August 17 2014, yet
another Sunday to remember at Fairfield Uniting. For the wrong
reasons though and, yet again, it is the contrasts which highlight
the conflicting tragedy Fairfield Uniting has become.
The
worship service - again - experienced a 'technical hitch' preventing
the use of both projector
and video
screen;
the 'plan b', hand held hymn books with
canned
music. A great example of why, sometimes, with a slice of
forethought what is seen as a step forward was little more than an
un-necessary indulgence and a waste of a valuable resource.
In
contrast, Rev. Kava's sermon “faith can work without prayer but
prayer cannot work without faith” was delivered with a passion and
a deep sense of spirituality and personal conviction. It was a
pointed,
relevant sermon – as have others he has given - and contained
valuable advice and guidance for us all. Rev. Kava spoke from the
heart and, in doing so left no doubt in my mind he was speaking
wisely, to me and the congregation, whilst at the same time
challenging us all to adhere, follow and apply Christian principles
to all we do and say.
As this blog is
about recording the personal experiences endured by some in Fairfield
Uniting for the express purpose of ensuring the truth is not wall
papered over, distorted or changed. Bearing the last sentence of the
previous paragraph in mind, I'll continue in highlighting the
contrasts and tragedy Fairfield Uniting has become.
As
happened (to me) on the previous Sunday [and the one before that ;-)
etc.....], the Sunday just past, whilst standing outside of Fairfield
Uniting, prior to the commencement of the morning service, I was once
again verbally abused by two women arriving for the morning service.
For a brief period it was a joint effort: two on one. If it wasn't so
serious you may be excused if you were thinking – what I write
about - is a rehearsal for a tragic opera. But seriously speaking
both these people revealed much about themselves and what I refer to
as the driving force: which is in the main a selfish self interest
driven by a belief right is on their side. It goes without saying
neither of these women stop to
consider, even for a split second, about what might be so wrong in
unjustly heaping abuse on a person, in this way, at church (or any
time for that matter). These episodes define the nature of the beast
we are dealing at Fairfield
Uniting;
hopefully, at some point, those two and all who 'sit
on the fence'
watching will, with God's help, one day realize, just how
'wrong/unjust' they have been.
A
look at some of the comments: Cathy's opening shot was about the
previous post stating I should have talked with her directly not
“through the blog”. A reasonable comment: except she provided no
invitation or opportunity to explain myself when she first attacked
me. Had Cathy asked me to explain my actions I would have been happy
to do so. I did point out on this occasion she needed to know the
full story, and that may change her perspective, but clearly that was
not going to happen.
A second part of
Cathy's “you should have talked to me directly” approach was to
tell me I should have the courage of my convictions. Smiling (which
she interjected offended her) as I replied “it is standing up for
my convictions and what is right I am being castigated for”. Cathy
followed with another gem stating, as I have indicated in the
previous post, “I (Cathy) have not been coached”. Really. Cathy
can that be true?*
I asked Cathy a
question; “did she feel what she was doing was what Jesus would do
or want done?”. Her reply was to say the reason she came to church
was to do good. I replied that was, in part, what I want as well.
To that Cathy replied, “*then why did you leave the church for four
years”.
*This is a
significant comment because not only is it un-true the
mis-information has as its source the Solifoni's. That one comment,
Cathy, demonstrates the priming I have previously referred too. Let
alone it's irrelevance, a very large part of the on-going issues at
Fairfield Uniting are fueled by seriously distorted facts farmed out
deliberately, by a small band, for no other reason than to cause
trouble and division.....
As I said in my
previous post, Cathy's original attack was because she directly
blamse me for the police for issuing an infringement notice relating
to the 'church bus'. Interestingly on this occasion Cathy revealed
her son was a policeman. So here we have something to consider; is
Cathy saying what I did, in responding to Rachael's “go to the
police taunt”, was wrong because in reporting what Rachael had said
and done, in bullying me, I had drawn police attention to an illegal
act. Is Cathy actually saying I should not report an illegal act?
Would that be the position taken by her son (a policeman) if he were
a member of Fairfield Uniting?
Which
ever way you look at Cathy's comments they raise questions. If the
Fairfield
Uniting
congregation, as it appears it had, broken the law, as a result of
its representatives – the church councillors - actions then it does
appear Cathy is OK with the fact a breach of the law should be
covered-up and or ignored. Interesting stance for a policeman to
consider.....? Does this line of thinking, which is also the church
councillors stance ring any bells about the past actions – of
Churchs' -
being aired in the press. Cannot others see this type of thinking
and action is NOT what Fairfield
Uniting,
nor any other church, should be engaged in or encourage!
But
what of Rachael's involvement in the latest proceeding? Well more of
the same it can be said; Rachael's last spit was full of her usual
vehement, slanderous comments relating to me and my family. But
there was a more revealing moment I must air. I stole an
opportunity, in
the tirade,
to ask Rachael,
as I had done Cathy, did she think what she was doing was what Jesus
would want. Whilst Cathy dodged the answer, Rachael was more
forthcoming, she replied, “Jesus has nothing to do with this”!
