”.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Now the
person we were referring to is the person I mentioned in the previous
posting; the one who had been ignored, by the church leaders, and not
picked up by the church bus. We know something of the reasons why
and I described that situation in the earlier post.</div>
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<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The
response to my answering “yes” (I was going to continue to pick
up the person) the leader then responded with this little gem; “well
if you’re going to continue to do that if you don’t (I guess if I
am away, sick or whatever) then I won’t”. Lovely: another great
example of compassionate Christian leadership. That comment was then
followed with a verbal barrage similar to that which I experienced
before church; I will spare you the details…..</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Toward the
ending of that barrage I was approached and greeted by a person
arriving for a church service, which is conducted by another
denomination, in our church after our service. As we exchanged
greetings it was obvious he had witnessed and heard some or all of
that which had just transpired. As he moved to enter the church he
was greeted by the same person had just berated me who then said to
him – indicating me - “I don’t know why you would bother with
him he is nothing, nothing but rubbish”. Somewhat taken aback the
person returned to me and we talked about what had just happened.
Several others of his church then arrived, we exchanged greetings
and, as my passenger was now ready to leave I drove away with some
interesting thoughts about how to absorb a morning at church like the
one I had just experienced. Abuse followed by a good sermon followed
by abuse and then greetings and conversation (with members of another
church).</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Now this
reflection of last Sunday (yesterday) morning requires some balanced
reporting. There was an incident for which I must take
responsibility.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Church
announcements, such as they are, are delivered in church by the same
Elder mentioned in the ‘passing out’ parade incident.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Announcement
are prolonged and a confusion of preaching, paper shuffling not very
relevant or repeated ‘news’, long gaps/pauses between ‘subjects’
etc. In the morning service, subject to this post, it also included
several questions, to ‘a part of the congregation’, asking does
it get cold in Tonga and how do they cope with our cold? Duh!</div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
During one
of the protracted pauses I asked David to “tell us about the bus”.
His immediate reply, “I do not answer questions of that type here
Paul, in the hall”, (pause)… indignantly, “with that I will
close”. He sat down.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
The
congregational responses (I know of) to my interjection: one person
said, “well at lease we now know how to shut David up; ask him
controversial questions”. Another person asked my wife “was I
trying to cause trouble?” My answer is no: however, and I will not
turn away from the fact the Fairfield Uniting congregation is being
very poorly led and is being misled by the current Church council.
If exposure means causing trouble then that is what I am doing!</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Is what I
am doing right or wrong? (As a person reading this post) your answer
will be based on your personal views/opinions, involvement etc. If
you measure what I am reporting, and recording, against the aims of
the Uniting Church in Australia, Christian ethics and Rev. Kava’s
sermon in the same way I do then, I would hope you would not stand
for and would also speak out about the conduct of the Fairfield
Uniting’s leadership.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In one
final piece of news, (about which for the moment I believe the
leaders do not yet know as I write this post – but they soon will), I have been told, Fairfield Uniting Church has been served an infringement
notice, by the Police, for breaking NSW road rules in relation to our
church’s bus. It’s going to be interesting to see how that
situation – when known - pans-out; more fodder for my next post ;-)</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
In
closing: our church needs prayer: our leaders need prayer, a severe
dose of reflection, counseling and, much more besides.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Fairfield
Uniting is a ‘reflection’ of the wider church’s failings. The
Uniting Church in Australia’s leadership should reflect on the
damage Fairfield Uniting represents in human terms and from a
‘corporate image’ point of view.</div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="western" lang="en-US" style="margin-bottom: 0cm;">
Prayer is
definitely needed; substantive action is also needed and, <u>looooong</u>
overdue!</div>
R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-90224783986456031852014-07-30T13:39:00.000+10:002014-07-30T13:39:16.409+10:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Previously said, “In
my next post I will reveal a human story which will show how the
*sinful behaviour which has brought the bus to the state it is in has
directly impacted on individuals who rely on its availability.”</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
So, in this third
post I will follow through with that which I stated in the previous
post and present a brief story about the personal impact of our bus
not being used for its intended purpose.</div>
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What that story will
highlight is, yet again, of some embarrassment for the entire
congregation. The reason is because it show just how selective our
church leaders are in choosing who can and cannot worship at
Fairfield Uniting. It’s a power thing, who has what ‘rights’
at Fairfield Uniting.</div>
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An additional part
of this post, linked to peoples’ rights’ will also be outlined
and this component of the post will surely raise peoples hackles in
demonstrating just how entrenched are the cultures of bullying,
control, abuse and hypocrisy within portions of Fairfield Uniting’s
congregation.</div>
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Now all of the
points above can be measured against the backdrop of a letter I have
previously referred to in the second post of this blog. The letter
Fairfield Uniting’s Church Councillors used to unjustifiable attack
my wife and who accuse me of “working against us”; “us”
being, of course, the current Fairfield Uniting Church’s Elder and
Church Councillors. The same people who, several times a day see and
watch as the church bus deteriorates in front of them: the very same
individuals who say I disrupt fellowship within our congregation.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Now let’s take
that very last point first (I disrupt fellowship within our
congregation) and detail what happened last Sunday (27July2014)
before and after the morning worship service. On entering the church
I was approached by a congregational member who asked if she could
speak with me after church; I replied “yes”. After the service
on the public footpath in front of the church I was again approached
by the same person who had made the earlier request and, was asked
had I come to “her place” and taken photos of the bus. She went
on to say that her neighbour had seen me and that I had no right to
do what I had done!</div>
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Now let’s take a
closer look at those statements: her neighbour* had told her she had
seen me and *she had; I did/do not deny that fact. I don’t know
the neighbour nor she me so how was the link to me made?