That
folks says it all: finally Rachael has put in words
that which is the root of the problems in Fairfield
Uniting
- “Jesus has nothing to do with this”!
Jesus
is NOT a part of the 'processes' which are leading Fairfield
Uniting
and there was/is no way Rachael is/was going to let Jesus 'rain on
her parade'. She continued
her tirade demanding I leave and go home. Rachael repeated that
demand clearly not wanting me to go into church. To this I angrily
replied you go into church and ask Rev. Kava to come and tell me to
go home.
That was not going
to happen but I was so incensed with Rachael, like a petulant child I
walked into church (which had commenced), walked to the front of the
church and told Rev. Kava, Rachael had told me to leave.
I ask this question:
if I am such a bad person, full of evil and evil intent as Foni and
Rachael Solofoni and, as it does appear, other congregational members
do, is not church exactly where I should be? Should each of the
Elders and Church Councillors be moving heaven and earth to expose me
to the teachings of Jesus to rid me of the evil they (appear) to see?
Have David and Pat Tweed, Foni and Ma'ata Solifoni been 'appointed'
as councillors for the purpose of doing God's work and in doing so
use their posts of responsibilities, as Elders and Church
Councillors, to throw me out of a church which I have been a part of
for sixty plus years with no counseling, just or defined reason?
Who in the Uniting
Church in Australia, or any other church, is equipped, or courageous
enough, to answer that last question?
More importantly
though, who in the Uniting church in Australia has the calling and
commitment to step up to the plate and do, at Fairfield Uniting, what
has been necessary for a very, very, very long time.
As
they say,
but wait there's more:
At the church door, after the morning service, I asked our Church
Council Chairman (Elder), Mr. D. Tweed if it were possible the fellow
I had been bringing to church could be taken home in the 'new' church
bus. My approach was not welcomed, but replied
“we'll do what ever we need to do” and in doing so re-directed
the question to Foni Solofoni who promptly replied “no”. In the
ensuing exchange our erstwhile Chairman/Elder walked off not wanting
to pursue the rejection (leadership?).
Now the person this
is about I have previously outlined but I will remind the reader(s)
he is a severely disabled church member who has, until 'recently'
being ignored by the current church leaders/councillors, been
attending F/U and for thirty years+ has made an enormous effort to
attend despite his disability. For a great period of that time he has
been assisted with access to the church bus – that is, until the
'recent' management**.
To return though to
councillor Foni Solofoni: his rejection of my 'request' was, of
course, and I am constantly told so, my fault (all of Fairfield
Uniting's 'problems' are caused by me). 'Leader' Foni Solofoni was
quick to remind me of a hostile question he asked me only one week
earlier. The question was, “was I going to continue to pick-up the
church member? My answer simple was “yes”. Foni Solofoni's
question and my answer were part of the exchange outlined in an
earlier post; the same one in which Foni said to another person, from
a different congregation, I was a waste, rubbish etc.
It is important to
note I knew the 'church bus' was an un-registered vehicle and would
not be able to pick-up any person. I was not aware of, nor did Foni
Solofoni, for his convenience it now appears, impart any knowledge
about the fact he would have other transport available next
week/soon; why was that you may ask?
Foni Solofoni pushed
his argument in a numbers of ways, basing his argument (with his
son's support) stating I had said I would pick-up the person and
therefore he had no reason nor obligation to do so. He is
effectively refusing (which he denies) to use church property, for
the purpose it is for, to transport people to and from church, who he
feels would be inconvenient to him! Why do I say that with such
certainty?
Well the answer is;
because Foni flatly refused to take the fellow home in the 'new bus';
that is a refusal of kindness by a 'church leader'. However, bearing
in mind why the bus exists, I pressed Foni Solifoni about picking up
the fellow next week. It took several attempts but Foni,
begrudgingly, agreed to do so, but with a caveat? That caveat was,
if it is raining “I will not pick him up”. Interesting? So I
asked why and the answer was if he slipped over he would sue
the church.
Over thirty years of
making the difficult effort to attend church and a church councillors
main concern is being 'sued'. Goodness gracious me have you ever
heard anything so pitifully ridiculous? Possible yes, plausible no.
It was just another excuse among many, proffered as a reason to cover
what amounts to being inconvenient effort to Foni & Co. Picking
this fellow up for church is a work load and an effort beyond what
Foni (a church councillor) wants to perform and that is the real
reason he fabricates agreements to leave somebody behind.
Another example of
how Jesus is left out of Fairfield Uniting's 'management'!
I must admit at this
point in time I had had the proverbial 'gut full' and angrily said to
Foni what he was doing was ridiculous. He was very quick to point
out it was me who was being ridiculous (***); but there was a more
potent statement made by Foni and that was, “I am in charge”.