Furthermore, by that Sunday, the photos were already a part of this
blog as featured in the second posting.
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
But there is a more
sinister twist needing to be considered here; there was a very strong
suggestion I had go ‘on to her property’. This point was made
very aggressively several times during the confrontation. As you can
all see ‘the bus’ was on a public road, in full view and
accessible from all sides via public property!
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
The second part of
that comment is that I had “no right” to photograph the bus. And
there, in that part of her statement, you see an example of the
control and bullying to be found in Fairfield Uniting’s Church
congregation. The bus being property belonging to the church of
which I am a member, parked on a public road in a municipal area in
which I have resided for my entire 64 years and yet; I have no right
to be on that road photographing something of which is the property
of the ‘church community’ in which I belong; for almost the same
period of time. What does this say about Fairfield Uniting Church?
Is it a faith based ministry or a sect under the dictatorial control
of a few? It’s looking a lot more like that latter than the
former.
</div>
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But it gets worse.
I have indicated the approach was aggressive and it was: I did not
deny what I had done and have no reason to regret my actions (taking
the photos) and after the person had made her initial pronouncement
she continue to aggressively threaten me (in full view of the
congregation) repeatedly stating I had no right to go to her place
and that I should never go there again. Having made her point I
asked her to step away and when she did not and continued her tirade
I walked away. In doing so I was followed, the tirade and threats
continuing; I again asked her to step away and when she did not I
indicated I should go to the police and crossed the road to break off
the contact.
</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
How many of you
attend church services which conclude with this type of ‘fellowship’?
Is it really me who is ‘disrupting’ the church? What level of
protection and or support did I get from the Elders and other Church
Councillors at the time of the confrontation or subsequently –
NONE! When you know who delivered the tirade you will also know why
not protection or support – for me!</div>
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Those events, of
last Sunday, will have a sequel!</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
Now, to the second
part of this post; a human story behind the un-availability of the
church bus.</div>
<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
As previously stated
the role of the church bus is to ferry those who are in need of
transport to and from church to be able to do so.</div>
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Picture if you will
a church congregational member who is severely disabled. A person
for whom mobility is an extremely difficult and slow process: someone
who should be able to count on being able to use/access a gift given
to his church for the express purpose of transporting people with the
need.</div>
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Add to that picture
several components: one, this is person who, always with the
disability, has attended for many decades. Two, even with the
difficulties the person has, he did, for many years get himself to
and from church but, due to changing circumstances involving distance
this same person turned to using the amenity the church bus provided.
That later arrangement has been in place now for probably over ten
years. But it stopped, why? Well in part because of what you all
now know; Fairfield Uniting’s bus is parked, un-registered and
rotting on a public road.</div>
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Now the person I
have outlined is NOT the only person who was being transported
directly prior to the bus ‘becoming un-available’. His absence
was not un-noticed and as one would expect the Elders and Church
councillors would be right on top of a situation like this and
arrange alternative transport? You know, go and pick the person up
themselves and or announce or ask other congregational members if
they could do so. That’s what you would expect: except as
situations like this are under the CONTROL of Fairfield Uniting’s
Elders and councillors it’s not what happens. But to be fair he
did get mentioned, as not always being able to ‘attend’, in
prayers, uttered by an Elder. Was he sick, choosing not come, or had
he other commitments (?); some of us wondered.</div>
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After nearly six
weeks I took it upon myself to visit him. Why the time span you
might ask and, a reasonable question it is. We do have Elders in
which we should be able to trust, we did have a minister who could
well have been following through. But in the main, being honest,
with the disquiet rife in a congregation did we want to lift the lid
off and expose yet another example of the dysfunctional nature of
Fairfield Uniting Church. That is, of course, is what has happened;
our dysfunction is once again exposed and, it’s a disturbingly
nasty thing which has been exposed!</div>
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In my visitation I
was told the reason the person was not attending was because the bus
had (told to them by a church councillor**) ‘broken down, was not
working’ and that when it was fixed (at the end of the month) he
would again be picked-up. Well we now know ‘not working’ is
another way of saying un-registered and ‘end of the month’ was
probably very ‘optimistic’ to say the least.</div>
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But, as with
everything to do with Fairfield Uniting nothing is without a twist
and, here is the twist in this story. Other congregational members,
who were being transported up to the point the bus became
un-available, broken down, not working and un-registered continue to
be picked-up in the private cars of none other than church
councillors! Oh dear! Why has one person only, who with the
terrible infliction he lives with and who has demonstrated, through
his perseverance and effort, his enormous depth of faith, been so
appallingly treated by our church, Fairfield Uniting? And this is
not the first time.</div>
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The fellow I have
just talked about can barely walk but, given the opportunity, took it
and came to church last week, transported in a private car. He made
the effort, but many long term congregational members have given up
and walked away from our congregation because of its management, our
Elders and Church Councillors; the same people who accuse me of
disrupting the fellowship of Fairfield Uniting.</div>
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There is yet another
twist – after all it is Fairfield Uniting’s Elders and Church
Councillors who have now been found ‘wanting’ in this case of
‘discrimination’. In the church hall, after the morning service,
my wife was approached – by a **church councillor - about the fact
the ‘person’ had been picked-up and asked why it had been done.
She answered and, he continued with the question, was the arrangement
going to continue. When he was told it would he was clearly
‘un-happy’; why, you might ask? The answer, of course, lays
embedded not in the phrase ‘service to others’ but in the phrase
‘WE MUST CONTROL’.
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What more do I need
to say to convince the Uniting Church in Australia’s hierarchy as
to why I have asked for their help only to watched as they just pass
by?</div>
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I forewarned in my
opening post, in the next post, I would reveal how the leaders of
Fairfield Uniting had attacked my family and me. At the core of the
leaders’ attacks is a distorted belief. To quote from their letter
– “Unfortunately, we feel that you have been working against us,
along with your wife (named) and your son (named), causing division
within our congregation and we are trouble by this.”</div>
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Leaving me aside at
the moment, that written attack on my wife and son is completely
without basis. In particular, in relation to my wife, it was an
untruthfully cruel personal attack on a person who has been a
faithful and gracious part of the Fairfield Uniting congregation for
many decades in many roles including teaching Sunday school. That
is, until Sunday school was no longer a component of our church due
to its destruction, with whole families, including those with young
children and our grandchildren having left as a direct response to
our leaderships’ (the Church Council) failings and actions!</div>
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It was an
unjustified attack delivered for the sole purpose of hurting a
person. In that respect it was successful and it brings not only
shame to Fairfield Uniting’s Elders/Leaders but to all those who
attend Fairfield Uniting and those leaders in the higher tiers of the
Uniting Church who have failed to step in and support the
rectification of that injustice. The un-truthful attack was
delivered via a letter signed by EVERY MEMBER OF THE FAIRFIELD
UNITING CHURCH COUNCIL including those who are “ELDERS”. Why you
may be asking would Elders and Church Councillors stoop to this
level; the answer(s) lay in knowing some simple facts.</div>
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In my previous post
I alluded to the ‘autocratic/dictatorial’ leadership of Fairfield
Uniting. It is a leadership which has – over time – crushed any
person who attempted to object or challenge Elders/Church Councillor
decisions or actions. Actions which are sinful, many and varied:
actions which have contributed to an ‘eye-opening turn-over’ of
ministers which should have, on its own, drawn more substantial
attention from the Uniting Church hierarchy.</div>
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However there came a
point where I decided enough was enough and yes I have challenged the
Elders/Church Councillors. That is why the Church Council chose to
attack: it’s a ‘strange’ form of pastoral care we have in
Fairfield Uniting; some would be see it as bullying. It is the tool
used and why many, long term members, and others, including
ministers, have been forced out of (to leave) our congregation.