Foni went on to say I (the writer) should never have gone and visited
the fellow he ignored (and inferred I should not have picked him up
either) without asking his (Foni's) permission! “We are the council
he followed, I (Foni) decided what happens!”. Ah! Now we see more
of the real colours of Fairfield Uniting's management exposed; it's
all to do with CONTROL. Do only as I (Foni and councillors) tell you
and don't do anything, anything we have not approved.
I repeat: Do
only as I (Foni and councillors) tell you and don't do anything,
anything we have not approved.
This 'instruction' -
from a church councillor (speaking for the entire church council) –
a person who has openly flaunted Uniting Church in Australia rules
and NSW laws; a person and group (the church council/councillors) who
are openly hostile to individuals who have been part of Fairfield
Uniting for their entire lives and or many decades.
I pose the following
questions to Foni Solofoni – in part due to the importance he
seemed to place on 'agreements of convenience' he had supposedly made
with an individual about transport - but they are questions for all
of Fairfield Uniting's church council, the Fairfield Uniting
congregation, and the entire Uniting Church in Australia.
If accepting the
challenge of being a Christian is and 'agreement' made to accept
Christ as our Saviour, to follow, and apply, his teachings to our
daily lives and in all we do and say, then why is it we, at Fairfield
Uniting, are in the midst of the crisis we are?
Did anything said to
me, on the Sunday(s) past, by Cathy, David Tweed (Elder), Rachael and
Foni (church councillor) Solifoni reflect the agreements made in
accepting the 'title/responsibility' of being Christian and
up-holding the principles outlined for a Uniting Church Councillor?
Is it acceptable for
the Fairfield Uniting Church Council/Councillors to flaunt the laws
of our state and then to heap scorn and blame on another church
member when caught out?
Lambasting,
slandering and bullying individuals is a component part of Fairfield
Uniting's current leadership; are they acceptable traits or required
characteristics and component(s) when accepting Christ as Saviour?
What I have been
doing in these pages, as I have previously outlined, is diarizing
part of the life of Fairfield Uniting Church as directly applied to
me, my family and a great many others who have fled; as I did for a
short period. In the main it has been done as an historical record
but it has also been very important to me in other ways.
I am not an overtly
angry person: however; the past years of attendance at Fairfield
Uniting have changed me and driven me to depths I would rather not
have had to experience. My anger and rage have grown as each
injustice has been delivered and exposed. It has also grown out of
the shear frustration of having to watch as the leaders of Fairfield
Uniting have purposely dismantled much of the past good, have been
un-truthful, have vilified ministers, have caused splits in the
congregation and families and defections of considerable proportions.
I know part of what
is driving the 'hate' they feel they need to express; my anger is
driven and multiplying with the frustration I feel in not being able
to find a way, for these protagonist of evil, to see the error of
their ways. I feel enormous sadness for them.
My anger has grown
ten fold as I have witnessed the cruel and vindictive behaviour,
displayed at Fairfield Uniting, being left un-challenged/corrected by
the leaders if Uniting Church in Australia's apparent un-willingness
to wade into our difficult situation; for their failure to
demonstrate the moral courage, conviction and commitment their
positions would give them the authority to exercise.
Their failure to
intervene/lead when asked, is one thing; for me, the other is
the/their complete inability/desire or willingness to provide
guidance, a plan, a process or something else to assist in preventing
the continued propagation of sin as exposed in Fairfield Uniting.
Rev. Luney's reply
to a similar statement I put to him was to say, “if only people
would read the new testament”. This seemed, to me, to imply
reading the bible would fix the problems. In part that is correct;
however it requires application, not just reading.
We, in Fairfield
Uniting, have witnessed Church rules and laws of society broken in
deliberate and calculated ways. Knowing the rules and laws does not
prevent intentional breaches.
Knowing the bible
has not prevented what has happened at Fairfield Uniting, quite the
reverse.
I reached a point
some time ago in which I decided I would stay at Fairfield Uniting to
confront what I see as evil and that is also why (one reason) I have
documented the events of the past few Sundays. To expose that evil
as a warning, to others, and as a record for the future.
With the exception
of the sermons over the past weeks, attending Fairfield Uniting for
me (and my wife) is the worst day in our week: there is no joy,
little reverence and absolutely no encouragement to return the next
week. If that is seen as being a church of value then I throw the
following question; if Christ was to return (in person), into
Fairfield Uniting's midst what would he think or do.
I know he is in our
midst but not all hearts and minds are open. Fairfield Uniting is a
test we are all failing and for which, if we are not very careful and
quick to change, we will be held accountable.
I close with the
following: whilst Cathy and Rachael were lambasting me Cathy said, “I
(me) should forgive people not do what I am doing!” In what way
can her attacks and those of Rachael, Foni and Ma'ata Solofoni, David
and Pat Tweed be interpreted as forgiveness. Is being told to, or
forced to, leave the church a display of forgiveness worthy of Elders
and Church Councillors?
“faith can work
without prayer but prayer cannot work without faith”
At Fairfield Uniting
faith, prayer coupled with courage, decisive and transparent action
is the only way forward now; the alternative is to descend deeper
into hell!