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That said, this
posting is also going to highlight the leadership’s poor management
of church resources and assets (just one example) and in doing so
reveal, in a significant manner, why I have stood my ground and draw
the fire I do.</div>
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Below you will see
several photos taken (only days ago) of ‘our’ church bus. The
vehicle was purchased – new – in 1983, with money from a bequest
(if I recall correctly), and for many years was used, on Sundays, to
ferry congregational members, for reasons of need, to and from church
and, on appropriate church outings. The bus has not been used for
several weeks now; why? Well, truth is, as a congregation, we don’t
know: however what I do know is the bus fell out of registration
months ago!</div>
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Church members have
not been told why, nor has there been any announcement/indication
(forthcoming) as to the fate of the vehicle. Suffice to say however
it is not a surprise to me; it is indicative, just another example,
of the appalling handling of church affairs, we have been forced to
accept and have ‘become used too’, at Fairfield Uniting.</div>
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Additionally, I am
personally aware of the fact, even when the bus was still in use, it
was in a state, had it been spotted by the authorities, which would
have attracted defect notices. That point alone, given the vehicle
is <u>driven </u>by a church councillor, says volumes about the
handling of Fairfield Uniting’s affairs and the failure of our
Church Councillors to ensure the safety of those being transported.</div>
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So where is the
vehicle now and in what condition? Well, it’s an un-registered
heavy vehicle parked on a public road. It’s not, and has not, been
garaged/housed on church property for years (despite that being a
requirement). It is, as the photos show, in a filthy state with
rubbish stored in the rear of the vehicle and the drivers’ floor
piled with trash and, dangerously, a loose fire extinguisher! It has
one (inside rear) tyre fully deflated and other, quite visible,
defect attracting damage. THE BUS WOULD NOT PASS A ROAD WORTHINESS
INSPECTION and, the appropriate government authorities have been
informed!</div>
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OUR CHURCH BUS HAS
BEEN DELIBERATELY ALLOWED, BY OUR CHURCH COUNCILLORS, TO ROT ON A
PUBLIC STREET WITHIN THE DAILY EYESHOT OF TWO FAIRFIELD UNITING
CHURCH COUNCILLORS!*; WHY?
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In its sign written
state the Fairfield Uniting Church bus stands as a clear beacon, on a
public road, next to a frequently used public park, as an
advertisement of how appalling disrespectful our church is of gifts
given in good faith for a purpose and the mission of the church.</div>
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The bus stands in a
public place, as an advertisement to the world, of what Fairfield
Uniting Church stands for; at the same time it is a reflection on the
‘brand’ which is The Uniting Church in Australia!</div>
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That this gift, a
vehicle and church asset has been allowed to degenerate to this level
of disrepair is an appalling disgrace which MUST be solely borne by
Fairfield Uniting Church Councillors. This single example of
careless disregard, by the church leaders, for the Fairfield Uniting
congregation’s safety, assets, for the work, mission, integrity and
reputation of Fairfield Uniting church and the wider Uniting Church
in Australia is a disgrace which MUST NOT BE ALLOWED TO CONTINUE.</div>
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In my next post I
will reveal a human story which will show how the *sinful behaviour
which has brought the bus to the state it is in has directly impacted
on individuals who rely on its availability.</div>
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R. Paul Waddingtonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10758381342435343163noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6867868906524561111.post-244593817134625542014-07-18T11:11:00.000+10:002014-07-18T11:11:39.740+10:00<div class="western" style="margin-bottom: 0.28cm;">
I open this
blog/conversation/vent with an outline of the primary role of the
blog, which is, to place on the public record something of the horror
Fairfield Uniting Church has become. I am doing it now, in this
manner, as a last resort; as the ‘pursuit by conventional means’
has proven it not possible to adequately address critical issues.</div>
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Importantly, it is
to place on the public record an historical/time link to the current
leaders of Fairfield Uniting and the wider Uniting Church in
Australia. Doing so will ensure the actions of those leaders, (who
are responsible), will not, in the future, be apportioned to other
than those directly involved and those, who may continue to allow the
practices of the current Fairfield Uniting leadership to continue
without change, apology and or restitution. It will also prevent
those same leaders distancing themselves from the truth and or to
attempt to change or distort the facts.</div>
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Of greater
importance though is to make an example of Fairfield Uniting: a
warning to other (Uniting) Churches, leaders and congregations; an
example of how a congregation should not function!</div>
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As part of the ‘make
an example of them approach’ my following posts will publish
specific details of discussions, meetings and letters relating to the
issues of Fairfield Uniting. There is no reason why anything
relating to what has happened, to me, my family and close friends
should be considered confidential. As embarrassing as it may be, for
me/us, it surely will be of more embarrassment to our leaders and
those of our community who have supported our church in complete
ignorance of the sinful undertone within. It is necessary to expose
Fairfield Uniting to the disinfection exposure provides.</div>
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Hopefully other
church leaders and Presbyteries - with issues similar to Fairfield
Uniting – may look at what will be revealed herein and, having done
so, will take a looong hard look at what damage they may be causing
to individual congregational members, their congregation and the
Uniting Church in general.</div>
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If it is the mission
of a Uniting Church congregation to follow the teachings of Christ,
support their members and congregations and to reach out to the
community radiating Christian behaviour then Fairfield Uniting is NOT
the example to follow.
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A visitor or casual
observer, walking in to worship at Fairfield Uniting, will not notice
the hostile attitudes in play. Whilst projecting a congenial
outwards persona (and community involvement) it would take only a
short period of time for an astute observer to uncover some very
disappointing truths. If Fairfield Uniting ‘s ‘personality
profile’ fits, in any way, your congregation then please take
immediate steps to restore your church to one of faith, love, support
and outreach else you will go the route of Fairfield Uniting.</div>
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At the core of my
concern is a non-inclusive church: a church without a spiritual
heart, a church with an autocratic leadership whose ‘pastoral care
skills’ border on brutal. Over time, if you participate/follow my
‘conversation’ you will learn more about why that is so.</div>
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That said there is
one additional point I am going to make here which goes, some way, to
explaining how Fairfield Uniting ‘was allowed’ to descend to the
level of sinful decay it has. It has a lot to do with people ‘not
wanting to cause waves’: reasonable to a point but wrong if it
means bad practices are ignored, go un-challenged or are allowed to
propagate, to the degree they ultimately impact detrimentally on
individuals and the life and witness of the church. Locally that is
bad enough; however, it is made worse when those ‘higher in the
church’, for reasons best known to themselves, choose to ‘pass
by’, and not help when asked to do so.</div>
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This is precisely
what has happened and it has shaken my faith to its core. Simply
put, I can accept Fairfield Uniting’s problems are ‘self
generated’ and there is some considerable history but when
Presbytery, Synod and The Assembly are asked to help and don’t,
won’t or do not know how to, what hope do individuals in a
congregation have, whilst being bullied, to bring things back on
track?</div>
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Let me give one
example of why I have made the statement I just have. Asking for help
I wrote, simultaneously, to the leaders of the top three tiers of The
Uniting Church of Australia. Two of those leaders have not responded
(even months later) not even to acknowledge the receipt of my letter.
One leader did respond but did so on the basis he believed “the
matter is being dealt with by…..”, continuing with “it is not
one in which the ….. should become involved”. Really – let me
think, think…..ing, think….ing ;-) what was that road to Jericho
story about…..?</div>
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So from this
‘beaten-up and damaged travellers’ point of view, I can only
conclude I/we must wait until a ‘good Samaritan’ appears ;-) or,
alternatively, a real leader can be found within the Uniting Church
in Australia who has conviction, the space in their heart and
schedule, who is prepared to step on to a very ugly plate, hold their
ground and, help and guide/lead a congregation which is failing in
its primary mission.</div>
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In closing (this
post): the ‘problem that is Fairfield Uniting’ has for a long
time been an ‘invisible’ problem of The Uniting Church in
Australia. It has been wrongly believed, by those who should know
better, Fairfield Uniting could be dealt with behind closed doors.
Flawed thinking which has empowered and facilitated the consolidation
of dictatorial rule within the congregation. Flawed thinking which
has meant many have been very deeply hurt and have walked away from
the church.</div>
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Fairfield Uniting
must change: in the absence of appropriate leadership and support
from the Uniting Church hierarchy or a ‘Samaritan’ this public
record may or may not provide, “through exposure to sunlight”,
what I am seeking but, what it will do, for the historic record, is
correctly apportion ‘the credit’ to those responsible.</div>
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R. P. Waddington.</div>
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